I am coming to the conclusion that living in total compliance with church teaching in the area of sexual morality is something that I will never achieve in this lifetime.
My fear is that there are many people here that torture themselves daily with guilt and fear due to their perceived failings in this area at even the slightest “impure” thought. It’s hard to understand why God would give us this extremely powerful drive inside of ourselves then expect us to deny it at all times unless your goal is to create a child. Equally rediculous is the common attitude often heard that says that whenever a man sees an attractive woman clothed or unclothed and has even the slightest sexual thought that he is somehow “guilty” of something.
On the other hand, when I see the depths of deparvity and destroyed lives that can result when the sexual capacity is misused, such as the evils of hard core pornography, abortion and rape it’s also obvious to me that God never intended for human sexuality to be allowed to run amok. There are real and incredibly horiffic consequences when sexuality is allowed to get out of control.
Somewhere between Hugh Heffner and the teachings of Holy Mother Church balance and sanity can be found. Too many good people are feeling worthless because they cannot live up to these nearly impossible standards. Many of them wind up going off the deep end into complete depravity or total despair.
Single people, widowed, and even the social misfit need some form of an outlet for their sexuality, but they must deny it completely in order to aviod hell… If this isn’t crazymaking, I don’t know what is.
