Birth control for the long term married...A situation moral dilemma!

[Trelow]

FightingFat:

I think you’re alright CatholicPoet!

Can I ask how members feel that the Churches teaching on a decision of conscience affects this discussion?

Well if your conscience is telling you to do something that you know is aginst Church teaching, then guess which one is wrong? If this is the case then I would take this as notice taht you should work on froming your conscience in accord with that or Our Lord. And I’m sure you think I’m just jumping on you because of our massive political differences, but I am doing the same thing with my view of the death penality.

 

[felra]

FightingFat:

Can I ask how members feel that the Churches teaching on a decision of conscience affects this discussion?

Thread topic: “Birth control for the long term married…A situation** moral dilemma**!” …moral dilemma, pro’s & con’s, need to make a decision confronting me that is not apparent or clear cut, it has significant moral import …it sounds like the thread topic all but encompasses a decision of conscience. See the Catechism of the Catholic Church: Article 6 Moral Conscience (1776-1802).

“Man is sometimes confronted by situations that make moral judgments less assured and decision difficult. But he must always seriously seek what is right and good and discern the will of God expressed in divine law.” (*CCC *1787)

 

[gardenswithkids]

FightingFat:

…Say your wife is pushing you to take measures…Precautions. You don’t want to, you feel twisted and torn, but you know it would be the sensible thing to do, it would save a lot of heart ache and monthly worry…

As I read what was posted originally, it sounds as if the man’s conscience is formed in compliance with the teachings of the Church, but maybe the wife’s is not.

If a wife is pushing her husband into having a vascectomy because she fears how another pregnancy will affect her health, perhaps she should become aware of what a vascectomy might do to his health. While they are common precedures, they are not without complications including increased risk of prostate cancer and a variety of other problems. In effect, the wife wants to sacrifice her husband’s body to save her own. .

I am terribly sorry that your wife is pushing you to “take measures”. It will be difficult for you to say “no” to her request because you love her and want things easier. But she needs you to be strong on this one because she’s weak here. You know what’s right. You don’t have to let a surgeon severe the souce of life in your marriage just because your wife wants it done.