@Rozellelily
Oh dear. The reason why this thread drags on an on is because you make wrong assumption. Itâs ok, I am not chiding you but you understand wrongly.
There are many successful Catholic marriages. I am one of them. Married more than twenty years, still going strong and we are in fidelity to each other.
You were bringing the issue of adultery and how to handle it, not that Christian marriages always end in adultery.
Rozellelily, your best bet is a man of God, preferably a Catholic. I have a daughter myself, and if she get married one day and ask me what she should look in a man, I would say, âA man who loves God.â
You would have a near perfect husband in a Catholic, but of course as long as he is a good Catholic, obeying the Churchâs teachings and loving God.
Expecting to get divorce is not a way to start a marriage.
Why would you think an agnostic would be a better husband than a Catholic? What is his guiding principle in marriage?
For a Catholic, it is stated very clearly - no divorce until death, fidelity to the marriage vow, love the wife like he loves his own body because now his wifeâs body is his own, love the wife as Jesus loves the Church meaning a husband will give his life for his wife, encourage the wife with words of the Gospel so that she would be holy and blameless before God.
Who says a Catholic husband should keep secret from the wife? If we talk about broken marriages, well, surely they are not confined to Catholics only, no?
Rozellelily, it is not punishment. Catholicism does not allow divorce unless annulled. Would you want a divorce and not wanting to save your marriage?
Of course, adultery is unacceptable. Nobody says it is. If the married couple start well, follow the Churchâs teaching of fidelity and love in their Christian marriage, there will be no certain behavior that you have to tolerate.
But if adultery should happen, then what are you going to do about it? Would you want a divorce or try to reconcile and forgive?
Not sure about the Evangelicals. âŚ
Adultery is sin, doing it again and again, is a sin again and again. What is your point?
Yes, we know husbands who changed after being filled with the Holy Spirit who transformed into loving husbands and who love their wives and God.
Do not under estimate the grace of God. A man who truly loves God by His grace will become a husband that God wants him to be.