I’ve been a Catholic all my life. And I have to admit my absolute bafflement at Catholics and their obsession with sex and the proper way and motives for it. Sex is for more than just procreation. A reading of the Bible would dispel the confusion over sex for every Catholic. Just some random passages to exemplify my point: Take a look at 1 Corinthians 7:5, which reads: “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Just one more passage open to consideration is Ephesians 5:22-30, which reads, "22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansingb her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
That we are human is what sets our sexual acts apart from the lower animals. While the lower animals use sex for procreation, God gave mankind sex for a much greater purpose. It is not only for reproduction, it is also a complete giving of one’s self to the other; a complete sharing of mind, body, love, and devotion. It is how a married couple becomes one flesh. Sex is not conditional; it is not a negotiating tool. It is the sacred gift from God that unites a couple on all levels, for their lifetime. Sex cannot cause one spouse or another to objectify the other. If it does, somebody please explain the passage from Proverbs 5:19, which reads, “A loving doe, a graceful deer–may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love”
Relax, Catholics. Read your Bible. Stop living in fear and enjoy your spouse on all levels. It’s God’s gift to you.
