Can't trust the dude!

[deb1]

I was reading the discussion about tea and I think that I might have insight into that. Sometimes people might have a desire for someone who is something that they are not. Paris seems like a very sweet, relgious person on these boards and she probably comes across that way in real life. This man might have an image of her as being more refined then he is. His asking her to tea might not be because he cares for tea over beer but simply because she strikes him as someone who would prefer tea to beer. So, he is making an effort to be more like her or at least accomadate his vision of her.

If he hadn’t been spitting on her car I would tell Paris to meet him in a public place and have a conversation with him. But his past actions cause me to worry about him and make him sound potentially dangerous.

 

[Paris_Blues]

Donna P:

And you’re asking us becuase…?

Run and run fast. Pray for all you want but his behavior points to problems.

(By the way… what is it with women who go for dangerous guys?)

Look for someone nice at church!

What the heck did I do now? You put the as if I’m a bother or something.

I’m only asking how I should deal with this because I’m the type of person who could give someone a good punch in the nose (I’ve done it before) and in order for me not to do that, I’m ONLY asking HOW to deal with this…ignore? Laugh at? Say, “sure, I’ll have some tea!”, etc.??? Just asked for some advice and if you have a problem with that, than don’t read my posts.

You missread my post Donna P. I NEVER intended to go out with this guy.

BTW, what is it with people who don’t give a damn?

 

[Sir_Knight]

Paris Blues:

I’m the type of person who could give someone a good punch in the nose (I’ve done it before)

If this guy is repeatedly spitting & throwing stuff at your car and has refused to stop, then a “good punch in the nose” would not be inappropriate behavior in my book especially if you’ll done nothing in the past to cause this reaction.

 

[criffton]

While self-defense is always a good option, is also takes quite an amount of consideration and training. A gun minimizes this because of the “point and pull” basis, but many people are uncomfortable with guns, especially those with little experience with them. Growing up in the mid-west, guns were just another tool, and there are many dangerous tools on the ranch. I intend to get a CCW permit as soon as I am old enough, but don’t expect everyone to. A problem with the suggestion of a knife is that it takes considerable amounts of training to use one effectively, and it is much easier to disarm someone with a knife then anything else. However a good one to looking to be the Emerson LaGriffe, small, concealable, and the handle design and small blade size make it very hard to disarm. However, no weapon beats awareness and planning in safety factors, and God’s protection is the best. So my advice would be to talk to other residents and their interactions with them, stay alert, pray both for him and for your safety, and if after this, if you think it best to take some self-defense training, go for it, it never hurts.

And a moment of levity, the best self-defense weapon against anything non-projectile would be a sword, think about it

Stopping powers
Hand to Hand-very low
Basic weapons-low
knife-medium
Gun-high
sword slash-very high

And if you use a berserker sword, nothing can stand in your way-- trueswords.com/images/prod/c/big_buster_sword_sm2_540.jpg

For an even better effect, get cybernetic enhancements and active camouflage like Grey Fox in the game Metal Gear Solid, completely unbeatable. -
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[Catholic_Mike]

I thought he should become a monk or a friar!). I don’t really consider him a Christian due to the fact of how he uses foul language and plays dirty heavy metal music (not my taste) and I know I shouldn’t judge the dude for that but I just know it.

1. Whether someone is a Christian is not determined by the type of music a person listens to, nor by the sort of bad language they use. We all sin. He may be a jerk, he may have problems, or any other number of things - but you really have no idea what sacraments he has or hasn’t recieved or what he believes.
2. I doubt you “just know it.”

 

[lak611]

I don’t know where to post this but I thought it might fit here…if not, sorry.

Okay, there’s this weird young guy who lives in my apartment (not in same room thank goodness but same building) and ever since he let his buddies park in my parking spot when I was gone (this happened over the summer last year) and I got quite irritated, he had been throwing things and spitting at my car! What makes matter worse is that my car is parked right underneath his window (though he’s on the third floor same as me). He wants negative attention too. unity.enya.com/images/smiles/smiles_rolleyes.gif

I have told my building manager about it. It’s not just me who complains, the whole building knows about him and has complained (one woman called the cops on him one time!). Heck, even the manager and her husband wish he left the apartment!

I’ve tried to be patient and have mercy on him and even prayed for him (I thought he should become a monk or a friar!). I don’t really consider him a Christian due to the fact of how he uses foul language and plays dirty heavy metal music (not my taste) and I know I shouldn’t judge the dude for that but I just know it.

Well, this afternoon after getting home from college, I was walking in the door and he was right behind me, probably finishing a cigarette or something. Unfortunetely, he had to follow me up the stairs and all that because yes, we’re on the same floor. I was trying to the find the key to my door when he stopped by me and asked me my name and I hesitated but told him and told him his name and he was surprised I knew it (well, he wasn’t that surprised because he probably knew everyone in the building knew who he was by the way he acted). He was like, “well, you know, maybe we can have some tea together or something” and all I could mutter was, “uh, right” or something like that.unity.enya.com/images/smiles/smiles_ignore.gif

I KNOW he’s flirting with me but this dude is almost 32 yrs. old though a handsome fella - he has dark wavy long hair with a nice face - but I really don’t think it’s a good idea because I have this terrible gut feeling that he’s dangerous. I was trying to unlock my door and wanted him to leave me alone but he still stood there and I didn’t say anything else and I think he got the message and said, “talk to you later” or something and he finally went his way and I walked in my apartment and thought, great.unity.enya.com/images/smiles/smiles_shock.gifunity.enya.com/images/smiles/smiles_disturbed.gif

What should I do? I don’t want to be mean to him but I want him to leave me alone because I don’t know what he has in mind or will do (if you know what I mean)unity.enya.com/images/smiles/smiles_unsure.gif

He always watches me from his window whenever I go out to the car or get the mail and oh, it’s so annoying

:banghead:

Suggestions???

I don’t know about you, but where I live, there is a police officer who lives in my apartment building. If you know of any policemen or policewomen in your building, get to know them, and let them know about your concerns. They will help you.

 

[Damascus]

The title says it all Paris. You can not trust the “dude”.
As far as all the rest goes, Um I honestly think you should get a cover for your car and make arrangements as soon as possible to move, in the meantime carry Mace and get a male friend to visit you often so he knows you are not alone and he may back off.
Sorry about the situation you are in.

 

[FCEGM]

The title says it all Paris. You can not trust the “dude”.
As far as all the rest goes, Um I honestly think you should get a cover for your car and make arrangements as soon as possible to move, in the meantime carry Mace and get a male friend to visit you often so he knows you are not alone and he may back off.
Sorry about the situation you are in.

Damascus, I see by your “join date”, that you missed the event of “Paris” leaving the forum. Good advice, though.