Boyfriend is catholic but doesn’t practice

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Horrible place to be in, this young man is lost and looking for love in the wrong place. I’ve been there. Luckily God brought me back and forgave me, but at the time I wouldn’t listen to people telling me to stop and I invented loads of excuses and loopholes for myself. Caused myself a lot of damage. Thank you Jesus for your mercy and for helping me repent
 
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I feel like you might be able to continue the relationship if in one online conversation you are easily able to bring him back to the faith, evoke a sincere feeling of repentance from him, and have him give you proper respect and distance for a while. Essentially changing his character completely and making him into the dream catholic guy.

But that doesn’t seem very likely to me. -_-
 
I wanna thank everyone for your responses. Some were a bit harsh but you are right and I have decided to end things. I want to specify that the hotel thing didn’t look bad to me because his idea to spend a weekend together looked sweet and I felt very pretentious telling him to make all the road because it would cost him more( he would have to take a train, a boat and than another train to arrive in my city) so I felt it wasn’t right to ask him to do so. However I have reconsidered things and despite the fact I don’t want to think bad about what his intentions were I understand they probably were/are bad and he wanted to convince me to do something because he knows I really like him. Afterall, his grandparents live close to me, he could have said yes when I asked him to stay at their house for a few days. Now I feel incredibly dumb about all of this.
 
anneramones said:
Afterall, his grandparents live close to me, he could have said yes when I asked him to stay at their house for a few days.
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Well there you are. Your answer has indeed been right in front of you.

You have learned some valuable lessons about yourself. Step back and ask yourself why you got so caught up and infatuated in such a short period. You need to guard your heart much more than you have been. Real, solid relationships build over time. And have boundaries. And have mutual respect as their foundation.
 
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And don’t worry about a guy travelling to see you. Men are by nature sacrificial creatures. One day, if you marry a guy who sacrificed for you, you will certainly sacrifice much for him too. Besides, men love a mission. They can tell all their buddies they had to travel miles to see you.
 
I think this iidea of you sharing a room ina hotel without having sex is unrealistic.
 
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I think this iidea of you sharing a room ina hotel without having sex is unrealistic.
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I am sure it can be realistic.

But it seems very unlikely that this man doesn’t have the intention to convince her to have sex, and excepts she will accept it, from what the OP have described and the fact it is SO early in their “relationship”.
 
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anneramones said:
On Christmas Day I met a guy, he is a friend of one of my best friends and lives in another city,quite distant from mine.
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I am going out on a limb here, you don’t know this guy from a fence post so to speak. Known him for less then a month. He wanted you to meet him and stay with him in a locality far from your place. You are putting yourself at great risk in doing something like that. You would have absolutely no recourse to safety if he went from nice guy to something other.
 
From what you write I think that sharing a room or indeed any ‘private’ time together would be a very bad idea !
 
Yes, I considered this also and I think it’s crazy to do something like what I was thinking of doing …fact is that my friends were all excited for me, told me go, you are young only once, you can do something a little crazy for a guy you really like… all this made me feel like I’m a 80 year old strict and boring grandmother and that I was the one at fault.
 
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In the city where I am, and other cities across Canada, there is a long list of murdered and missing women. The idea that young women seem to have lost any sense of stranger danger is shocking to me, as this list continues to get longer.

I think you could be the voice of reason to your friends who made the comment ‘you are young only once, you can do something a little crazy for a guy you really like…’ A guy who has devious intentions will look for someone who thinks exactly like that.

Don’t fall for the idea that you are acting like an 80 yr old grandmother. Be smart like a fox, aware that bad guys are out there, and don’t be that crazy voice for your friends. It’s stupid. Remind yourself and each other that there’s a date rape drug out there and although you’re in control, things can go south very quickly.
 
anneramones said:
you are young only once, you can do something a little crazy for a guy you really like… all this made me feel like I’m a 80 year old strict and boring grandmother and that I was the one at fault.
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These experiences fade away and there is only room for regret. I don’t think you can ever be at fault if you take things slowly and are more cautious and prudent than the rest of your peers who are giving you such terrible advice.
 
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