Dr. F. Berlin, a John Hopkins psychiatrist and specialist on pedophilia, gave
this interview before completion of the Church child sex abuse survey by John Jay College. Dr. Berlin explains the nature of said disorder, the misconceptions the public have about priest pedophilia and the obstacles the Church faced. At the end of the interview, he has wise words for the Church.
Excerpts
Q. How prevalent is sexual abuse of pre-adolescent children by priests?
A. My clinical impression … is that most of the involvement with youngsters by priests has been with those around the teenage years rather than the prepubescent.
[John Jay Report reached the same finding.]
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Q. How does introducing the naive person into sexual activity start?
A. It usually evolves insidiously and can go on for some time. The common misperception about people who become sexually involved with children is that they are just pretending to care in order to get at them sexually. In most cases, it’s really quite different. The priest or whoever tends to have a genuine affection for the child and is interested in them in ways that would otherwise be quite positive. Then, sadly, because they feel sexually tempted and act on those temptations, what otherwise might have been a healthy and positive relationship becomes a damaging one. So it usually involves getting to know the child over a period of several weeks or even months, gradually progressing from a non-sexual to a sexual relationship and then, once it becomes sexualized, in some cases, it might go in for a number of years, before it ultimately comes to a conclusion.
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Q. So pedophilia is almost impossible to cure.
A. There’s no cure for pedophilia. There is, however, effective and successful treatment. As with alcoholism, where there are many similarities, we talk about successful treatment but not cures. There’s something about your makeup that makes you vulnerable and you need to pay attention every day to make sure that you don’t, so to speak, fall off the wagon. If you think you’re cured, meaning that this vulnerability is somehow removed, that’s dangerous because you can let down your guard, stop maintaining vigilance, and gradually slip back into old habits.
**Years back, the Church, very sadly, was misled by mental health professionals. The Church was one of the earliest organizations to recognize that pedophilia existed and to send people for help. Unfortunately, back in the late '40s and '50s, and even the '60s, psychiatrists who didn’t understand what we do now thought that these people could be cured. The Church, after talking to the authorities of the day and believing that these people were going to be safe, put them back into the community. **The fault there was not the Church’s.
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Q. Do you see a difference in how the Catholic Church deals with this problem now as compared to the early '80s when people began to learn that sexual abuse of minors existed in the Catholic Church?
A. I have met a number of extremely conscientious and dedicated priests who are absolutely determined to do everything they can to deal with this problem as effectively as possible.
I personally believe there has been too much Church-bashing. The Church has made mistakes – we’ve all made mistakes – and sadly there may still be mistakes that individuals will make as time goes along. The notion that somehow priests in general don’t care about the well-being of children, or that they’re insensitive to their parishioners, or that they would turn a blind eye and allow children somehow to be harmed – that’s not true. From what I’ve seen of all the hard work, there’s a tremendous dedication to doing everything possible to minimize these kinds of problems and, to the extent that they can be eliminated to try to do that as well.
The last three questions of the interview below:
Q. Are there any kinds of rules to guide behavior?
A. Efforts are being made to teach priests. I saw an excellent film made recently to educate bishops and priests about boundary issues, not only with children but also with adults, for example, how to show concern for a woman who’s grieving over the death of her husband in a way that will not be misinterpreted. These are tricky issues. They require education. They don’t necessarily come to us through intuition.
Q. Is there anything else on which you would like to comment?
A. Yes.
The Church needs to recognize that the first priority must be the parishioners, to let parishioners know that there is a genuine sense of concern. Lawyers need to help the Church accomplish this without creating a “we-vs.-them” mentality. In other organizations, if somebody’s suing, it is “we-vs. -them.” But the Church is in a unique position where it should never be “we-vs. -them.” The people whom I’ve met in the Church want the first response to be that of ministry, to be what the Church is supposed to be. The question is how to do this in modem American society where the legal system is very adversarial.
Q. Any other comments?
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For some, it’s easy to write off human beings as disposable commodities, but the Church can’t. It needs, first of all, to protect society, when it comes to pedophilla. There is no doubt about that. It also needs to be true to its belief in the possibility of salvaging the human life that’s gone astray. Forgiveness and atonement – those shouldn’t just be words. Though these concerns must never interfere with safeguarding parishioners, at the same time, the Church cannot be true to itself, if it treats the pedophile priest as though he is less than human. The Church cannot give up its very essence in dealing with this difficult problem. In the understandable anger and outrage that people feel, the reaction can be to treat these people like disposable items. But that’s not the way the Church can function and still be Church.
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