vz71:
You are mistaken. I have been an advocate for the civil laws.
Specificly, the just ones. The unjust laws I believe you and I both agree should never be followed.
Why are you adding words to my viewpoint? Is there truly a simple misunderstanding here? Do you believe that my advocacy of the laws of the land constitutes an acceptance of their philosophies?
I have never, not would I consider, these ‘views’ on parenting to be any use. I often find them destructive, and contrary to good parenting in general. But that is also the “civil authorities and societies views about parenting.”
And as can be shown through another quick read of this stream, these views are not mine. The LAWS, however, are. At least where they are just laws and not unjust.
I used the words regarding “intrusive and restrictive” and you were sarcastic (sarcasm is ok as you were trying to make a point. I’m not offended). I guess I should have used the word “destructive.”
There could be a misunderstanding. I’ve always said that just laws MUST be followed and I advocate that unjust laws should be disobeyed and unjust application of just laws resisted. I just don’t ascribe to the attitude that if it is illegal, it is immoral or if it is legal it is moral. We should ask first if it is right and then consider the legality.
When I was a teen, alcohol consumption was allowed under parental supervision w/ little restriction. I turned 18 early in my senior year and it was legal for me to drink beer. Those 9 months prior to going to college allowed my mother to supervise and correct me when I abused alcohol. They were critical to my right understanding when I went to college (I stayed home and studied why my peers were drinking several nights a week) and I believe critical to my capacity to not have succumbed to it as my father did (he died at 62 a fall down drunk and was raised in a tee-totaling house). Now the law is such that my daughter will be a junior in college before she can legally drink outside my home. Thank you very much Society for removing the opportunity to supervise and teach my daughter about alcohol so she can learn it from her peers at college!
When my son was younger, he and I often spent a Saturday hunting geese in the morning and then walking fence rows hunting pheasants. After we were done, we’d stop and have a steak at a steakhouse and I’d let him have a couple of beers. I got to treat him with respect and like that responsible young adult he had become. Other hunters would come up and ask how we did, where we hunted, etc. My son was treated as an adult by these other men too. We both look back on those days as some of best bonding days. He shared intimately in that environment what was happening in his life and he was open to my counsel. When he comes home now (he is married and has a son), Saturday afternoons (even if it isn’t hunting season) are usually such that we go for a drive in the country, stop at a bar for a steak and beer and we talk as two fathers (except I always pay
). As we age, we both have come to see important this “tradition” is and our wives just know it is “our time.” Our wives and my two daughters spend the time going to a movie and then having dinner. I lament that my wife can’t let the girls have a glass of wine and teach them about responsible drinking thru observation AND participation. But that is illegal.
I apologize that my recent examples are about alcohol. Earlier I used a child labor situation and curfew (and non-parenting issues like the employer situation). I only use them as they are indicative of a new philosophy permeating the laws that the state knows better than parents. As a Catholic (but I respect those who differ from me), I believe we need to push back by trying to change such laws (they are well beyond just alcohol) that usurp parental teaching authority and when we feel it necessary to disobey.
I won’t get a second chance to raise the two girls still at home. And I’m just not comfortable in my conscience to use the excuse, “well I followed the law.”
As you might have figured, I’m a bit of a civil disobedience advocate. I know it isn’t always the right approach but neither is acquiesance. The world needs all kinds. Anyway, I’ll tell you a story.
I’m in situation where a police officer is being rough and disrespectful to the dignity of a older teen under arrest. Without thinking, I intervene (verbally) on his behalf and end up in jail. Fortunately for me, there were cameras that recorded the event. At the end of the story, no charges were filed against me, the Sheriff apologized and thanked me, and the deputies were suspended w/o pay.
If I had the attitude of deference to civil authorities, I’d have kept my mouth shut. But it was my attitude to always question them that made me open to hear the Holy Spirit urge me to act.