Bad behavior when left with Dad

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I can understand that. But looking at another angle, if the father isn’t being their emotionally or as a disciplinarian, I think that can cause this sort of behavior too. Again, I’m not an expert, but I think that has always been common knowledge. If a parent acts lenient and doesn’t punish or address the kids at the moment when they need to be, they disrespect the parent.
 
Speaking as a former little girl, I lived to please my daddy.
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If a parent acts lenient and doesn’t punish or address the kids at the moment when they need to be, they disrespect the parent.
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Speaking as a parent, you don’t need to come down on kids every single time (in fact, we’re counseled to choose our battles). But when you do decide to drop the hammer, you need a solid plan, and you need follow through.
 
Xantippe said:
Speaking as a parent, you don’t need to come down on kids every single time (in fact, we’re counseled to choose our battles). But when you do decide to drop the hammer, you need a solid plan, and you need follow through.
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Absolutely. I don’t know if there’s enough time in the day to go into every single detail of every single scenario, and especially only going by the info I got. I suspect we both agree. Though what I read was that the father wasn’t even being a disciplinarian at all. There should be a balanced worked out between the parents.
 
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I suspect we both agree. Though what I read was that the father wasn’t even being a disciplinarian at all.
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I think we do agree a fair bit.

I see him being unkind…but also not having good follow through on behavior.
 
I agree, but I wasn’t talking neurodiverse either. In my world, I was talking atypical, and I’ve seen a lot in 13 years. Tons. Family and child or combo issues. I volunteer in this area.
 
My son is discerning the priesthood. Trust me, the bar is pretty darn high in our household, and reinforced by DS.

God bless.
 
Just a counter example. The girl at school who (call it what you want) drools over my son has a dad who rules with an iron fist. He sees her as a get out of college tuition free card. She has rebelled so much in school and is really immature for her age. Constant outbursts in the class my son is in and in lunch.

So, here’s a dynamic where she is not pleasing her dad (or mom) by being called in guidance at least once a month.
 
Stupid question. I am also a mandated reporter. Why is urinating somewhat randomly a huge red flag. Did I miss that chapter?
 
Domer90 said:
My son is discerning the priesthood. Trust me, the bar is pretty darn high in our household, and reinforced by DS.

God bless.
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Domer with all respect , your son is a young teenager. And from other threads, learning how to negotiate social interactions atm. Typical teenage issue.
At this stage, teen life and it’s challenges are going to hit hard. That’s normal development during puberty. So lift that bar higher and don’t allow any taking the Lord’s name in vain.

What does the acronym DS stand for?

And may I suggest praying for and speaking kind words about this girl. You are even speaking uncharitably about her father. Charity is an example we pass on to our children.
Lift that bar!
Domer90 said:
Just a counter example. The girl at school who (call it what you want) drools over my son has a dad who rules with an iron fist. He sees her as a get out of college tuition free card. She has rebelled so much in school and is really immature for her age. Constant outbursts in the class my son is in and in lunch.

So, here’s a dynamic where she is not pleasing her dad (or mom) by being called in guidance at least once a month.
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Oh no, it’s not done in our house. DS means dear son, and he is extremely pious. So much so that he hates when his buddies objectify their classmates.
 
Domer90 said:
Oh no, it’s not done in our house. DS means dear son, and he is extremely pious. So much so that he hates when his buddies objectify their classmates.
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You know, let him be a kid,. Don’t get involved so much that you know every little interaction he is having at school.

Boys have to leave the apron strings, and grow into men.

Sometimes we mothers learn this the hard way.
 
Good point. We pray for their family daily, but the the hurt inflicted has really affected DS and ultimately me. I visit Confession often, and I know I need to let it go, as does DS.

How do you want me to describe said girl’s father and daughter?
 
I don’t ask. He tells and then perseverates on it. I may hear the same story 100 times…and they are not always recent. Probably the hardest part of parenting him. I have to redirect him constantly.
 
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Domer90 said:
I don’t ask. He tells and then perseverates on it. I may hear the same story 100 times…and they are not always recent. Probably the hardest part of parenting him. I have to redirect him constantly.
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Does he play any sport
 
Oh my, I never knew. That’s probably because I work with special needs kids who are still in diapers.
 
Um, that will be very tough to do right now. Too many raw emotions on top of my mom suddenly passing. Yep, I’m fallen. I strive for that, but not even my extremely pious husband can’t do that yet. The context would be awkward for both of us.
 
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