We talked yesterday and I told him that I was moving on. I told him that he moved on the day he started staying with her. I said its not fair for me to wait while your having another life with her. If you can move on then so should I. He said please don’t give up on me please. I told him I haven’t seen you do anything to make me think that you really want a life with me. Yes, you tell me but I need to see some kind of action. And you can’t seem to do this. I told him I was going to tell our daughter because I was afraid that maybe she would see them in town together or maybe kids at school could also say something. I told him how do I answer the question Mama who is that lady with Dad over there? He said… nothing! He just kept saying…you can’t give up on me yet please. I told him I realize your scared and I know that we have a lot to deal with…but I need to see something that is going to give me some kind of hope for our future and I haven’t seen it. I told him we needed to talk and I said serious talking…if you want to work thinks out. I’m not sure you want to… I told him I felt like he was on the edge of a cliff and I was at the bottom just waiting for him to jump. Worried that he might hit the ground. I told him JUMP have faith that the Lord will catch you. I said JUMP! JUMP! please JUMP!! The Lord will help me catch you and you won’t hit the ground. Please let go and Jump PLEASE! HAVE FAITH !!! I told him I had to go and I hung up. We talked again last night and he said that he just wanted me to know that he wasn’t going to be staying with her anymore. He said I know we can’t work things out with me there. He said I need to know what it’s like to be alone he said I think I need to suffer a little and think alone. He said he would be staying at either the shop or his friends house. I told him that he didn’t have to stay at the shop I told him stay with your sister. He said I guess I could do that too. I told him these are the things I need to see. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. Lord carry us…Guide us…
I know that you are suffering and my heart goes out to you along with my prayers…however…I want to be truthful with you.
Stop mothering this infantile man and mother your child. Begin by
keeping this sin and disgusting behavior as far away from you and your child as possible.
There is too much drama going on…
adultery is a grave sin with** serious **consequences …this is the **reality **of your situation and draging it out is only causing confusion and distracting you from what is really taking place.
If this man cares a hoot about you, his child or has any respect for women
he will quit this garbage… pronto. It is his responsibility to seek out help and to turn to God because he is the one doing grave wrong.
What a shame that your child is not only exposed to this ( you are distracted because of your hurt ) **but it may influence their life in a shameful
and lasting way. **
See your parish priest and refuse to have anything to do with this immature man until there are serious changes
in his disgusting behavior, he gains **insights into his self centerness **and
he is right with God,
you, his child and
the Church.
Do what is right and right is what God said about this kind of behavior…"**Thou shall not commit adultery"! **God commands this because this is distructive behavior and causes broken dreams and broken lives.
Your husband is doing serious wrong…not only against you but against his child and against Gods law and
he needs to be taken to task for this before he loses his soul. Anything less is babble on his part… excuses and looking for an easy way out.
There is none!!
Stand up for what is right. Do not
allow your feelings ( as valid as they are) to win the day. Think…think…think and get cross about his behavior and the harm that he has done…is doing and may well continue to do **without seriou change in his personality **and
sincere remorse for his sin. Time for this fellow to grow up and to begin acting like the man, husband and father
that he promised God he would be on your wedding day.
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