Crisis- Caring situation with my mother

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Your mum sounds much like my stepmother who is 92. She’s not as cranky but she has her moments! She’s on almost the same regimen of meds except she doesn’t have COPD and she does have a pacemaker on her heart. I’m not the caregiver - she lives 2 states away from me so her lifelong friend takes care of her. It’s not easy.

I think there are pill dispensers that work on a timer. That would help with the meds a little - at least your mum couldn’t take them before the dispenser opens! Doesn’t mean she’d take them, you’d have to make sure she takes them when she can.

Automatic Pill Dispenser. They’re not cheap but perhaps you can get the doctor to prescribe it and then it will be partially paid for?

Have you talked to her at all about her situation and how you hate to have to remind her about these basic requirements? Would her doctor be of any help in setting her straight? Sometimes if older people hear a bit of a scolding from a medical professional it snaps them to reality more than if it’s just us, their children.

In any case, my prayers will be for you.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Lord please grant me strength and guide me Amen

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Mother Mary and Saint Joseph, my dear friend Teresa is in need of your assistance. Please ask our Lord to send angels that will bring peace and comfort to her home. Please ask him to lift her up as if she were a child, wrap his arms around her and give her a kiss on the forehead. Please ask him to send away whatever is causing her mother to act out. Please fill them all with love, peace, and hope…and give Teresa strength and courage. Amen.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, hail, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve: to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus, O merciful, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary! Amen.
 
I am so sorry that you are going through so much. I will be joining my prayers with yours for this situation in your family. Just remember, as you do it unto one of the least of these, you are doing unto the Lord. May God bless you and give you comfort and strength. love,marie
 
I will keep your family in my prayers too.
Perhaps it would be a good idea to have your Parish priest come over and hear her confession and give her the Annointing of the Sick, I am sure that Jesus will help her through her sufferings.
I am sorry that you have to go through this, and as someone else suggested, offer your sufferings up. Just from reading your posts though, you probably already do that. 🙂
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Thankyou for all your prayers support and advice. I am very grateful to each of you and send you all my love and prayers for you.
God bless

Lord I love You above all things please help me through this and guide me Amen

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Mother Mary and Saint Joseph, my dear friend Teresa is in need of your assistance. Please ask our Lord to send angels that will bring peace and comfort to her home. Please ask him to lift her up as if she were a child, wrap his arms around her and give her a kiss on the forehead. Please ask him to send away whatever is causing her mother to act out. Please fill them all with love, peace, and hope…and give Teresa strength and courage. Amen.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, hail, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve: to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus, O merciful, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary! Amen.
 
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Your Children do not hate you as you know TB; this is an insecurity of your Mum’s, knowing that you have done a great deal for your Children throughout your life (and in which we in the generation after your Mother’s did more for our Children than what they did during their harder times etc). Circumstance things. The whole family here have just spent the past 5 years with my Mother-in-law in and out of Hospital after she had a stroke leaving her disabled, cared for by the Family until Christmas time; enduring all the things you just outlined with similar outbursts and reactions that were hurtful and forgiven. The Carers’ roles are the most exhausting thing that a person/family member goes through and you need to pat yourself on the back and offer/hand every bit of your Caring role towards your Mother over to Jesus and Mother Mary daily, as you get out of bed of a morning so satan cannot work its way into your relationship.

I spent the night in the Hospital on the 24th until 3.30am praying; Jesus took her out of pain while she was drowning on fluids from pneumonia and her kidneys packing it in suddenly, at 8am on Anzac Day (my Mother in Law loved all commemorative days)! She could have gone through more weeks of dreadful pain, drowning and choking; however I asked Him if it be His Will, to intercede quickly if possible.

A few compliments about your Mother being a wonderful Mum to you and Siblings should raise her self esteem and make her feel happier and better about herself TB.

As my Mother once said: “No Mother will ever get it right, is not perfect, however we all do the very best we can as Mothers, given our circumstances”.

Please Dear God our Heavenly Father, The Holy Spirit, Dear Jesus Christ our Saviour and Dear our Lady Mary Mother of Jesus could You please bathe TB Crawford and her Family and Mother in Thy Divine Love Protection Health, Safety, Wisdom and Peace, guarding against satan ever entering into their relationships, raising TB Crawford’s Mother’s self esteem and being most loving and grateful towards her Daughter and Family, now and for Eternity, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is The Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is the Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is the Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.
 
Teresa,

I read your post a few days ago and you and your mother have been and are in my prayers. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a difficult time… I wish I could so something to make it better! You’ve been so kind and such a generous friend with your prayers and everything. Praying hard. Hugs for you ~ :hug1:
God Bless~

O dear Jesus, I humbly implore You to grant Your special graces to this family.
May their home be the shrine of peace, purity, love, labor and faith.
I beg You, dear Jesus, to protect and bless all of them,
absent and present, living and dead.
O Mary, loving Mother of Jesus, and our Mother,
pray to Jesus for this family, for all the families of the world,
to guard the cradle of the newborn,
the schools of the young and their vocations.
Blessed Saint Joseph, holy guardian of Jesus and Mary,
assist them by your prayers in all the necessities of life.
Ask of Jesus that special grace which He granted to you,
to watch over their home at the pillow of the sick and the dying,
so that with Mary and with you, heaven may find their family
unbroken in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.
Amen.
:crossrc:
 
Mother Mary and Saint Joseph, my dear friend Teresa is in need of your assistance. Please ask our Lord to send angels that will bring peace and comfort to her home. Please ask him to lift her up as if she were a child, wrap his arms around her and give her a kiss on the forehead. Please ask him to send away whatever is causing her mother to act out. Please fill them all with love, peace, and hope…and give Teresa strength and courage. Amen.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, hail, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve: to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus, O merciful, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary! Amen.
 
Praying you find solutions that will help your mom and healing for you. God Bless!
 
HolyRosaryChild said:
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Your Children do not hate you as you know TB; this is an insecurity of your Mum’s, knowing that you have done a great deal for your Children throughout your life (and in which we in the generation after your Mother’s did more for our Children than what they did during their harder times etc). Circumstance things. The whole family here have just spent the past 5 years with my Mother-in-law in and out of Hospital after she had a stroke leaving her disabled, cared for by the Family until Christmas time; enduring all the things you just outlined with similar outbursts and reactions that were hurtful and forgiven. The Carers’ roles are the most exhausting thing that a person/family member goes through and you need to pat yourself on the back and offer/hand every bit of your Caring role towards your Mother over to Jesus and Mother Mary daily, as you get out of bed of a morning so satan cannot work its way into your relationship.

I spent the night in the Hospital on the 24th until 3.30am praying; Jesus took her out of pain while she was drowning on fluids from pneumonia and her kidneys packing it in suddenly, at 8am on Anzac Day (my Mother in Law loved all commemorative days)! She could have gone through more weeks of dreadful pain, drowning and choking; however I asked Him if it be His Will, to intercede quickly if possible.

A few compliments about your Mother being a wonderful Mum to you and Siblings should raise her self esteem and make her feel happier and better about herself TB.

As my Mother once said: “No Mother will ever get it right, is not perfect, however we all do the very best we can as Mothers, given our circumstances”.

Please Dear God our Heavenly Father, The Holy Spirit, Dear Jesus Christ our Saviour and Dear our Lady Mary Mother of Jesus could You please bathe TB Crawford and her Family and Mother in Thy Divine Love Protection Health, Safety, Wisdom and Peace, guarding against satan ever entering into their relationships, raising TB Crawford’s Mother’s self esteem and being most loving and grateful towards her Daughter and Family, now and for Eternity, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is The Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is the Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Hail Mary Full of Grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou among Women and Blessed is the Fruit of Thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen.
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Thankyou so much I truly appreciate your words & prayers.
Gode bless you
 
Thankyou WaitingForJesus,Bix Skigirl,allhers,luvu2,pollylodges,Rocket,HolyRosaryChild and everyone who has been praying for this situation. I am so grateful and your prayers mean so much to me.
God is helping me to get through this.

I send you all my love and you are each in my prayers.
God bless you

Lord I love You above all things please help me through this and guide me Amen

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Mother Mary and Saint Joseph, my dear friend Teresa is in need of your assistance. Please ask our Lord to send angels that will bring peace and comfort to her home. Please ask him to lift her up as if she were a child, wrap his arms around her and give her a kiss on the forehead. Please ask him to send away whatever is causing her mother to act out. Please fill them all with love, peace, and hope…and give Teresa strength and courage. Amen.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, hail, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve: to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus, O merciful, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary! Amen.
 
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