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Phemie
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Having grown up in a small village with a school and a church, I knew nothing about the canonical rules on a pastor’s responsibility: we just went to the local school and church. When I got married I was still living in that community so that wasn’t a problem, but marriage made me a military dependent with all the moves that entailed.It’s a simple matter to get permission from your local Pastor.
It helps him know how he’s not meeting the needs of all his parishioners.
This may help countless other neighbors of yours.
Win-win-win situation that way.
When our first child was born it never occurred to me that I would need the Padre’s permission to take my child back home for baptism. Dad called the pastor in village church, made arrangements and he baptized DD when we went home, no questions asked, no mention that we needed our pastor’s permission. Same with our second child. We lived too far away when the third child was born so he was baptized on the military base.
As a military family our parish was the military chapel on base, whether or not we lived on Base. In reality those who didn’t live in on-Base housing usually joined their territorial parish and the children received sacraments in those parishes or in the parish where they went to school. Never was I asked for my pastor’s permission for my children to make their First Communion.
It was only when I had been working as a parish secretary for a few years that I happened to see a note in the baptismal register of one of the parishes I was serving. The baptism was entered with a comment that the baby having been baptized at St. Anne de Beaupré “without permission”. Why the baptism was noted in this register on hearsay I don’t know but I asked the pastor about the ‘without permission’ and he explained.
Until that time I had seen young families do exactly what I had done in their shoes: brought their children ‘home’ to be baptized. We required proof of preparation but never did we ask for their pastor’s permission. From then on when we prepared someone for a baptism that we knew was going to be celebrated in another parish (not rare with our transient population) I always made sure that the letter telling the other parish that the parents had been prepared also included a mention of the pastor giving his permission for the baptism to take place in another parish and if someone called to ask about coming home to have their child baptized I asked them to bring a letter from their pastor with them. All this to say that I haven’t met too many priests who paid much attention to this particular rule.