Can I go to my cousin's gay wedding?

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Oufff! Drugs now?
The reason for my 1st paragraph is in reply to your last one… (I’m in for rough times with matters of morality and life in general… )
And the reason I don’t answer your questions ?
Well , we all know the answers don’t we?
 
Lilimo67 said:
Oufff! Drugs now?
The reason for my 1st paragraph is in reply to your last one… (I’m in for rough times with matters of morality and life in general… )
And the reason I don’t answer your questions ?
Well , we all know the answers don’t we?
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I’m just giving all these examples to show you how ridiculous your flawed logic is. And not once have you tried answering those challenges, other than with a response that tries to make me out to be hyperbolic with my examples, when all you’re doing is proving how immature you are by not even discussing them further or examining that your logic isn’t the greatest.
 
Comparison to incest, bestiality, crimes like robbery, are these really going to win hearts and minds?
 
TheLittleLady said:
Comparison to incest, bestiality, crimes like robbery, are these really going to win hearts and minds?
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This is the only way in which we can get people to understand why homosexuality and gay marriage are sins. It’s not a matter of being too harsh, it’s a matter of getting people to understand the gravity of such sins. We’re just trying to enlighten some of the posters who don’t seem to understand why the OP attending a gay wedding would be wrong. I mean, these are hard subjects. There’s no way to go around them or water them down if we want people to get it.
 
Sorry, I cannot see how such comparisons meet the standards of respect, compassion and sensitivity.

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2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
 
We’re not saying that homosexual people themselves are animals, incestuous, etc… It’s the acting upon those attractions that are an abomination. And yes, God calls acting upon homosexual desires an abomination, look it up in the Old Testament. Nobody has called homosexuals as people any of those things that you’re accusing us of. We are talking about the acts of homosexuality themselves, not the people who commit those actions.
 
And I don’t see how we haven’t been compassionate and respectful towards homosexuals when we have over and over explained that by not attending a gay wedding, one is actually being extremely loving by not participating in an act that could send them to Hell. It’s as if you don’t want to acknowledge how deep and grave of a sin acting upon homosexual desires are. That’s why we have brought up other grave sins such as beastiality, incest, etc… To illustrate how serious such a sin is.
 
If comparing someone to a person who engages in bestiality is compassionate and sensitive, I would hate to see what qualifies as cruel and insensitive.
 
TheLittleLady said:
If comparing someone to a person who engages in bestiality is compassionate and sensitive, I would hate to see what qualifies as cruel and insensitive.
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But in both cases, the person is acting upon a disordered attraction that violates how God created sexuality, so I don’t see how that’s an unfair comparison?
 
So all the people who claim that it would be more Christ-like to attend because Christ ate and associated with sinners are also prepared to tell the cousin to “go and sin no more”. Right?

I mean, how much more Christ-like can you be?
 
Dacinom said:
In fairness, I didn’t compare gay marriage to bestiality or robbery (not sure where that came from?)
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It was a post after yours that used bestiality and robbery, sorry I forgot to quote them.

Makes me wonder, wound some of the posters here use those analogies IRL if it were their sibling or best friend or child who was gay? I could not see you doing that, but some others are so virulent.

God bless you too!!!
 
TheLittleLady said:
It was a post after yours that used bestiality and robbery, sorry I forgot to quote them.

Makes me wonder, wound some of the posters here use those analogies IRL if it were their sibling or best friend or child who was gay? I could not see you doing that, but some others are so virulent.

God bless you too!!!
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It was me who said that. And I did not say it to be virulent. I was using those as examples to illustrate why it’s a sin. I understand if you have someone close to you who struggles with SSA as to why you may be so sensitive about this. I wasn’t trying to be insensitive towards people who have SSA themselves. But it would be wrong to sugarcoat the gravity of the sin of acting upon SSA. And like I said, God calls those actions abominations Himself. Abomination is a pretty harsh word if you ask me. But that’s not coming from me- it’s God Himself.

Why are you so offended that I used robbery as an example though? I mean, robbery’s breaking one of the Ten Commandments. And homosexual acts fall under the category of sexual sins, which falls under the umbrella of thou shall not commit adultery, another one of the commandments. I don’t see how I did anything wrong using that as an example. And you didn’t answer my post as to how it was wrong that I also used bestiality as an example when both that and homosexual acts both violate God’s design for sexuality. How was that wrong?
 
“Hey! Cousin Diamond, my boyfriend and I are getting married on July 1. It would mean a lot to me if you could be there”

“Do you think I would attend if you were robbing a bank? What about if you were marrying a goat? Then why do you think I would attend your abomination?”

I fail to see how this is going to help the person want to be more like you.

An answer of “Cousin, you know I am a practicing Catholic and I do not have to tell you that the Catholic Church does not support same-sex marriage. Would you be okay if I stay home from your celebration but we go catch the game on Friday night?” Seems to me to be the better way to handle the situation.
 
You’re taking what I said out of context. When I said all that, I was responding to a poster who said that it wasn’t her place to tell people how to live and who to love. And I was pointing out how flawed her response was. She was having this nonchalant attitude of “live and let live” and I was trying to point out how dangerous that philosophy is. Don’t take my words out of context, please reread why I wrote what I wrote before accusing me of directing that at homosexual people themselves when I never said that.
 
Yet, as large as this forum is, you likely ARE speaking to homosexual people.
 
TheLittleLady said:
Yet, as large as this forum is, you likely ARE speaking to homosexual people.
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No, I was not specifically targeting a homosexual person when I made that statement, you’re getting carried away and completely twisting what I said to make it out to be something it’s not. I was trying to get a point across to a poster, if you want to go back and reread all our exchanges with one another you’ll see what I mean. If you don’t want to read through our billion exchanges that’s fine but stop accusing me of being mean to homosexuals when I’m not. You’re taking what I said out of context.
 
This advice, while well meaning, will likely result in your cousin never speaking to you again. I’ve seen this exact fact pattern play out with a gay friend who had a wedding and a Christian relative give that exact response almost verbatim. He cut the relative out of his life almost immediately and with the approval of his friends and other family members.
 
“Marriage” doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. Do you know that I have been to a lot of gay weddings and at none of them has sex been brought up as a topic of conversation or in the vows? Leave the sex life of your cousin and his significant other between them. If you love your cousin, celebrate his happiness and leave the judgement (of things you don’t even know about) to God.
 
Dacinom said:
Then you would be supportive of a father marrying his adult daughter if they claim to be in love? Serious question.
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Truthfully, the general population isn’t wired this way. So it wouldn’t really bother me, as long as one or both of them were sterile. I am not in favor of marital or sexua unions with a high likelyhood of birth defects as a result. Other than that, as long as the adults are consenting, I don’t really have much of a problem with any of it. Would I go to an incestuous wedding? No. Why? Because I only go to weddings of people I am really close to. I don’t know of any such relationships.

On another note, incest is not the same thing (or even remotely) close to homosexuality. The reasons are obvious. Homosexuality is natural. One is born that way. It is pretty well established that incestuous desires are not. In other words, one isn’t born desiring incest. I realize plenty of people will argue this point with me. Not interested in arguing or debate. There is plenty of reading to be done on this issue.

Anyhow, I think some of the comparisons on this thread to homosexuality are disgusting. That is all I will say about it.
 
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