I don’t see what you mean by this. Actions are particulars.
The question is: why is the sexual aspect of a relationship, whether rightly ordered (marriage, involving two people of opposite sexes) or disordered (anything else), the only thing to consider? I don’t find your distinction between “actions” and “particulars” clear at all.
Not at all. If you look at the thread of the argument, Elizabeth argued that “fidelity” is valueless in same-sex relationships because it’s simply “a succession of evil acts.” That’s the context in which I separated out the sexual element. I’m saying that “fidelity” doesn’t just mean “having sex with the same person over and over.” It involves all these other things which are clearly valuable. Hence (to go back a step to my original disagreement with Lisa), the Episcopal Church does in fact have norms other than tolerance–the folks who dominate TEC right now judge these various things to be good based on the same norms any other Christians would use, and then (based indeed partly on a false notion of tolerance) make the further, mistaken judgment that therefore the sexual aspect of the relationship should not be judged as disordered.
Yes, you can. I can’t see anything in the Catechism or Church teaching that requires you to take this unjust approach. Your concept of the “actions in general” makes no sense and does not come from Church teaching. The question is whether there are meaningfully virtuous aspects of same-sex relationships which may be evaluated and judged worthy of blessing based on norms other than an “anything-goes” form of tolerance. I’m arguing that yes, there are. I agree entirely with you and the other Catholics and against the dominant faction in my denomination on the question of whether this rules out the traditional view that same-sex sexual acts/relationships are intrinsically disordered. I agree that they are.
But this rigidity doesn’t seem to me to inhere in the OHCAC, but in one faction within it which claims to represent “true” Catholicism. Plenty of Catholics–including every Pope since Vatican II, at least–don’t think this way.
Rigid, black-and-white thinking which ignores the complexities of human reality is an affront to the God who made us and specifically to our Lord Jesus who redeemed us. It’s disastrous.
That does not mean relativism. It means that we adhere to the teachings of the Church and apply them in a nuanced, careful way to the complex, messy realities of human behavior.
And when liberal Christians
abandon the historic teachings of the Church, we try to understand what is impelling them to do so instead of caricaturing them as Lisa did.
That’s what I’m arguing for. The fact that a number of posters on this thread simply can’t grasp that that’s what I’m doing, and persist in assuming that I’m defending the Episcopal Church’s current policies no matter how often I protest otherwise, is imply further evidence of the hopeless inadequacy of rigid, black-and-white thinking.
Well, it drives
me stark raving crazy

. Mostly because it just isn’t truthful.
But orthodox Catholic moral theology is very much about weighing “this and that.” It’s taken poundings from Protestants and Jansenists for centuries for doing just that.
Again, you’re misinterpreting what I meant, taking it out of context.
I didn’t suggest that anything thoughtful and serious people say should just be accepted. The priest to whom I referred several posts ago–my rector for the last year or so that I lived in New Jersey–was definitely a “thoughtful and serious” person, and I disagreed with her all the time. She did more than anyone else to help me both appreciate liberal Christianity and understand how fundamentally I disagreed with it, and just what that disagreement consisted of.
All I meant by “thoughtful and serious” is that of course many liberals just mouth the rhetoric of “tolerance” without thinking through the implications. It’s no more fair to build your picture of liberalism on that kind of simplistic rhetoric than it is to build your picture of Catholicism on the silly things that a poorly catechized Catholic may say.
Indeed no. Hence the hopeless inadequacy of “rigid,” “black-and-white” thinking!
But if you taste the cake, and in fact it isn’t salty, then perhaps you conclude that actually what is in it is not salt but a sugar substitute.
Since you know from good medical authorities that the sugar substitute is carcinogenic, you don’t eat the cake. Indeed you warn others not to eat the cake.
But you don’t run around telling everyone that the people who do like the cake do so because they don’t recognize the difference between salt and sugar. That clearly just isn’t true.
But it’s clear, again, that homosexual acts
don’t have that kind of overall effect. See my example above about salt versus a sugar substitute. That doesn’t mean that the sexual aspect of the relationship is not toxic. It just means that you have to distinguish different kinds and degrees of “toxicity.”
Edwin