I can’t imagine any priest saying this, because he would be annuling over 150 religious communities, more than that in lay movements. Let’s use that example.
If a priest or a spiritual director (remember the SD does not have to be a priest) says something that is contrary to the teaching of the Church, he is not a good spritual director for anyone.
By the way, the EF and OF are the same rite. They are forms of the one Roman Rite. One need not be inclined to one form or the other to be a good spiritual guide. The spiritual guide knows that it’s not about him, but about discerning the Will of God.
I do a lot of spiritual direction. My community is not an EF only community. Franciscans have never used Gregorian chant, as you have read in other posts that I have written. We are very austere in our celebration of the liturgy, whereas the FSSP is very elegant in its celebration. When you walk in the door and say, “I’ve come for spiritual direction,” I want to know about your life of prayer, your struggles with sin, your spiritual goals, what you have done thus far so that I can see what works or does not work for you. Then we take off from there.
I always inform the person that I come at the spiritual life from the Franciscan Tradition. When a person tells me that they prefer the EF, I tell them that the Franciscan Tradition is not committed to either the EF or the OF. It’s not an issue for me I understand the EF and its spirituality, but we’re not hee to discuss rubrics, we’re here to talk about your journey into the mind of God, as Mother Angelica said, “We’re going to talk about Jesus.” I then invite the person to ask questions. Often they will ask me what makes the Franciscan Tradition different from anyone else. This is an opportunity to introduce the person to the different traditions of Christian spirituality. The persons responses to my explanations will tell us if Franciscan spirituality is appropriate for him or her.
Sometimes I find that the person leans more toward an ascetical spirituality such as the Carmelite school or the person may lean more toward one of self analysis and self-awareness such as the Ignatian school. I go with that flow.
It’s not about me, it’s about God’s work in the life of the person to whom I’m ministering. Obviously, I have human liminations. One of those is that the spiritual school that I know best is the Franciscan school, so I tell the person. It does not mean that I don’t know anything about the other schools. If something comes up that I don’t know about, I tell the person that I don’t know. For examnple, I once had a person who was Chaldean. I know very little about their spirituality. I had another person who was Mozarabic. I know a lot about them. You are always looking out for what will help the person who comes to you, regardless of your preferences.
If the person to whom you go to allows his preferences to interfere, this may not be a good guide. The ministry is about serving the Holy Spirit, not serving oneself.
I don’t know if that helps.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF