I never disrespected older women. I said they sang very high. This is the voice range God gave them and I am not condemning that. I am sorry you took it this way, but you got the wrong idea. I am actually very respectful towards older people and I admire them a lot. My favorite cultures are cultures that prize the elders of the society (Such as Middle Eastern and Japanese cultures).
I am working on trying to not automatically conform to whatever range is near me, but it is hard at first,*** especially if you are nervous in front of singing around family***, added to the fact I am not trying to sing loud which constricts my vocal chords and makes it sound worse than it would have if I had simply sang in my usual loud manner. I have heard people say they are more inclined to sing in Mass when a person that can sing does so loudly as it makes them feel no one will hear them, so perhaps I shall give this a try.
Please refer to bolded, italicized phrase above.
I find this phrase amazing. I think it is the key to what the problem is, not only in Catholic churches, but in many Protestant churches, and indeed, in any setting where there is corporate singing.
WHY are we nervous about singing with others!!! I don’t get this at all, but apparently many people ARE nervous about singing with others, and will not do so, even for a simple song like Happy Birthday.
Why? Where did this come from? How did we get to this place in the U.S.?
It’s hard to believe that only a few decades ago, a lot of corporations had “corporate songs” that their workers would sing at meetings and social events.
It’s hard to believe that only a few decades ago, various singing organizations were popular in many cities. In our city, the Norwegian Singers’ Association of America had a large and thriving chapter, with hundreds of men, yes, MEN, in the choir! Now there are just 11 men–I play for them, and it’s so cool to see these men sing just for the pleasure of singing. I attended their convention this summer, and the men from our chapter relaxed in our team room, drank plenty of beer, and sang song after song, just for fun!
It’s hard to believe that only a few decades ago, children would sing on buses, around a campfire, and during playground games (especially jump rope).
And it’s hard to believe that only a few decades ago, Glee Clubs in high schools were filled, and they didn’t get slushies thrown in their faces–they were “cool.”
IMO, the thinking that we should be nervous singing around other needs to be corrected in the United States.
I wish I could think of something to do to correct this. I wish I really COULD teach the world the sing. Maybe I should write Coca Cola and ask if they would underwrite a nationwide campaign to teach people to sing and to LOVE singing!