Acrually, she COULD sign the papers, have the abortion, suffer severe complications, and you might never know until you got the bill, which you would have to pay since she was a minor.
All of this would end, and be forgotten before long, as unbelieveable as that may seen to you now. You would never forget that you killed your own child. This is what haunts so many women and men who are parents of children who are dead because of the parents’ choices. I did not kill my child, but still sometimes weep with relief when I think of how close I came.
How could she sign the papers? She is a minor and where would she go to allow this to be done and not involve the parents? I told my dauther to always be upfront with me and no matter what I would support her but never abortion. We would work through this matter together she never has to feel that she is alone in this situation.
I did have an unplanned pregnancy when I was in my early 20s. I thank God today that incredibly enough noone I knew, not my boyfriend or his family, not my friends, not the women at work and definitely not my parents mentioned abortion to me at all during this time. I shudder to think that if they had I might have jumped at the chance to avoid the very embarassment you are talking about. Yes, I was out of high school but the embarassment factor was still there. It was still difficult to tell my family especially my Dad.Today, my son is 10 and I am married to a wonderful man who adopted my son and I am expecting my son’s little sister in about a month and a half. Believe me when I tell you that my son’s life is worth any embarassment that I went through.
15 is too young to talk about abortion? Considering what so many 15 year olds are doing?
You’re kidding, right? Surely satire.
That’s a really insightful perspective. Thanks for sharing.
chicago said:
No it is not satire! I have taught my daughter no matter what type of trouble she gets herself into she can always come to me. Yes, I would be upset but I would definitely help her through it. As far as the laws are where I live she cannot get an abortion unless the parent is notified of it first.
Fair enough. (And I’m glad to hear that you have reinforced to her just how supportive you’d be and that she can trust you.) That said, do realize that the laws are not so strict in many places, there are plenty of loopholes around it, and even notification (valuable as it is) does not by any means suppose that a girl won’t still do it.
True, where there is a will there is a way. I just told her to be honest and never feel afraid to tell me if that is the case. I would never let my daughter do anything alone. That is a promise that I would never break.
The problem is that she still could “choose” to do it on her own, anyway.
Yes she could but I think I know my daughter better than anyone and she would not do it. We have a very close relationship and we would work out any situation that comes up.
I would also add that there is more to sex than what society puts out there. It is so much more than a combination of techniques that one can read about in a women’s magazine. Sex engages the heart, mind,body and soul which is why God created a special sacrament for it.
Well Said!
Wow! Thank you for having that conversation with your son. Too often, parents only have these types of conversations with their daughters. Many girls/women who get abortions are pressured to do so by the men in their lives.