Catholic Meeting/Singles websites

[mchale]

I said I would join a catholic dating site and post a picture, because i did . Joined Catholic Singles about a month ago. I joined because after my last relationship ended, I realized how important it was to me that I be involved with someone who is faithful to the Church. I am currently chatting with a really nice woman there. I just hope things continue to advance .

I would also say that outside the explicitly Catholic sites, that eharmony is not a bad site either. It allows you to customize your profile so the matches you receive are Catholic and serious about their faith. It also matches on other criteria that some Catholic sites may not.

Mind you, I have also been thinking about Ave Maria singles, but will defer on that for a few months.

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Bill

 

[MichaelTDoyle]

I have been thinking about Ave Marie Singles. I tried secular sites without much luck (and in fact some problems). I’d like to start out as pen pals for a while, but I’d also probably post a photo and a detailed profile as I am already a curmudgeonly 41 year old.

I tend to lack prudence so maybe being single is just best for me.

 

[Norseman82]

eharmony is not a bad site either.

An archdiocesan official cited a figure that eharmony has an 85% divorce rate.

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

 

[JezuUfamTobie]

Fidelia,

I hope things go well for you on CM.

I just figured out I’m not really interested in the suitor from AMS after all. He’s a nice man, but his particular set of faults are not ones I want to live with. I want so badly to meet a good Catholic man who is gentle and takes care to be charitable toward others.

Online or offline, finding a good spouse can be a long process! On the bright side, every step of the way makes us wiser.

Praying for you (and Chevalier, too!)

 

[SimpleFaith]

An archdiocesan official cited a figure that eharmony has an 85% divorce rate.

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

Really? That boggles the mind.? If you don’t mind my asking … how old are you? If you live in the US, the chances of meeting a like-minded devout Catholic in your age group who is intellectually and spiritually compatible are… well … slim. My boyfriend at church is 87 years-old. I hope he is looking for a younger woman.

 

[JezuUfamTobie]

Really? That boggles the mind.? If you don’t mind my asking … how old are you? If you live in the US, the chances of meeting a like-minded devout Catholic in your age group who is intellectually and spiritually compatible are… well … slim. My boyfriend at church is 87 years-old. I hope he is looking for a younger woman.

Amen to all of that!

 

[SimpleFaith]

I
Dating is broken as a concept because it already gives a romantic or even sexual hint, while as it happens between relative strangers, it doesn’t give title to exclusivity - you won’t really tie yourself to the nice girl or guy you’ve just met. At the same time, there doesn’t seem to follow any obligation of self-control, so enter happy kissing and the obligatory smooching with a different man or woman for every day of the week. That’s sickening. If that’s Catholic, I’m Khomeini. One might as well play spin the bottle. I’m sure there’s enough good Catholic people to rush in defence of that “innocent” children’s game, I am. And that just because it doesn’t include sex, and someone will soon invent the argument that it probably reduces the chance of sex actually happening, et voila, the excuse will have been created… Except that excuses are just excuses and it really doesn’t take that much to notice there’s basically something horribly wrong with the whole thing at the very foundation.

This is also why I prefer the natural way of meeting people. That is simply coming across them as life goes on, making friends, pursuing the romantic interest if there are no impediments, when it comes.

All I have to say is … huh? And … be careful. The Lord may be calling you to a VERY long period of celibacy.

 

[catholicsingles]

re eharmony’s divorce rate, i would love to hear where you saw that or from what diocesan official you heard it from…while it might be true it seems hard to believe anyone outside of that particular site would know that, let alone the site itself…most of the time we are lucky if we hear feedback from the couples at all…

fyi, for those interested CatholicSingles.com is the only true Catholic singles site that is a member of the Better Business Bureau’s online program…

you can always lookup a business with them using the bbbonline.org site…

 

[jwoods03]

I have to put in a plug for Ave Maria Singles. That is where I met my wife, and our success story is listed under the marriages with the title “Two Countries Unite.” I am from the States and my wife is from Canada.

We met on the site August 18th 2005, were engaged October 1st, and married May 13, 2006. I must say we knew we were right for each other right away and I chuckle every day about how perfect God’s plan for us really is. It’s crazy how much time we spend fighting with our destinys and trying to pave our own path. That being said, I was a member on just about every other Catholic dating site out there and was even involved in another pretty serious relationship, but AMS is by far my favorite venue.

Deo gratias!
Jason

 

[chevalier]

All I have to say is … huh? And … be careful. The Lord may be calling you to a VERY long period of celibacy.

Hmm… how come? Explanation, please? You can’t be meaning a priestly calling, so I guess you’re seeing my attitude as a bit anti-social and a sign of not being ready for a relationship, aren’t you? I just stick by the old, traditional values, and if that means being a dinosaur, I accept. I know a good many people, priests included, who would find a contrary view a sign of not quite being ready for it, and acting on it a sin. If what you mean is something different still, then I obvious need more coffee.

 

[jc-servant]

An archdiocesan official cited a figure that eharmony has an 85% divorce rate.

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

I don’t know upon what quantity or quality of info you are basing your assumptions about people who use online services. Most of the faithful Catholics that I know who are online don’t go around advertising the fact to all and sundry. Also, I get plenty of personal contact in my parish, in my job, at the gym, doing volunteer work, etc. However, is the contact with faithful Catholic men who are single and anywhere near my age? Very rarely. The same goes for my female friends of a similar age. Then there is that pesky thing called compatibility even if one finds a like-minded Catholic within a reasonable age range.

I signed up for AMS as an act of faith for the Holy Spirit to show that I accept that marriage is my vocation and that my future husband might not be tossed conveniently in my path in my locality. I would not presume to know the heart of anyone else who chooses to open their search beyond the traditional means or their local area.

 

[mchale]

An archdiocesan official cited a figure that eharmony has an 85% divorce rate.

I find that statistic a little hard to believe for several reasons. 1. eharmony hasn’t been around long enough to really get a good feel for what the long term success of its relationships will be (The site is only 7 years old). 2. It actually tries to match people based on religion, values, interests etc. It seems unlikely to me that relatively compatible people would have their marriages fail so quickly. 3. E-Harmony, like any online site can only introduce you to people. The actual relationship has to be built by you and the choice to proceed to marriage needs to be made by both people in the relationship. I might ultimately believe that success rate of eharmony relationships is no greater than random relationships, but I would have a hard time believing the failure rate is 35% higher than meeting someone at random.

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

I am not dating my Mom . Seriously though, at the Mass I normally attend (Usually with my parents, since they usually go to that Mass), there simply are not that many people my age there and fewer of them are single and alas none of them are people I am attracted to.

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Bill

 

[Feanaro_s_Wife]

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

I would assume that anyone actively searching for the spouse God intends for them would keep their eyes and ears open. Why would someone search for a spouse online but ignore everyone else? It doesn’t make sense. Online matching is about creating more opportunity, not less.

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**That’s like saying that one should be alert for a potential match in the pew next to them but not at the grocery store or in the gym. **

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It doesn’t have to be either or.

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malia

 

[lizaanne]

I was not ready just yet to join AMS, but I had downloaded the profile form and had filled it out. When I got to the part about accepting God’s will if the person I meet is geographically far away, I just broke down in tears, telling God I didn’t think I could do that because I am close to my family and friends.

So I prayed about it, and finally came to a point of acceptance, that yes, if God decided that I was to fall in love with someone far away that I would accept that and go where I am led. So I was waiting to save up a bit more before paying the fee and joining the site.

Then I met my husband on Catholic OnLine, another message board like this one. I wasn’t really looking or even interested yet, we just started chatting, and we ended up falling in love.

He lived in England. I’m in Michigan.

So here we are now, over two and a half years later. He is here, we are married, and still working our way thorugh the maze of immigration paperwork to get his green card.

God sure does know a lot more than we give him credit for. If only we trust him.

~Liza

 

[1ke]

I’d like to start out as pen pals for a while, but I’d also probably post a photo and a detailed profile as I am already a curmudgeonly 41 year old.

I tend to lack prudence so maybe being single is just best for me.

My DH was a curmudgeonly 42 when I met him on Ave Maria and 44 when we married. Never say never.

 

[lizaanne]

My DH was a curmudgeonly 42 when I met him on Ave Maria and 44 when we married. Never say never.

I’m 42 - DH is 29 . We just married in September.

Never say never!!

~Liza

 

[1ke]

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew. I think we need to spend less time behind the screens and more time in personal contact.

Personally, it boggles my mind that people such as yourself *assume *those who sign up for online services are ignoring the people next to them in the pews.

 

[ack]

Personally, it boggles my mind that many of the people who sign up for online dating will ignore the people sitting right next to them in the pew.

Given your comments on other threads about how you want to start a *“revolt of the 40-year-old virgins who are sick and tired of being jerked around”, *I can only assume that you paid due attention to the people setting next to you in the pew, and came up empty-handed.

Now do you see why people are interested in online dating?

 

[KGM06]

I met my GF on a Catholic dating site.
I had a full profile and pic.
She had next to nothing.
3 weeks after we “met” we had our first date.
that was 7 months ago.
Last week I bought a bridal ring set, just waiting for the right time to propose.

 

[JezuUfamTobie]

I met my GF on a Catholic dating site.
I had a full profile and pic.
She had next to nothing.
3 weeks after we “met” we had our first date.
that was 7 months ago.
Last week I bought a bridal ring set, just waiting for the right time to propose.

Aww… very sweet!

Now hopefully she doesn’t frequent CAF and you didn’t ruin the surprise.