Baptist Husband doesn't want me to convert

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haha! Thanks. I didn’t think about going to Mass saturdays and Church with him on Sundays. That would be a great way to stay true to myself and my faith and give him what he needs at the same time! I’m sure there can be nothing wrong with going to another church right? That is, unless they preach something that doesn’t agree with the Church’s teaching… What about Sola Scriptura. Most protestant churches believe it, but I only remember hearing it preached a few times. Is it sinful for me to listen to/ go to a church that preaches that?
No, it is not sinful for you to listen to a proponent of Sola Scriptura. Try to remember, though, that once you come into the Church you are in communion with Rome. So, it’s important that you not participate in the grape juice and crackers ritual with your husband and the other Baptists.

I’ll also add that you can still learn from Baptists (I do), and when I sit through a Baptist worship service I sometimes think of it as a lecture from a theologian.

Be strong in your faith and continue to pray (unceasingly). Become an amateur apologist for your faith – you never know what kind of impact you will have in the Baptist community.
 
I don’t think it’s a protestant/secular way of thinking.
Are you saying that the idea of segregating people into peer groups is rooted in Catholic Tradition? I’m certainly open to hearing the evidence that it is. But it seems to me that it’s rooted in relatively modern secular developments, particularly the invention of the “teenager” in the mid-20th century (from that point on, even adults tend still to think that only those who were “teenagers” with them can really understand them), and in the very successful adaptation of evangelical Protestant youth ministry to this secular reality (see my friend Tom Bergler’s article on this subject). Catholics have to some degree followed suit, but more slowly and clumsily–and the reason is in part, I think, Catholic ecclesiology.

What makes you so sure that this particular attitude isn’t one of the things you may need to question as you consider becoming Catholic?

I’m certainly not disputing that there’s value to having classes that cater to issues that affect a particular age group, though even then, I think we might be surprised at how much people of different ages might have to say about problems we think affect only one group. But we’re talking about attending Mass, here (one thing you may find hard to get used to in Catholicism is that religious education is not seen as a major purpose of church-going in quite the way it is in Protestantism).

I’m not telling you you have to go to the small church with the elderly folks–I’m just trying to nudge you to at least visit there and take it seriously as the closest expression of the Catholic Faith to you. If these folks really do have the kind of closed-mindedness you assume they have, then they’re failing in some measure to be the Church (not as harsh as it sounds–we all fail to some degree). But it seems to me that you don’t actually know this–you’re assuming this based on your experience with small-town Protestant churches.
. I won’t write them off. It is good advice to follow becuase they may not be facing the same problems, but typically they come from a time of heartier faith and their stories are just as inspiring as people who’ve had major problems. So… Thank you!
Thanks for responding so graciously. I know it was a bit of a tangent, but this happens to be a central preoccupation of mine, for reasons that have to do with my own (very roundabout and hesitant) journey toward Catholicism.

Edwin
 
haha! Thanks. I didn’t think about going to Mass Saturdays and Church with him on Sundays. That would be a great way to stay true to myself and my faith and give him what he needs at the same time! I’m sure there can be nothing wrong with going to another church right? That is, unless they preach something that doesn’t agree with the Church’s teaching… What about Sola Scriptura. Most protestant churches believe it, but I only remember hearing it preached a few times. Is it sinful for me to listen to/ go to a church that preaches that?
I am conflicted over the matter of going to mass AND the baptist service at this point in your spiritual life. It could get rather confusing since you are in RCIA.
Can’t say that it is sinful to go but…

I’m reminded of Something from St Paul…“All things are Lawful but not all things build up…”🤷

Peace
James
 
No, it is not sinful for you to listen to a proponent of Sola Scriptura. Try to remember, though, that once you come into the Church you are in communion with Rome. So, it’s important that you not participate in the grape juice and crackers ritual with your husband and the other Baptists.

I’ll also add that you can still learn from Baptists (I do), and when I sit through a Baptist worship service I sometimes think of it as a lecture from a theologian.

Be strong in your faith and continue to pray (unceasingly). Become an amateur apologist for your faith – you never know what kind of impact you will have in the Baptist community.
Ok. So no baptist “communion” gotcha. I do want to be an apologist and I love theological discussions. 🙂 thanks everyone!
 
Are you saying that the idea of segregating people into peer groups is rooted in Catholic Tradition? I’m certainly open to hearing the evidence that it is. But it seems to me that it’s rooted in relatively modern secular developments, particularly the invention of the “teenager” in the mid-20th century (from that point on, even adults tend still to think that only those who were “teenagers” with them can really understand them), and in the very successful adaptation of evangelical Protestant youth ministry to this secular reality (see my friend Tom Bergler’s article on this subject). Catholics have to some degree followed suit, but more slowly and clumsily–and the reason is in part, I think, Catholic ecclesiology.

What makes you so sure that this particular attitude isn’t one of the things you may need to question as you consider becoming Catholic?

I’m certainly not disputing that there’s value to having classes that cater to issues that affect a particular age group, though even then, I think we might be surprised at how much people of different ages might have to say about problems we think affect only one group. But we’re talking about attending Mass, here (one thing you may find hard to get used to in Catholicism is that religious education is not seen as a major purpose of church-going in quite the way it is in Protestantism).

I’m not telling you you have to go to the small church with the elderly folks–I’m just trying to nudge you to at least visit there and take it seriously as the closest expression of the Catholic Faith to you. If these folks really do have the kind of closed-mindedness you assume they have, then they’re failing in some measure to be the Church (not as harsh as it sounds–we all fail to some degree). But it seems to me that you don’t actually know this–you’re assuming this based on your experience with small-town Protestant churches.

Thanks for responding so graciously. I know it was a bit of a tangent, but this happens to be a central preoccupation of mine, for reasons that have to do with my own (very roundabout and hesitant) journey toward Catholicism.

Edwin
I think this is an interesting tangent … the segregation by age actually deprives the younger people of much wisdom…Likewise it can deprive older people of a lot of “vitality” that comes from the interactions.
To a certain extent, we will always segregate by age, after all, we go to school that way, we tend to look for life mates within a fairly narrow range, we hang out as kids with other kids roughly our own age…It’s kind of natural.
But - in the family and church setting there should also be a lot of intermingling of ages…our parents and grandparents being prime in this…but also aunts and uncles, and their friends etc…(besides, you can hear some really good stories…:whistle:)

Peace
James
 
I am conflicted over the matter of going to mass AND the baptist service at this point in your spiritual life. It could get rather confusing since you are in RCIA.
Can’t say that it is sinful to go but…

I’m reminded of Something from St Paul…“All things are Lawful but not all things build up…”🤷

Peace
James
Well, I studied catholicism for about 2 years before RCIA - don’t get me wrong, there are many things I don’t know. But I was also raised constantly having theological discussions with my father. I’m pretty sound with a lot of catholic doctrine and teachings, and I rarely ever take anything at face value without research. I do believe in the Church’s authority over Scriptural interpretation, so if I have a question, I’ll go to my priest. What else should I look out for or keep in mind that might hinder things? I mean that as a real question, not to be self assured as it might sound from a few sentences earlier. I was raised baptist, but we were not… traditional. We brought in other ideas and were taught to ask questions, and to compare different denominations. We didn’t always wholly agree with the baptist doctrine. And it’s been several years since I went to a baptist church. Anything that sticks out that may conflict our beliefs and set me wrong?
 
Well, I studied catholicism for about 2 years before RCIA - don’t get me wrong, there are many things I don’t know. But I was also raised constantly having theological discussions with my father. I’m pretty sound with a lot of catholic doctrine and teachings, and I rarely ever take anything at face value without research. I do believe in the Church’s authority over Scriptural interpretation, so if I have a question, I’ll go to my priest. What else should I look out for or keep in mind that might hinder things? I mean that as a real question, not to be self assured as it might sound from a few sentences earlier. I was raised baptist, but we were not… traditional. We brought in other ideas and were taught to ask questions, and to compare different denominations. We didn’t always wholly agree with the baptist doctrine. And it’s been several years since I went to a baptist church. Anything that sticks out that may conflict our beliefs and set me wrong?
Well the fact that you have studied Catholicism for 12 yeas already makes me feel a whole lot better.
Well the one thing that I can think of that might “sneak in” is the idea of “eternal security”, also known as “Once saved always saved” (OSAS)…I’m sure you are aware of this being false, but if the preacher holds to this, it can permeate his entire lesson. Same thing if he divorces belief from works…
Like I say you are probably already aware of these things, and so long as you recognize that the preacher might be building his whole lesson on an erroneous assumption…then you should be OK…

Of course if he starts slamming the Catholic church outright…best to tell your hubby that you simply can’t go there any more…

Peace
James
 
I am conflicted over the matter of going to mass AND the baptist service at this point in your spiritual life. It could get rather confusing since you are in RCIA.
Can’t say that it is sinful to go but…

I’m reminded of Something from St Paul…“All things are Lawful but not all things build up…”🤷

Peace
James
For me, it accelerated my spiritual development as I wrestled with contrasting views.
 
Of course if he starts slamming the Catholic church outright…best to tell your hubby that you simply can’t go there any more…

Peace
James
No, I think it’s best to charitably confront those who spread falsehoods about the Church. In my own experience, when I hear something completely idiotic and false spewed from the baptist lectern, I email the pastor and say “look, here’s what it says in the CCC… this is what the Church teaches… etc.” What’s more, if her husband continues to attend the baptist church, I think Megan needs to hear what he’s hearing and be able to offer counterpoints if/when necessary.

And as I said in my previous post, I think this strengthens a convert’s bond to the Church and arms him/her with truth when defending Her…
 
Because I’ve got some pretty visible tattoos, and when a small town church isn’t used to it, they avoid you like the plague. Especially if there isn’t anyone young that they know to put aside the fears of you being bad, because they’ve seen this youth grow up, make mistakes, and still know that they’re a good person. Plus, I’ve noticed that the older you are, there’s less understanding of the popular culture (even if you don’t accept it) that a 24 year old has/is growing up in. Most older people would burn me at the stake if they knew what I was in a former life.
I think that it depends upon the individual “older people” in question. A considerable proportion of the people in my parish are over 70, but the vast majority of them are in the “I’m old enough to know that social conventions are not God-given edicts” category. They do not understand youth culture, but they are not bothered by tattoos, hairstyles, or fashions in clothing.
 
The parish I belong to has about 700 families.

The age range at 8:00 am Mass is a few weeks old to 90s. Very diverse group ethnically as well.

🙂
 
You could ask him to listen to Catholic conversion stories on CD or just leave tracts laying around the house. I think he might be more reluctant to read books. A CD is something you can listen to on the way to work or while doing other things.

The Bible was written by men who were inspired to write what God wanted us to know. A loving Father would not leave us guessing about Him or how to please Him. It makes sense he would use human authors to give us the message. We are all messengers of God’s love. The Holy Spirit works through some people more powerfully than with others. The amazing thing about the Bible is how it is consistent despite being written over thousands of years.

The Catholic Church uses sensual things like water, incense, rosaries, and statues because we are people that need visual reminders. Material things are God’s creation, so they are good ways to lift our minds to higher things. They are symbols of a greater reality. They are not superstitious because we do not worship the thing; we use them as aids to a better relationship with God.
 
I like that there are so many books out there. I guess I should have expected it with as many catholics as there are. HA! Thanks!
Hi Megan -

I’m lurking and reading with interest. I married a Lutheran and went through a similar thing with her holding a lot of false beliefs on the Catholic Church. It was part of her upbringing. Her conversion took 2 RCIA classes over four years or so but I am happy to say that 20 years later, she is solidly, proudly and most joyfully Catholic. Early in our Marraige we went together to both of our churches. This did help her understand the Catholic Mass.

My recommendations are:
  • keep the focus on the Eucharist. The bible, including Jesus owns words, and church history are 100% in your favor. Show your hubby in the bible and in the early church fathers that the Eucharist is truly the body and blood of the resurrected Christ. Book recommendation is Brant Pitre, Jesus and the Jewish Roots of the Eucharist and perhaps Catholicism for Dummies.
  • and that Jesus established his church on St Peter, with apostolic succession to this day. The baptist church didn’t start until at least 1605 with John Smith. Is this the church Jesus established on St Peter, and that has the power to bind and loose? Nay.
  • pray for your husband…this will likely do more than all suggestions combined.
God Bless You. I pray for you too.
 
🙂 Wow! Thank you all so much! Here’s interesting food for thought, comments always welcome… Most protestants believe in sola scriptura, which is how I was raised to think, (my biggest thing to overcome). But how can this be so? We look at John 21:25, or 2 Thessalonians 2:15 and we see that not only is there not enough room in the bible (or in all the world) to contain all the works of Christ, but also that we should hold firm to the teachings that were passed on by “word of mouth or by letter.” Why do protestants hold on so dearly to the Sola Scriptura idea? (this was the discussion we had this past week) We talked about how Luther wanted to take books from both the old and new testaments, but that there was such an outcry that he left the new testament alone and took the 7.5 books from the old testament. I can understand if you’re ignorant to the knowledge of the reformation, but surely preachers go through some sort of history class that explains it. So how can you justly teach this to your congregation knowing that the Bible, which says itself that it’s not complete, is what you rely on? It seems like a catch 22? Just curious…
 
My Dad was conservative catholic , my Mom Lutheran, my sister Dalia Lama and other sister liberal Catholic., other brother non denominational Christian church

I believe as long as you believe and agree with the vast bulk of Christian beliefs you are fine. Baptists and Catholics agree on most primary things and disagree on secondary. So the glass is half full. Purgatory , Mary and others are not worth a divorce. I say attend both masses for a year and make conclusions later based on that.

Take care and God Bless.
 
I believe as long as you believe and agree with the vast bulk of Christian beliefs you are fine. Baptists and Catholics agree on most primary things and disagree on secondary.
The problem is defining “vast bulk” and “primary vs secondary.”
 
🙂 Wow! Thank you all so much! Here’s interesting food for thought, comments always welcome… Most protestants believe in sola scriptura, which is how I was raised to think, (my biggest thing to overcome). But how can this be so? We look at John 21:25, or 2 Thessalonians 2:15 and we see that not only is there not enough room in the bible (or in all the world) to contain all the works of Christ, but also that we should hold firm to the teachings that were passed on by "word of mouth or by letter.
You have actually just scratched the surface of this matter. Scripture itself points unerringly to the authority of the Church consider This:

After all of the trading back and forth of this and that verse, meaning, interpretation translation etc…the ultimate question comes to - which of our personal, prayerful, “Spirit Guided” - yet conflicting understandings is correct? How do we resolve this issue? Who has the authority to determine???

What does Scripture say???

Scripture says it is “The Church”

The Church is the pillar and bulwark of Truth (1 Tim 3:15)
The Church has authority to bind and loose - whatever (Mt 16:17-19) (Mt 18:15-18)
The Church settles arguments between distant church communities in a wonderful example of the instructions given in Mt 18…(Acts 15)
The Church is the vehicle by which God reveals His Wisdom to the world. (Eph 3:8-12)
Christ and the Apostles exhort the faithful to unity…to be of one mind
John 17:20-21
20 "I do not pray for these only, but also for those who believe in me through their word, 21 that they may all be one; even as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that thou hast sent me.
Rom 15:5-6
5 May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, 6 that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
1 Cor 1:10
I appeal to you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree and that there be no dissensions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.
2 Cor 13:11
Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.
Php 1:27
Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel,
1 Pet 3:8
Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.
All of these calls to unity, along with the instructions in the Gospel of Matthew and the example in Acts as well as Paul’s presenting his teachings to Peter and James and others to assure they are correct, etc…All point clearly to doctrinal unity within a visible and authoritative Church.

Sola Scriptura adherents can offer nothing scriptural in support of the (evangelical?) protestant view of “church” and “authority” that comes anywhere close to this preponderance of evidence for the RC/EO “Model” of Church structure and authority.

I say this with confidence because I have repeatedly asked protestant apologists to counter this evidence with “equally clear and compelling” evidence for what I call the “Protestant model” of locally independent church communities based on SS.
They just simply cannot do it…

Think this challenge might make a good conversation between you and your hubby???
" Why do protestants hold on so dearly to the Sola Scriptura idea? (this was the discussion we had this past week) We talked about how Luther wanted to take books from both the old and new testaments, but that there was such an outcry that he left the new testament alone and took the 7.5 books from the old testament. I can understand if you’re ignorant to the knowledge of the reformation, but surely preachers go through some sort of history class that explains it. So how can you justly teach this to your congregation knowing that the Bible, which says itself that it’s not complete, is what you rely on? It seems like a catch 22? Just curious…
The “Sola Scriptura” that Luther envisioned is really nothing like what it is today. Luther’s view was not to replace the “Church” as authority but simply to draw the Church back more strongly to it’s biblical roots in it’s practices. This can be seen in the fact that the Lutheran Church is a hierarchical type church (though there are deep problems within that communion as well)
The problem is that when the protestant reformation got rolling, a number of people latched onto the principle of Sola Scriptura and went off in different directions. And it should be noted that there was never a council (biblical principle) held among the various reformers to resolve the conflicts that were arising from this doctrine of Sola Scriptura.
That fact right there is a huge red flag since it violates the principle of unity and councilior action to resolve issues and conflicts.
Also - in Luther’s defense, he did not remove the books entirely. He placed them in a separate section between the OT and the NT. It was some time later that they were removed - for the very sound theological reasoning that - it was cheaper to print the bible without them…🤷

As to the question about preachers not knowing these things…I have repeatedly heard converts (who were non-catholic ministers) that these issues were simply not addressed in their seminary or bible college classes. At most there might be some passing comment made. Also, in many cases, the ECF’s are never mentioned, or are only selectively quoted in order to bolster the protestant view…

Peace
James
 
My Dad was conservative catholic , my Mom Lutheran, my sister Dalia Lama and other sister liberal Catholic., other brother non denominational Christian church

I believe as long as you believe and agree with the vast bulk of Christian beliefs you are fine. Baptists and Catholics agree on most primary things and disagree on secondary. So the glass is half full. Purgatory , Mary and others are not worth a divorce. I say attend both masses for a year and make conclusions later based on that.

Take care and God Bless.
Disagree that the disagreements are only secondary…Baptists reject the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist. Since Jesus said that unless you eat his body and drink his blood you have no life in you, this is a very serious matter.

Secondly - Baptists don’t have a mass, so she cannot attend “both masses”…

Peace
James
 
Disagree that the disagreements are only secondary…Baptists reject the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist. Since Jesus said that unless you eat his body and drink his blood you have no life in you, this is a very serious matter.

Secondly - Baptists don’t have a mass, so she cannot attend “both masses”…

Peace
James
Good catch, whatever term is equivalent to mass for Baptists then., far as I know Baptists have communion maybe not as a regular schedule as Catholics concede.

What I am saying is go to both , and take a baby step if one is preferred over the other as denomination
 
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