Certain attitudes in traddom

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Actually, that’s not exact. I studied at Christendom with a Federal Grant. The grants are not given to the school, but the school does accept federal monies through the students who have Perkins and other Federal grants. Many students can only afford private colleges and universities with federal grants and federally backed loans. There are different ways to access federal money.
I’m not as familiar with Christendom. One can argue that the school taking federal money is different than the student taking federal money.

Even so, I know for a fact that Grove City College does not permit students to take federal money either, so you couldn’t study there on a Federal Grant as you did at Christendom. So my point remains that a school AND students at the school can function without federal funding.

Pax.
 
I haven’t read all of the replies so I may be repeating what someone has already said. I have seen this in the SSPX and other traditional groups. It is not across the board, but it is out there and it is harming SOME people. What I don’t agree with is when these people make their preferences seem like church teaching… like no pants for women, no tolerance of NFP, EF only, etc. I have a whole blog dedicated to these issues and what the church really teaches. My family and many of my friends’ families have been hurt by this extremism and it can be very cult-like.
 
I’m not as familiar with Christendom. One can argue that the school taking federal money is different than the student taking federal money.

Even so, I know for a fact that Grove City College does not permit students to take federal money either, so you couldn’t study there on a Federal Grant as you did at Christendom. So my point remains that a school AND students at the school can function without federal funding.

Pax.
I know that many of us would be unable to afford a private school education if it were not for grants and loans through the government and other organizations. Back in my day, credits were over $200.00. That’s a lot of money for some students. I was there for only a year to get some theology credits. I was sent to Catholic U. and then to Rome to finish. Private schools are expensive to operate, especially if they want to get into the area of science and technology. The faculties of liberal arts and letters are less expensive to operate. The research is cheaper. That’s one reason why the Vatican expanded its center for astronomic studies to the USA. In the USA it could get federal funds and funds from other countries as well. It’s an incredible place to do research, if astro physics and astronomy are your vocation.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
Yes, the Tridentine Latin Mass is the most pure and reverent worship to God. All focus and glory goes to Christ on the Holy Altar. SSPX offers such true Catholic Mass.

Thank you, all… God Bless all of you.
 
Yes, the Tridentine Latin Mass is the most pure and reverent worship to God. All focus and glory goes to Christ on the Holy Altar. SSPX offers such true Catholic Mass.

Thank you, all… God Bless all of you.
Since this is your first post, just so you know…

You’re not allowed to sing the glories of the SSPX on this forum or say the TLM is the true Catholic mass even if you believe it to be true. 😉
 
I think I can comment on this attitude being I sadly broke up with a trady girl I was dating over this whole “traditional” ordeal. While she and her family weren’t SSPXers they were very traditionalist. She was home-schooled and the family strictly attended only the EF (by the way they refused to call it that). There was no Catholic book in their house printed after 1962 and they approached no priest for spiritual guidance ordained after Vatican II in the OF. Pretty crazy but in all I liked her very much despite that. It started becoming a problem when I told her about the FSSP coming to town (they are currently in the process of opening a parish up in Houston). Her parents did not like the FSSP because of a comment they made that if the EF was banned they would follow the Pope’s decision. The last straw was she refused to go to college and work because she wanted to be a stay at home mom and that was “the traditional catholic” thing to do. At that point I just didn’t feel comfortable anymore. I myself am traditional in the sense that I do not wish the Roman Catholic Church to lose its Latin identity and have personal love for the EF but when more things start encompassing what it means to be traditional I find it to be very problematic. 🤷 It goes beyond just being apart of the SSPX.
 
I think I can comment on this attitude being I sadly broke up with a trady girl I was dating over this whole “traditional” ordeal. While she and her family weren’t SSPXers they were very traditionalist… the family strictly attended only the EF (by the way they refused to call it that)… approached no priest for spiritual guidance ordained after Vatican II in the OF.
In my experience, this is pretty common among people who define themselves as traditionalist these days.

There are good priests who celebrate both forms but why would you go to a Priest for spiritual guidance if you disagree on certain approaches?
Pretty crazy but in all I liked her very much despite that. It started becoming a problem when I told her about the FSSP coming to town (they are currently in the process of opening a parish up in Houston). Her parents did not like the FSSP because of a comment they made that if the EF was banned they would follow the Pope’s decision.
That sounds like stuff I heard from an SSPX parish I visited.
The last straw was she refused to go to college and work because she wanted to be a stay at home mom and that was “the traditional catholic” thing to do.
Now, that’s crazy talk!
 
In my experience, this is pretty common among people who define themselves as traditionalist these days.

There are good priests who celebrate both forms but why would you go to a Priest for spiritual guidance if you disagree on certain approaches?
When you go to a spiritual director you don’t go to discuss what he believes or what he likes. Spiritual direction is about discernment. You go to a spiritual director with whom you can discern the Will of God.

The problem with this choice not to go to any priest ordained in the new rite is that it borders on arrogance. Maybe the person does not even realize it. It is like telling the Church that you know better. That always causes concerns. It is one thing to prefer the Extraordinary Form of the Mass or certain practices that are older, such as Communion on the tongue and it’s quite another to behave in a way that says, “It may be Catholic enough for the pope, but it’s not Catholic enough for me.”

That begs the question, “Who are you?”

We don’t want to go there. It important to be humble. If it’s Catholic enough for the pope, than it’s Catholic enough for me. That’s what the FSSP is saying. That’s the way it its, unless it’s heresy. That’s a whole other topic. This is not heresy, this is simply changes in the rites. These changes are valid and lawful. We don’t have to like them, but we have to accept them. We don’t have the authority to make unlawful what the Church makes lawful or the other way around either, which is what the extreme liberals do, make lawful what the Church has said is unlawful. That makes us magisteriums unto ourselves. I like to use one of my favorite phrases. “You don’t want to go there.”
Now, that’s crazy talk!
I agree. Many very well educated women and high powered women have contributed to the growth of the Church, to the apostolic work of the Church and to the general welfare of humanity. I remember one of my favorite women, Mother Teresa of Calcutta. Many people don’t realize that the first thing she did when she left the cloister was to go to a teaching hospital run by religious sisters called The Medical Mission Sisters. These sisters are physicians, pharmacists, lab technicians, nurses, dieticians, etc. There played a key role in getting Mother Teresa started. For many years Mother would send her sisters to be trained by the Medical Mission Sisters. What would have happened if these women had not gone to medical school?

Maybe Mother would have gotten her training elsewhere, who knows? Maybe she would have sent her sisters elsewhere? Who knows? But we do know one thing. That’s not the way that Jesus wanted it to play itself out. Mother received her training to be a teacher from the Sisters of Loretto, who were highly educated women and then her nursing skills from the Medical Mission Sisters.

It’s beautiful to see how all of these women play a role in God’s plan and that’s my point. Educated and professional women have a place in God’s plan. We should never underestimate it. We should never say that it’s not traditional, because that’s not true. We have had queens, nurses, scholars, scientists, educators, theologians, and other, among Catholic women.

Another great woman of faith who brought it all together: marriage, motherhood and career was St. Giana Molla. Maria Montessori is not a canonized saint, but she was a devout Catholic, the first female physician in Italy and a great educator. Madam Curie was a Secular Franciscan and a very devout woman, also an outstanding scientist.

We don’t want to rule out stay at home moms. However, we don’t want to advance the cause and valud of stay at home moms at the expense of the hundreds of thousands of women who have been scholars and leaders while also being very faithful Catholics.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
When you go to a spiritual director you don’t go to discuss what he believes or what he likes. Spiritual direction is about discernment. You go to a spiritual director with whom you can discern the Will of God.

The problem with this choice not to go to any priest ordained in the new rite is that it borders on arrogance. Maybe the person does not even realize it. It is like telling the Church that you know better. That always causes concerns. It is one thing to prefer the Extraordinary Form of the Mass or certain practices that are older, such as Communion on the tongue and it’s quite another to behave in a way that says, “It may be Catholic enough for the pope, but it’s not Catholic enough for me.”
From what I’ve seen, it is more than a difference in rite. It’s an approach, a way of viewing one’s Catholic walk, but it doesn’t have to be negative.

Let’s say for example, I go talk to a priest about a penitential life and he says, “Oh there is no reason to do that these days”, would that person be a good spiritual director for me?
 
From what I’ve seen, it is more than a difference in rite. It’s an approach, a way of viewing one’s Catholic walk, but it doesn’t have to be negative.

Let’s say for example, I go talk to a priest about a penitential life and he says, “Oh there is no reason to do that these days”, would that person be a good spiritual director for me?
I can’t imagine any priest saying this, because he would be annuling over 150 religious communities, more than that in lay movements. Let’s use that example.

If a priest or a spiritual director (remember the SD does not have to be a priest) says something that is contrary to the teaching of the Church, he is not a good spritual director for anyone.

By the way, the EF and OF are the same rite. They are forms of the one Roman Rite. One need not be inclined to one form or the other to be a good spiritual guide. The spiritual guide knows that it’s not about him, but about discerning the Will of God.

I do a lot of spiritual direction. My community is not an EF only community. Franciscans have never used Gregorian chant, as you have read in other posts that I have written. We are very austere in our celebration of the liturgy, whereas the FSSP is very elegant in its celebration. When you walk in the door and say, “I’ve come for spiritual direction,” I want to know about your life of prayer, your struggles with sin, your spiritual goals, what you have done thus far so that I can see what works or does not work for you. Then we take off from there.

I always inform the person that I come at the spiritual life from the Franciscan Tradition. When a person tells me that they prefer the EF, I tell them that the Franciscan Tradition is not committed to either the EF or the OF. It’s not an issue for me I understand the EF and its spirituality, but we’re not hee to discuss rubrics, we’re here to talk about your journey into the mind of God, as Mother Angelica said, “We’re going to talk about Jesus.” I then invite the person to ask questions. Often they will ask me what makes the Franciscan Tradition different from anyone else. This is an opportunity to introduce the person to the different traditions of Christian spirituality. The persons responses to my explanations will tell us if Franciscan spirituality is appropriate for him or her.

Sometimes I find that the person leans more toward an ascetical spirituality such as the Carmelite school or the person may lean more toward one of self analysis and self-awareness such as the Ignatian school. I go with that flow.

It’s not about me, it’s about God’s work in the life of the person to whom I’m ministering. Obviously, I have human liminations. One of those is that the spiritual school that I know best is the Franciscan school, so I tell the person. It does not mean that I don’t know anything about the other schools. If something comes up that I don’t know about, I tell the person that I don’t know. For examnple, I once had a person who was Chaldean. I know very little about their spirituality. I had another person who was Mozarabic. I know a lot about them. You are always looking out for what will help the person who comes to you, regardless of your preferences.

If the person to whom you go to allows his preferences to interfere, this may not be a good guide. The ministry is about serving the Holy Spirit, not serving oneself.

I don’t know if that helps.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
Bro. JR,
First of all, thank you for an explanation of spiritual direction, especially good spiritual direction.

Most people don’t even know that such a thing as spiritual direction exists, let alone are able to find a spiritual director. The Catholic Spiritual Direction website used to have a poll about how many people wanted spiritual direction but could not find a director – the number was huge. In many people’s experience, you – and your view of spiritual direction – are a rarity. 🙂
I can’t imagine any priest saying this “Oh there is no reason to do that [penitential practices] these days”], because he would be annuling over 150 religious communities, more than that in lay movements.
The problem is that many people have heard from priests things such as TrueLight describes. If people had not heard such things – had not experienced the “annuling” of tradition from their priests – this Traditional Catholicism forum would probably not exist.
 
I can’t imagine any priest saying this, because he would be annuling over 150 religious communities, more than that in lay movements. Let’s use that example.

If a priest or a spiritual director (remember the SD does not have to be a priest) says something that is contrary to the teaching of the Church, he is not a good spritual director for anyone.

By the way, the EF and OF are the same rite. They are forms of the one Roman Rite. One need not be inclined to one form or the other to be a good spiritual guide. The spiritual guide knows that it’s not about him, but about discerning the Will of God.

I do a lot of spiritual direction. My community is not an EF only community. Franciscans have never used Gregorian chant, as you have read in other posts that I have written. We are very austere in our celebration of the liturgy, whereas the FSSP is very elegant in its celebration. When you walk in the door and say, “I’ve come for spiritual direction,” I want to know about your life of prayer, your struggles with sin, your spiritual goals, what you have done thus far so that I can see what works or does not work for you. Then we take off from there.

I always inform the person that I come at the spiritual life from the Franciscan Tradition. When a person tells me that they prefer the EF, I tell them that the Franciscan Tradition is not committed to either the EF or the OF. It’s not an issue for me I understand the EF and its spirituality, but we’re not hee to discuss rubrics, we’re here to talk about your journey into the mind of God, as Mother Angelica said, “We’re going to talk about Jesus.” I then invite the person to ask questions. Often they will ask me what makes the Franciscan Tradition different from anyone else. This is an opportunity to introduce the person to the different traditions of Christian spirituality. The persons responses to my explanations will tell us if Franciscan spirituality is appropriate for him or her.

Sometimes I find that the person leans more toward an ascetical spirituality such as the Carmelite school or the person may lean more toward one of self analysis and self-awareness such as the Ignatian school. I go with that flow.

It’s not about me, it’s about God’s work in the life of the person to whom I’m ministering. Obviously, I have human liminations. One of those is that the spiritual school that I know best is the Franciscan school, so I tell the person. It does not mean that I don’t know anything about the other schools. If something comes up that I don’t know about, I tell the person that I don’t know. For examnple, I once had a person who was Chaldean. I know very little about their spirituality. I had another person who was Mozarabic. I know a lot about them. You are always looking out for what will help the person who comes to you, regardless of your preferences.

If the person to whom you go to allows his preferences to interfere, this may not be a good guide. The ministry is about serving the Holy Spirit, not serving oneself.

I don’t know if that helps.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
Thanks. I understand this a lot better now. 🙂
 
*I can’t imagine any priest saying this, because he would be annuling over 150 religious communities, more than that in lay movements. *Br. JR, OSF 🙂
I’m afraid that happens a lot. I have heard priests give very bad advice and even go against the teaching of the church. Alarming.
 
I’m afraid that happens a lot. I have heard priests give very bad advice and even go against the teaching of the church. Alarming.
That is inappropriate. It is one thing to have an opinion and another to contradict the Church. My advice is to politely thank the person and leave.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
That is inappropriate. It is one thing to have an opinion and another to contradict the Church. My advice is to politely thank the person and leave.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
Such things happened in confession. I wonder if you could suggest how to respond to a priest when he contradicts church teaching? Since I am there as a penitent I don’t know if it is even appropriate to engage in discussion, but on the other hand some things are just plain wrong. (for example to say that certain mortal sin is nothing to really worry about).
Thank you.
 

Glad to hear that. But what I said above concerning college – seems to be the mentality which has developed within the SSPX. Again – I can’t say if this all across the board.
what are you basing this on? You do know that the SSPX run St Mary’s College where they admit women? So why are you saying they discourage college education of females?
 
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The last straw was she refused to go to college and work because she wanted to be a stay at home mom and that was “the traditional catholic” thing to do.
Now, that’s crazy talk!
What’s crazy about it?

Being a stay at home mom IS the traditional Catholic thing for a married woman to do. What is untraditional about someone who doesn’t want to go to college, not going to college? So this woman was trying to follow the vocation God was calling her to, and that was “unCatholic” in some manner?

Pax.
 
What’s crazy about it?

Being a stay at home mom IS the traditional Catholic thing for a married woman to do. What is untraditional about someone who doesn’t want to go to college, not going to college? So this woman was trying to follow the vocation God was calling her to, and that was “unCatholic” in some manner?

Pax.
Its one thing for a woman to decide not to go to go to college, its quite another thing for a woman to say she does not want to go to college because a Catholic woman should not. This may be your belief and we can respect it but it is certainly not mine or that of the person who posted this about her ex girlfriend.
 
Its one thing for a woman to decide not to go to go to college, its quite another thing for a woman to say she does not want to go to college because a Catholic woman should not. This may be your belief and we can respect it but it is certainly not mine or that of the person who posted this about her ex girlfriend.
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Nor mine.

A woman has the right to stay at home, but I don’t think it is ever a good idea for a woman to NOT be educated. She can go to school and then choose to stay at home. It should be a choice, not her only option because she is not educated.

A woman needs to make sure she can take care of herself and her children, in case anything happens like: civil divorce, death of the spouse, or disability of the spouse.

To discourage a woman from going college or to teach it is not the traditional Catholic thing to do is plain old wrong.
 
Common’ folks . . . the idea that a woman should not go to college is indifensible. The Church has never subscribed to such a notion. If she chooses not to do so, that is her right to make that choice.

However, that was not the statement that was made. The statement that the young lady is making to her boyfriend is really a quote from Bishop Williamson who said that women should not go to college, but marry and become stay at home moms.

OK now, let’s look at the facts. Many of us were educated in Catholic schools and most had sisters and female lay teachers. They are women, well educated and they are professionals. This has been so for several hundred years now.

Heck, there were sisters who were moms at the same time. Elizabeth Ann Seton was mother of five, a sister and a teacher. Louise de Marillac was a mother, a sister and a nurse. Joaquina de Vedruna was a mother of five, a sister and a teacher. Let us not forget Giana Molla. All of these women are canonized saints. They packed up their kids and they went where they were needed.

I’m not saying, nor is the Church, that every mother has to do this. It’s a choice, just like staying at home to raise your children and not going to college is a choice. In the end, it’s a response to God’s call. God calls some women to the hidden life, wife and mother and he calls other women to be engaged with the bigger world. To do that, they need an eductaion that prepares them to do what God wants them to do and do it well.

We’re talking as if this idea of a woman going for higher education is a new concept. When we talk this way, we’re being intellectually dishonest with our daughters. We need to teach them to open their hearts and respond to Christ’s call, where ever he may call them.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
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