Confession dilemma!

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How do u approach a priest for him to hear your confession? I don’t like going when there are many people ( before mass) I would prefer to go one on one privately but I don’t know how to approach a priest and ask him? Any tips ? Plus it might be a little longer confession than usual cause I’ve got a lot of sins and a few which are extremely bad
 
The person who attends the calls is a family friend and I’m ashamed to be going for confession…I just went about 2 months ago …so I’d rather just ask the priest when I see him around church
 
Idk …honestly my life has been soo upside down lately that I feel like I really have to go for confession but I’m too scared to go
 
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How do u approach a priest for him to hear your confession? I don’t like going when there are many people ( before mass) I would prefer to go one on one privately but I don’t know how to approach a priest and ask him? Any tips ? Plus it might be a little longer confession than usual cause I’ve got a lot of sins and a few which are extremely bad
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The standard line is this:

“Father, can you hear my confession?”
 
po18guy said:
EDIT: If you think that you have many sins, please clarify with If many are not actually sins, ask for guidance. If the thought that they are sins returns or will not go away, then please ask about scrupulosity, as it is running rampant and is a potential sign of anxiety/OCD.
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Is scrupulosity actually “running rampant” these days? That’s not the vibe I get. I get the impression that almost everyone is generally satisfied with the state of their souls (whether they should be or not), and are untroubled by the idea that they could actually displease Almighty God in their everyday lives, least of all by mortal sin.

I do concede that this can be a difficulty for the young person who is learning the Catholic faith for the first time. They learn of all the things that could be sins, then begin to second-guess everything in their lives. That’s not necessarily OCD. But they do need a solid, orthodox priest who can guide them in their spiritual life and illustrate to them what is sin, and what is not sin.
 
Not rampant, but internet forums tend to attract a lot of people who want quick reassurance. So to look at an internet forum, one would think it’s rampant. In real life it’s not as common.
 
You don’t have to explain to anyone here anything about your sins, nor do you have to justify anything to us. Most definitely call and make an appointment. Or ask him for an appointment face-to-face.
 
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Simple, talk to our priest after a Mass. Pick up the phone. Make an appointment with his secretary. Find a time when you and the priest can get together for the confession.
No dilemma. As Nike says, Just do it!
At my parish, we have regular times during the week for confession, or by appointment.
 
Some parishes have their priests’ email addresses in the bulletin or on their website. If so, you might try emailing the priest to make an appointment. But going to confession is nothing to be ashamed of, and if the last time you went was two months ago, you are not going more often than you should be. Once a month seems to be the standard recommendation.
 
edward_george1 said:
Not rampant, but internet forums tend to attract a lot of people who want quick reassurance. So to look at an internet forum, one would think it’s rampant. In real life it’s not as common.
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My thoughts exactly, Father. CAF is far from being a cross-section of Catholics.
 
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po18guy:
EDIT: If you think that you have many sins, please clarify with If many are not actually sins, ask for guidance. If the thought that they are sins returns or will not go away, then please ask about scrupulosity, as it is running rampant and is a potential sign of anxiety/OCD.
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Is scrupulosity actually “running rampant” these days? That’s not the vibe I get. I get the impression that almost everyone is generally satisfied with the state of their souls (whether they should be or not), and are untroubled by the idea that they could actually displease Almighty God in their everyday lives, least of all by mortal sin.

I do concede that this can be a difficulty for the young person who is learning the Catholic faith for the first time. They learn of all the things that could be sins, then begin to second-guess everything in their lives. That’s not necessarily OCD. But they do need a solid, orthodox priest who can guide them in their spiritual life and illustrate to them what is sin, and what is not sin.
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Scrupulosity is running rampant on CAF, not in Catholic life in general.
 
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