Comparing holiness

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Is it difficult for more emotional people to be holy? Some people overlook the harshness of tone and humbly accept the truth behind the harshest criticism or correction. Isn’t that how the Lord wants us to be? Some people can humbly accept romantic rejection. Others find faults in their ex’s new lover. They bred jealousy and unnecessary resentment. The truth is he doesn’t want you, why become angry he is now happy with someone else? Does he need your approval? I’ve had friends become angry their ex quickly moved on to date their friend, a girl they didn’t care for or worse an enemy. The end is the end. No man owes you loyalty. Or worse women feeling betrayed their casual sex partner asked out a woman in their presence or asked out a mutual friend, enemy, etc. If there is no agreement to exclusivity and you agreed to a casual relationship, why become upset or attached that you are not what he wants?
Where is the rational in that?
Some people are able to go above and beyond and forgive their cheating ex and genuinely feel happy for them or wish the best for new relationship.
Why can’t some people behave that way?
I think emotionality and sensitivity hampers people from practicing rational morality. Or forgiving others easy.
 
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I’m not sure what you’re asking, but are you going to be okay?
 
Just some of the things you listed. I know it’s not necessarily about you, but sometimes I have to get worried about people.
 
I think your questions are rather interesting. Perhaps you should be a writer.

Passionate people are more challenged in various ways. Some people are just fairly cold blooded, so it’s not really any virtue on their part not to react in an angry way.

Comparing holiness is hard to do. I think it’s best not done at all. Not sure. If we are passionate, highly emotional persons, we must do as best we can to master ourselves and for the rest, we must rely on God’s mercy.
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I think emotionality and sensitivity hampers people from practicing rational morality. Or forgiving others easy.
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Yes, you are probably right. It is more of a challenge, but it can still be done when we seek the grace to do it through prayer and the sacraments, etc. and our own hard effort. Maybe we will only succeed partially, but at least we will have tried.
 
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Do you have any adequate answers to the questions I have posed? Why do some people feel or become possessive over their ex’s just because they had sex?
 
I’m never feel quite satisfied with anything. I must be difficult to deal with. It is difficult I don’t feel some type of way about something. Being transparent, sensitive, and emotional feels like a strong cross to bear.
 
Sex binds emotionally, psychically, spiritually, physically…whether a person intends or wants it to or not.

And the nature of love is to possess. And human pride will not be struck a blow without consequence, at least by many. So those are some of the reasons.
 
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Do you have any adequate answers to the questions I have posed? Why do some people feel or become possessive over their ex’s just because they had sex?
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Well, the hormones released during sex are ordered to bonding. That one is purely scientific.
 
Most people, if not all, are not satisfied. It’s just that many people do not express it externally in words. You are far from alone.

Each soul is different. Some are much more fragile than others.
 
Aren’t they wrong for feeling such a way? They agreed to have sex without commitment all of sudden when it becomes real, it hurts. Like feeling insulted your lover asked out another woman over you? Sometimes I think people don’t fully understand what they are agreeing to or perhaps feelings naturally change over time.
 
So it is pride why some women feel offended, slighted, hurt or even fall into depression after a man who was sleeping with them quickly moves on to a committed relationship with a different woman? To make me more scandalous let that want be a mutual or close friend or even an enemy
 
Well that hit really close to home, which is one of the reasons I now wish I would have waited until marriage. Just gender swapped from the example you provided.
 
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Hmmm…I stereotypically believed sex was more bonding and bonding for the woman
 
I wish God made some souls less passionate, transparent, emotional and less sensitive. The world is an obstacle for those who possesses these traits to an extreme.
 
I’m overly emotional, maybe it’s something about that.
 
It’s biology.

They aren’t wrong to respond to biological urges with the emotions that are the natural consequences.

Some people are able to get over their hormones either because of trauma or because they have become jaded to such feelings but that doesn’t negate that the high levels of oxytocin and vasopressin that are produced.

It’s not about “changing one’s mind” at all.

Men do respond differently to bonding hormones, too, as those hormones tend to interact with testosterone and create more of a"conquered" and secured ownership whereas interacting with estrogen tends to create more of a desire for exclusivity. When disordered in men, this leaves them feeling that they can have sex with a woman and then that woman is “theirs” whereas the disordered reaction in women tends to be excessive posession and intense jeousy.
 
Does fornication hurt a less emotional person? Is fornication only a sin against women because they will bear the harsher consequences of the sin?
 
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