Beauty and the beast at a wedding!?

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I have no qualms with the song if it’s being used outside the church, depending on where it is placed in the ceremony, and if it’s instrumental. Most of the weddings I’ve been to that attempt to use songs found in modern pop culture use the instrumental versions or one of those “string quartet tributes”.

But I also agree that there are bigger matters than the song choice here.

There’s probably some sentimental reason why she wants it. My husband and I had our first dance at the reception to a Disney song (park music…it’s not from a movie) because of a significant event in our lives involving that song over a decade ago. I would say that singing the words “beauty and the beast” feels weird to you in this context…what if you helped locate a nice instrumental version. I think Disney released a CD of their most popular love songs performed on solo piano. I’d be shocked if that song wasn’t on it.

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amazon.com/Disneys-Fairy-Weddings-Various-Artists/dp/B0007TKH0W

Okay so it’s not solo piano. It’s classical guitar with backup. But still…I didn’t catch any words sung in the sample.
 
I just watched the clip on Youtube. Awwww, so cute. My 20 month old son loved it, clapped his hands with delight.

In all seriousness, I find it more innapropriate that she wants Ave Maria sung.
 
Leegal said:
Maybe the bride doesn’t have a clue that she’s referring to her groom as a beast who is changed by love and that it’s metaphor.
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Or maybe she does know and that is exactly why she wants to use it.

Not saying that I would use it, just that I understand why she might like it. But I think maybe it would be better suited to their first dance at the reception.
 
Don’t do it. You are only going to seethe through the song. When does she want you to sing it, as they walk back down the “aisle” after taking their “vows?” My goodness gracious. What has the world come to?? A Disney song at a wedding?

:nope::dts:
 
Annabelle_Marie said:
It was my understanding that this is NOT a Protestant wedding. It’s a Catholic attempting an invalid marriage. It doesn’t matter if she is a cafeteria Catholic or not…if she was baptized Catholic then she has an obligation to get married in the church or seek a dispensation. Since she is not, it would be an invalid marriage.

Am I wrong here?
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Yes, totally different. That question was asking about a Protestant wedding between two non-Catholics. The OP is talking about a Catholic getting married outside of the Church with no dispensation.
 
Contra_Mundum said:
I just watched the clip on Youtube. Awwww, so cute. My 20 month old son loved it, clapped his hands with delight.

In all seriousness, I find it more innapropriate that she wants Ave Maria sung.
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Agreed.

At my first wedding my sister sang. She knew better than I and one of the songs she chose (prophetically) was “Whose Bed Have Your Boots Been Under?”
 
It sounds like you don’t want to go but that you have resigned yourself to it and are going to try to make the best of the situation.

If that’s the case and you don’t want to make waves maybe you could suggest singing ‘Beauty and the Beast’ at the reception instead? That seems like a more appropriate time. Or maybe you could ask why they want it. Maybe it has some significance to them that they want to share with their friends and family? If that’s the case then that reasoning should be announced right before you sing.

Or you could stay home, and invitation is not an obligation. (Although it sounds like you are already committed?)

Congrats by the way on being a good enough singer to be asked to do it at a wedding! That’s not a talent that I have, and I’m very jealous. 😉
 
BlueEyedLady said:
It sounds like you don’t want to go but that you have resigned yourself to it and are going to try to make the best of the situation.

If that’s the case and you don’t want to make waves maybe you could suggest singing ‘Beauty and the Beast’ at the reception instead? That seems like a more appropriate time. Or maybe you could ask why they want it. Maybe it has some significance to them that they want to share with their friends and family? If that’s the case then that reasoning should be announced right before you sing.

Or you could stay home, and invitation is not an obligation. (Although it sounds like you are already committed?)

Congrats by the way on being a good enough singer to be asked to do it at a wedding! That’s not a talent that I have, and I’m very jealous. 😉
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Go to confession! Envy and jealousy are sinful!

😉

And don’t whistle on the way, either. 😃

Yes, I know, you’re an atheist, but you like us, don’t you…😉
 
TheRealJuliane said:
Go to confession! Envy and jealousy are sinful!

😉

And don’t whistle on the way, either. 😃

Yes, I know, you’re an atheist, but you like us, don’t you…😉
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Are you kidding me? I love you guys! Why else would I have posted enough to get my Junior membership title??? (YAY!)
 
Do you know for sure that she has not received dispensation or is this something we are all just assuming? It is possible to receive dispensation for other venues in cases of mixes marriages. I am just checking.
 
I wouldn’t do it. You are supposed to be doing it as a nice gesture to your cousin and you seem to be very upset by this. It’s just not a good thing, especially if you will be singing it with gritted teeth, figuratively and, possibly, literally should you be angry enough.

You could give the excuse that the piece doesn’t fit your voice and the repertoire you sing, which is a legitimate excuse (if it’s true). It’s like asking a classical singer to sing a pop song and vice versa, or asking a soprano to sing a song written for an alto/contralto voice and vice versa. It just won’t sound as nice as the kind of voice it is meant for. Maybe give suggestions from your repertoire which suit your voice better… if you still want to sing for it.
 
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BlueEyedLady:
Or maybe you could ask why they want it. Maybe it has some significance to them that they want to share with their friends and family? If that’s the case then that reasoning should be announced right before you sing.
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This is a good idea. If I were asked to sing this song at a wedding, I’d be wondering why! Say something like, “If you don’t mind me asking, why this song? It sounds like you’re calling [groom’s name] a beast, but we all love him!” (Hopefully you do all love him. If you don’t then maybe it’s appropriate! 🙂 )
 
VeritasLuxMea said:
The song is very nice given its context, however it does actually contain the words “Beauty and the Beast.” Literally. Those exact words. So I would definitely find it inappropriate myself, if only for the reason that the groom here is being referred to as a “beast.”

Which is not to say it’s not a sweet song - but again, in context! 👍
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But perhaps the song has a special meaning for the couple? And maybe a quick announcement of that meaning would settle the issue?
 
I would have declined “Tale as old as Time” and opt for “Bibbidi Bobbidi Boo”. 😃
 
SJG1759 said:
This is a good idea. If I were asked to sing this song at a wedding, I’d be wondering why! Say something like, “If you don’t mind me asking, why this song? It sounds like you’re calling [groom’s name] a beast, but we all love him!” (Hopefully you do all love him. If you don’t then maybe it’s appropriate! 🙂 )
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Or could be as my DS2 tells me “Mommy, I be the beauty and you be the beast”
 
I would say, Hey cuz, I’m glad you got Ave Maria covered. But I think I’ll pass at calling your new hubby a beast in front of all his friends. Those are fighting words and might get me beat up in the parking lot… Get out of the singing. Then you can go to the wedding or not, as the rest of the relationship backstory dictates.
 
This is why I don’t do weddings. People get too worked up about little details that really don’t much matter.
 
If she is very serious about that song being sung at her wedding you could always hum the beauty and the beast part. Or just go along it word for word for her sake as she wants it sung. I think it is a bizarre choice but I am sure she has her reasons. I would say it is a drastic change from the first song she wanted you to sing so understandable if you decline.
 
Is your cousin kidding? beauty and the beast? wow! if i was you i would def decline. also is she marrying the on again off again bf? just wondering…

how do you transition from ave maria to b n b?

anyway good luck.
 
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