Attending Get-Together for Homosexual Couple

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You don’t know what percentage it is I think. But how is it you know it is some, whatever that means? Have you performed some study of effeminate behavior as correlated to homosexual acts?
 
I know at least one man who seems a bit of a dandy. He is married with kids. I don’t have any reason to suspect he is homosexual so I assume he isn’t. But I’d not know if he was. Plenty of people live secret lives. Actually we probably all do to some extent.
 
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If that is how you show love, that is your prerogative. I choose another way:

If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal.

And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing.

If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.
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In his place, would you consider an act that admonishes you to be automatically uncharitable?
It does depend on how you believe the hosts are going to take your absence, though, yes. The father, being a close friend, is in the situation of saying, “John, you know what I think about this. I can come because you are one of my best and oldest friends, I’m certainly willing to be friends with Alan, I like him and have no problem with him as a person, but in spite of what you think it says about what I understand about you two as persons, I cannot endorse the idea that two men can marry. You two, you are OK. This idea of men marrying? Wrong. So do you want me to come or do you want me to be absent?”
The OP, however, is a son of a very good friend. Sons miss the social events thrown by their parents friends all of the time. It happens, it is not a glaring snub or anything.
 
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No how do you know it is some rather than many? You claimed to know the percentage. How do you know that percentage?
 
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But I’d not know if he was. Plenty of people live secret lives. Actually we probably all do to some extent.
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My dad’s former boss, long ago, was a homosexual. He hid it for years and had a wife and several children…
 
People suspected for years. He eventually came out and started a downward spiral of drugs, alcohol, and gay bars. It was a huge embarrassment for his family. Him and his wife never divorced and he died in his 50’s from a heart attack
 
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If that same neighbor were a gay man, I would have to assess the situation first. If the man is overly effeminate, with an over exaggerated lisp, really flaunting his lifestyle, then there is no way I’m inviting him over for a picnic for fear of scandal.
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He’d probably be glad that you didn’t invite him - or he might want to get to know you and talk with you about Christianity. I really feel sorry for folks who make these exclusionary statements. Would you let him pull you out of your house if it were on fire?
 
For real. This is because he doesn’t want to create scandals not because of shunning people. Why is everyone conflating the two, it is not right.
 
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This! Hopefully, if the issue actually came up directly, they would understand that you have to live by the tenants of your faith. Just like you’d not eat meat if they had a party on a Friday during Lent. It’s not personally against them, it’s you following your faith.

This is a harmless situation unless someone decides to make an issue of it. No one is in any way damaged by one person not attending one party. If people choose to blow it out of proportion, that’s on them. I know that some people tend to blow things out of proportion.

They don’t even have to know why the OP doesn’t attend.

I think you did a wise thing by choosing to discuss it with your priest and get counsel.
 
I don’t know why but I really like doing the opposite of what people want me to do, so I guess I wouldn’t go. O well.
 
Maybe for the boat thread, but that doesn’t really change anything.
 
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