Canon 1136: Parents have the most grave obligation and the primary right to do all in their power to ensure their children’s physical, social, cultural, moral and religious upbringing.
Canon 226 § 2: Since they have given life to their children, parents have a most grave obligation and possess the right to educate them. Therefore, it is for Christian parents particularly to take care of the Christian education of their children according to the doctrine handed on by the Church.
My proposed course of action is for parents to consider their child’s immortal soul ahead of their station in life. My proposed course of action is for Catholics to stop suggesting that being Catholic is not important for attaining Heaven or that kids would be just as well off in a Church without valid sacraments. Radical opinions for a Catholic, I know.
I am suggesting neither - I am suggesting, as the Magisterium does, that the impossible is not required. And in situations where a Catholic marries a non-Catholic who is vastly more powerful and influential (a la St Monica - and that much is certainly true also of Kate Middleton) that it probably is as a matter of practice impossible to obtain either Catholic sacraments or a meaningful Catholic upbringing beyond what the parent themselves can teach and do.
I note you haven’t actually addressed the St Monica example although I have brought it up several times. She asked her husband if she could baptise Augustine as a youngster. The husband refused. She accepted the refusal and did not interfere in the father’s wishes for his upbringing, although continuing to pray and set a good example for both of them. You are making her out to be a neglectful mother and verging on a sinner as well.
Do you imagine that if Kate made the same request as Monica she would somehow magically get a different answer or something? She certainly would not. She would get a swift boot up the rear and the British courts would intervene if necessary to ensure, as the law requires, that the heir to the Governorship of the Church of England would, until they were of age, be brought up Anglican and nothing else.
Remember we are talking about a country that has an established Church, without real equality between its adherents and those of other faiths. Furthermore it would be as nonsensical as insisting an Anglican school hire a Catholic priest as its chaplain to arrange things any other way.
That is the second time you have implied that I believe in forced conversion or reception of the sacraments. Please do not do so again.
Forcing a non-Catholic to agree to raise raise their children, or allow them to be raised, Catholic, or having the child so baptised and instructed behind their back and against theor wishes, or whatever other action you have in mind as a remedy for the situation (and you still haven’t told us what exactly you would do if you were Monica or Kate) is every bit as bad as forcing that non-Catholic to be baptised themselves. That is why the Church does no such thing and makes no such requirement.
No, of course we do not force, and no of course we cannot make a child accept anything. However, we can and should do the best we can to ensure the child is given the best opportunity to make the proper choice when that time comes. As Blessed John Paul II said:
“Authentic freedom is the power to do what we ought to do; the power to choose the good, the true, and the beautiful.”
Well, if we do our jobs properly, we give the child a better chance to do as they ought, and freely cooperate with God’s grace. The sacraments, good catechesis, etc. can and do all facilitate this process.
Of course - as they do for the rest of us. Still we are not required by Canon Law or anything else to make our children confess every week or attend Mass every day - even those who are well able - regardless of the fact that they would benefit immensely from doing so.
The Church is not in the business of using the stick of Canonical requirement to push parents towards the good in that way. To try runs the risk of that ‘authentic freedom’ being nothing but formal lip service for a lot of Catholics.