Best Parenting Advice You've Been Given

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Hoosier-Daddy said:
But why have one at all?
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I don’t want to hijack the thread, but because unvaccinated kids are a public health concern. There’s a small subset of kids who legitimately can’t get vaccinated because of some underlying issue: they rely on herd immunity, ie everyone else being vaccinated. It’s the same reason I can’t say “oh well, live and let live” about my neighbor dumping arsenic in a public lake. Do what you want, but only up to the point that it hurts society at large.

I get people who can’t vaccinate because of religious beliefs, but people who don’t because they think they can read medical literature better than actual doctors are :crazy_face:.

Again, I’m not trying to sidetrack the thread, so I’ll stop here.
 
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Yeah we could go on. In general I think we agree about religious beliefs and honestly there aren’t enough antivaxers around to really ever create a problem. I do think it illustrates my point. It seems like everyone has some issue they just cant let go of. You could use your same rationale on any issue I listed. This one just happens to be yours…
 
Let’s try a seasoned dad here. Some of these I follow, some of these I don’t — the genie is out of the bottle, so to speak. Live and learn.
  • One computer in the house for business and educational purposes only.
  • No electronic media except for educational purposes and carefully monitored entertainment used sparingly.
  • If you are a Second Amendment household, keep your stuff locked up. (This one I do follow.)
  • Homeschool if at all possible.
  • Daily prayer and Traditional Latin Mass.
  • Lots of books.
 
My husband has had several computers in the house since the girls were born 36 years ago.

The girls were required to have laptops in school and much of their schoolwork was done and submitted on a computer. Most schools have some kind of computer requirement nowadays because, like real life, much of the “business” of school is done on a computer.

We had all those “gizmos” in our house. The girls played with them sparingly because we didn’t allow them to become addicted to them and because there were more fun things to do.

Forbidding something does not train a child. Allowing something morally-neutral in moderation trains a child.

I agree with you about the guns, but only because times have changed. When my brother and I were growing up, Dad kept his guns out in the open (where they could be used if someone tried to rob or attack us). My brother and I never dreamed of touching them.
 
When a child asks a probing question, such as “did you ever smoke pot?”, the proper response is “why do you ask this question?”

The other best advice was from my brother in law “don’t worry about potty training. Unless he has some sort of disability, he will figure it out before he is 5.” and he did.
 
"If your parental intuition tells you something is amiss, or needs to be addressed, or a policy needs to be implemented, trust your parental intuition and do it, and don’t worry about what other parents say or do, or how oppressive your kid thinks you are. "

Another
"It is important for spouses to be on the same page with discipline. So talk about the policy or discipline you want to implement, and have a consensus before approaching the child. "
This was a must for us, because we had a daughter who at 14 could chew us up and spit us out in an argument, and could manipulate us to the point where she dictated the tone of the household.
By no coincidence, she is now a very successful HR specialist at a hospital. She has the odd talent of being able to tell you you’re an idiot and have you say thank you very much.
 
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Adapt your child rearing to each child. No sooner do you figure out how to deal with a problem with one child than the other one never has that problem.

No. 1 son was a master of building his case on why he was not guilty. Took me a bit to realize that I had to reason with him until he would admit his error…and I learned to make him state his error, otherwise he still thought he was innocent.
Daughter No. 1 admitted her wrong doing and apologized immediately.

Son No. 1 had to be threatened and yelled at to get his attention. If I looked cross eyed at daughter No.1 she was in tears!

Boredom isn’t cruel and unusual punishment. It teaches self entertainment.

Having fighting brothers and sisters having to hug each other on the sofa for one whole minute was the worst thing I ever did…according to them. I merely had to threaten it after the first time and…peace!

Finally, forgive yourself. You’ll mess up. They don’t come with instructions on their foreheads.
 
I found that people with no children gave the best advice, as they were unconstrained by experience :roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

Amazing how detailed they’d get sometimes . . .

hawk, trying not to compare this to those on this site that use google results to lecture priests here , but apparently failing . . .
 
No I’ve been watching my kids.

Are they in danger? Do their vaccines not work?
I’ve always wondered why people freak out about a small percentage of antivaxers but nobody brings it up about a real fear with the illegal immigration situation.
 
My parenting advice would be to read parenting news with a critical eye. That goes with anything that can generate hysteria because it’s getting harder to discern between real threats like drowning and car accidents versus blown up threats like stranger-danger and, yes, vaccination.

I vaccinate my kids.

The news is wrong about the “rise of anti-vaxxers [sic].” Give or take some pockets, (and those pockets have always existed), vaccination rates are high and stable. Only a scant 1.3% of infants and toddlers are completely unvaccinated. It’s mostly poor and uninsured children not getting vaccinated.


 
dochawk said:
hawk, trying not to compare this to those on this site that use google results to lecture priests here , but apparently failing . . .
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Weren’t we all the best parents before we became parents? By that logic, I’m a downright brilliant priest . . . (cough!)
Pattylt said:
Adapt your child rearing to each child. No sooner do you figure out how to deal with a problem with one child than the other one never has that problem.
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So the rumors are true? They don’t come with instruction manuals?? :crazy_face:

My Hall of Shame admission is that I actually taught a parenting class while pregnant with my first. (Hey, THEY hired me . . . !) It was Love and Logic and, suffice to say, it doesn’t entirely work on my kids. 😳
 
Stay positive. 2 Use your instincts. 3 You want to be friends with your children when they are grown. When they are younger, they need a parent. 4. Pray!
 
I used to make them say 3 nice things about their brother or sister. Of course, they hammed it up. It broke the tension.

A few years ago we all vacationed in Colorado and sitting in a circle someone brought this up. We ended up going around the circle and each in turn said 3 nice things. It was beautiful! Sometimes it takes a while! They are all best friends now! Praise God and pass the popcorn!
 
My kids are now grown with littles of their own and are best friends of each other, too.

However, I’m trying to imagine them at age 9 and 12 having to say 3 nice things to each other…my son would probably say my daughter has nice toes and daughter would say son usually wears clean underwear! 😂😂😂 I’m not sure how it would have really worked out. Having them hug for one whole minute worked so well I never had to think of any other solutions! Your’s a great idea!
 
mrsdizzyd said:
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Hoosier-Daddy:
honestly there aren’t enough antivaxers around to really ever create a problem
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You haven’t been watching the news…
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Gosh over here they are significant enough that there is political party of them on the ballot paper next Saturday!
 
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