Compliments from your spouse

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Dh recently told me that a quality he appreciates is that I never nag. He added, even though one should “never say never”, he can in this case!

Compliments you’ve gotten recently . . .??
—KCT
 
Wow! That’s a good one! 👍 Good for you, KCT!

I get compliments from DH, but I’m drawing a blank on specifics right now :o
 
My bf tells I am “a wonderful person” a lot. I still need to find out why he considers me thus. 😛
 
well I did try on some new slimmer outfits, and he didn’t laugh or sneer, he said “interesting” whatever that means.
 
puzzleannie said:
well I did try on some new slimmer outfits, and he didn’t laugh or sneer, he said “interesting” whatever that means.
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Father forgive me for I have sinned. The day I came home and my wife had a new Lexus in the driveway for a test drive I told her… “It makes your butt look big.” :extrahappy:
 
ChinaDad said:
Father forgive me for I have sinned. The day I came home and my wife had a new Lexus in the driveway for a test drive I told her… “It makes your butt look big.” :extrahappy:
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ROFLMBO!!! Oh my goodness - you did NOT~!

I am inspired though – next time my husband tries to get me to agree to buy a Vespa Scooter, I am going to tell him it makes a certain AHEM something look small! LOL

😉
 
KCT said:
…Compliments you’ve gotten recently . . .??
—KCT
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My wife never compliments me on anything. She never says thank you. She never says she is sorry when she hurts me. I hold my tounge as much as I can. One thing of the things I ALWAYS do is open the car door. When she holds out her hand for me to help her take her balance to get out I say Thank you becace she gave me her hand to touch. She never responds. But I stay because I took a vow.
 
Haven’t had one from hubby in years. I honestly can’t remember the last one.
 
Today my husband told me that he was proud of the work my girlfriend and I did on the house: we unpacked and set up my office/sewing room which I have put off for 6 MONTHS after moving. It HAD to be done, I just didn’t even know where to start. We didn’t have a garage in our last home so untold **** got piled in my sewing/office room. Meaning sorting it out would be a huge deal.

Plus, she helped me hang all my pictures/shelves/knick-knacks that I just can’t seem to commit to putting up.

We did it in just over 24 hours. Well minus sleeping and eating times! LOL

I had gone garage-saling on Saturday for desks to set up that aforementioned room. I found two beautiful desks, one an antique to drewl-over. I paid $40 for both, so DH added in a compliment on that too!
 
KCtheMommy said:
ROFLMBO!!! Oh my goodness - you did NOT~!

I am inspired though – next time my husband tries to get me to agree to buy a Vespa Scooter, I am going to tell him it makes a certain AHEM something look small! LOL

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I certainly DID! Ummm…didn’t work though…she bought the car anyway. 😦 But, she did drive it for over 10 years!
 
Dirk_Skene said:
My wife never compliments me on anything. She never says thank you. She never says she is sorry when she hurts me. I hold my tounge as much as I can. One thing of the things I ALWAYS do is open the car door. When she holds out her hand for me to help her take her balance to get out I say Thank you becace she gave me her hand to touch. She never responds. But I stay because I took a vow.
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I loath seeing posts like this. It makes me sad. It does. I am sorry about it.

Have you talked to her about it? Have you told her this?

Maybe you could just say one day “There are some things in this marriage that hurt me. Not the things that you DO, it’s the things you don’t do. Or don’t say.” Hand her a copy of “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr. Laura Schlessinger and ask her to read it. You can’t force her to, but you can highly suggest it.

I wouldn’t know what to do if my spouse helped me out of the car EVERY TIME and thanked ME for the pleasure of the job. She’s a lucky lady, and sadly us women are popular, wait us HUMANS are popular for taking for granted the good things people do for us over time.

Your marriage needs a kick in the pants – or rather your wife does. Hopefully you can figure out a way to do that. God bless, you have my prayers.
 
mommyof4 said:
Haven’t had one from hubby in years. I honestly can’t remember the last one.
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Uhm wow.

I go through compliment-less spurts of time like this with my DH. So I tend to up MY compliments to him. Good feelings and wanted good comments is usually reciprocated – so ask yourself when is the last time you complimented him? I know, it’s a pattern. You probably don’t feel like it. I get really frustrated when I go on a compliment surge and get nothing back. Then I remind myself that I am giving him compliments because I MEAN it – not because I want a compliment. SO I compliment him when he deserves it, which is often, (he is one handsome fella) and when he works hard – more rare, because he is a lazy guy at home! LOL Then when I feel a little bit down that he hasn’t said a thing to me in a while I perk MYSELF up in looks AND attitude, and I get one. A genuine one, not just reciprocation, which he’s not a fan of. He told me that when we were dating – he didn’t like girls who say nice things only to hear something nice in return. He finds it fake. That won’t change right? So I do things to make him mean what he says when he compliments.

Sorry you are feeling down. Sorry your DH won’t compliment you. Even a simple mention that his attention and compliments make you feel good and ask if he would be less stingy with them! Then ask him if there are things he would like from YOU. This could be a great opportunity for conversation – especially if you go in with no guns drawn.

Wow I don’t know why I think I am the grand-puba of marriage advice tonight. Just trying to help I guess! 🤷

Oh yeah my other advice about the proper care and feeding of husband’s book stands here too!
 
Today my husband grabbed me by my waist and pulled me close and said, “I love you! You’re so cute! Your cheeks are so soft, let me kiss them!”

I enjoy it as much as possible…I hope he is always like this!
 
My husband is an angel. He compliments me, my cooking, the kids. He tells me I am smart when he is 1,000,000’s smarter than I am. If my daughters find a man as sweet as him, I will be so happy for them.
 
My dear one is always telling me how pretty I am, and how sweet and wonderful I am. I don’t always agree with him, but I appreciate his compliments nonetheless. 😊 I don’t deserve him - he is so very good to me.

~Liza
 
Just yesterday when I was dressed up for Mass, my DH told me I looked really nice. He never every tells me stuff like that so I told him I really appreciate it.

I am always giving my DH compliments. I read “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman and words of affirmation is the primary language for both of us. That’s probably why I tend to compliment him a lot, b/c that’s how I feel loved. He has been better lately, and it may be because I’ve tried to show him how much I appreciate his compliments, if that makes any sense. 🙂
 
ChinaDad said:
Father forgive me for I have sinned. The day I came home and my wife had a new Lexus in the driveway for a test drive I told her… “It makes your butt look big.” :extrahappy:
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no judge in the world will take your side, even the canon law tribunal will take her side. but . . . I get she did not buy the Lexus.
 
lizaanne said:
My dear one is always telling me how pretty I am, and how sweet and wonderful I am. I don’t always agree with him, but I appreciate his compliments nonetheless. 😊 I don’t deserve him - he is so very good to me.

~Liza
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Ok, I have a question for all of you ladies. I try to do this, and my DW has been so down lately that she can’t/won’t take the compliment, and is even angered by my compliments believing them to be empty.

What do I do? 😦
 
ChinaDad said:
Ok, I have a question for all of you ladies. I try to do this, and my DW has been so down lately that she can’t/won’t take the compliment, and is even angered by my compliments believing them to be empty.

What do I do? 😦
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Perhaps be more specific? For instance, don’t just say “you’re so pretty”. Say something like “When you smile, your eyes sparkle” or instead of saying “you’re a great wife” say "I love having you for my wife b/c ______ ". Just a thought. 🤷
 
ChinaDad said:
Ok, I have a question for all of you ladies. I try to do this, and my DW has been so down lately that she can’t/won’t take the compliment, and is even angered by my compliments believing them to be empty.

What do I do? 😦
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Sometimes when we are depressed, nothing sounds good or positive or is even believable. It makes it nearly impossible for a husband to give a compliment. This stinks, I totally agree. For me, when I feel really horrible and crummy and don’t even want to hear that I look nice (whether I do or not is totally irrelevant), I would be happy to just have him sit by me and be with me, hold my hand or rub my back, and just not say anything at all. Just show me by his presence that he loves me, even if I’m impossible to please at any given time. But all women are different, so results may vary. 😉

Good luck with this - we women are strange and unusual creatures. 😛

~Liza
 
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