Part 2
You have consistently referenced my daughter’s and the post-hunt beer. I could spend alot of time explaining the impact of alcohol in my family (father and father-in-law were both alcoholics). But the crux of the issue is my wife (worked for an alcohol counseling center as a family counselor dealing w/ the non-abusing family members) and I have made a decision that we believe it best that our children (because we don’t know if our parents problem was a genetic disposition vs. a physcologicial disposition to abuse) that they need to learn about alcohol by observing responsible drinking and sometimes even partaking under our supervision. We feel strongly that if college and being away from our care is the first place they encounter alcohol w/o a good base of experience and understanding, we have skirked our obligation as parents.
We also believe that the current juvenilization in law of budding adults and young adults contributes to a lack of maturity today. I refer once again to the First Things article on Against Eternal Youth (
firstthings.com/ftissues/ft0508/opinion/green.html ) as a decent introduction to this thought.
I’m sure that my “situation” or views above won’t sway you and that we should accept the civil authorities and societies views about parenting. And frankly, that isn’t important to me. My wife and I within the holy confines of our home are committed to always doing what we can to make our children first and foremost people that will please God. We pray about everything (together and separate). We both have spiritual directors in addition to our Pastor. We know we aren’t perfect but we look to the Holy Spirit to aid us make as many decisions as possible. And we feel that society and even the civil authorities are not only bad examples but bad influences. We will not delegate our parental obligations to God to them and we will not defer to their judgment.
When I was confirmed, I assumed the responsibility to live my life according to God’s will. When I got married, my Pastor said I assumed the responsibility to do all I can to get my wife to Heaven. When I was blessed w/ my four children, I assumed the responsibility to do what I can to make them holy. Nobody or no government are surrogates. These are what I’ll have to answer for when I go before my Lord.
But, since you seem to want CCC reference (I hate doing this as it can be like a sola scriptura protestant taking things out of context) I’ll give you some. These sections give the family clear preeminence over the civil authorities, especially stated in CC2209 (principle of subsidiarity) and CC2210 (their grave duty). I had to delete some sections for brevity. Read the entire section if you think I took something out of context but that is not my intent.
2204: “The Christian family constitutes a specific revelation and realization of ecclesial communion, and for this reason it can and should be called a domestic church.” It is a community of faith, hope, and charity; it assumes singular importance in the Church, as is evident in the New Testament
2205: The Christian family is a communion of persons, a sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit. . . .
2206: . . . .The family is a privileged community called to achieve a “sharing of thought and common deliberation by the spouses as well as their eager cooperation as parents in the children’s upbringing.”
2207: The family is the original cell of social life. It is the natural society . . . .
2209 . . . . Following the principle of subsidiarity, larger communities should take care not to usurp the family’s perogatives or interfere in its life.
2210 The importance of the family for the life and well-being of society entails a particular responsibility for society to support and strengthen marriage and the family.
Civil authority should consider it a grave duty "to acknowledge the true nature of marriage and the family, to protect and foster them, to safeguard public morality, and promote domestic prosperity."