ā¦the Bible makes it more than clear that if you ask God for something, Heāll give it No ifs, no buts.
I used to think this way about prayer and it was one of the reasons I became really frustrated with God. I asked for things and I wouldnāt get them so I thought āhey this is BS, God said ask and you shall receive so why am I not receivingā? In my anger and frustration I decided not even think about God or religion anymore. It never crossed my mind that maybe I didnāt understand the purpose of prayer or that maybe I was misusing it. I mean it makes since that certain things wonāt work if you donāt use them correctly; you wouldnāt use a buzz saw to drive a nail through a post, but hey what could I say I was emotional and being irrational so the thought never crossed my mind.
Years later I realized that pray is not meant to be used like a magical genuine lamp. It is not a tool to get what you think you need but a tool to find out if what you think you need is really what you need. I started flipping through the Old Testament and New Testament and there it was: man asking for things but only on the condition that what they ask for was what God wills them to have because they understand Godās will to be perfect. In short they didnāt want anything other than what God wills because they knew nothing else would be perfect for them.
In the New Testament Christ calls Himself a physician which means He knows what diseases (sins) we deal with and He knows what will help us fight them. I thought to myself when was the last time I went to the doctor for help and told him what medicine to give me while making the stipulation that if he doesnāt give me what I āknowā to be good for me then I will denounce him as my doctor? I mean come on that would sound pretty ridiculous if I did that right? I figured if this was an unacceptable approach to take with my earthly doctor then it would likewise be unacceptable when approaching God.
This brought me to the question: āhow should I approach God in prayer?ā
In the New Testament a man asked Christ to teach them how to pray and this was when Christ teaches them the Our Father.
Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen
Now while many things can be said about this prayer I will just point out two things that really struck me. First notice where He says āThy will be doneā and not āMy will be doneā. This was a key indicator that the correct way to ask for something is to present it but then tell God you only want it if it is in accordance with what He wills for you.
Father, if thou wilt, remove this chalice from me: but yet not my will, but thine be done
Second notice the nature of the prayer: there is not one hint of selfishness in the entire thing! It doesnāt make demands or set time limits as to when things need to be done. It doesnāt give the impression that the person believes themselves to be qualified to know what they need. The prayer is 100% selfless in all aspects: it just asks to receive what they truly need, the gift of accepting the outcome, and the fortitude to not be tempted by the illusion that they know more than the physician does. When you pray your talking to the Father who is also your doctor and you have to accept like we all have to accept in real life that the diagnoses will be something we donāt want to hear and that the remedy will be something we wonāt want to take or if we do take it we know itās going to be hard because letās face it when was the last time medicine was enjoyable and tasty. No the reality is medicine is always difficult and bitter but it is also always needed because it restores our health which is why we continue to go to ours doctor.
In the end God, like my doctor, will always give me an answer (which depending on the situation will very): sometimes we will be on the same page, sometimes we arenāt, sometimes he wants me to meet certain requirements before going further and other times He tells me to shut up because Iām being ridiculous. Yet I always know that he gives me these answers because always has my health and wellbeing in mind.