Daughter is indifferent to parent's deal for her education

[Still_Hoping]

You wrote that you prayed with your daughter daily until she was 12-13. After that your husband discouraged your children from prayer…telling your children that you were a religious fanatic?

The core problem in your home is not your daughter, her college plans, her back-sassing or her eventual career path. The core problem that I would concentrate on, if I were you, with all Christian charity is your MARRIAGE.

You have a husband that was undermining you as a mother, and mocking your faith in front of your children? This is a recipe for disaster. Not knowing your husband’s side, I can only assume he has his side to this story, but whatever way you look at it, it is a bad situation. Please speak with a priest, deacon or get marriage counseling if at all possible. Please know I am praying for you, God bless.

My husband has changed since. Unfortunately the seeds of doubt and hate have been sown and this is the result. My husband and I had a rocky marriage and only now have I a positive feeling. This has never happened to me. I usually felt dread and opposition, like I never belonged but now it is different. It is almost as if something has been lifted. That prayer I posted on evil spirits to be expelled from my home, made me feel more united to my Father in Heaven and to His power. I am sure that the prayers of the faithful here on CAF and of the heavenly saints have a part in this too.

My husband and I love one another but he was being led astray and I worked tooth and nail to get him to respect me and my faith. He believes too, but in a different way. I actually got my whole family to say confession last Easter season, so that is a step in the right direction.

Alas, the past has its imprint on the present but with prayer and commitment the Lord will set my daughter free and help my family as a whole. To be fair, I haven’t always been the easiest to get along with. That being said, God finds us a way out even in awful situations.

One more thing, my husband does not believe in mediation so I had to fight on my own to stand on my own, and to be heard. It came with a price but now the Lord is healing me and teaching me that humility is strength and that forgiveness is freedom. I am learning not to hate him because of the past but to forgive even though he does not admit to his mistakes.

I realized that the tone I use in my voice greatly influences his and my children’s reaction. Sometimes it works and others well, I need God’s grace. From time to time his old bad habits resurface but this time I don’t get nervous or afraid but I chide him gently and other times I give him a stern look and walk away.

Like I said in a previous post, I can’t control what comes out of his mouth or my children but I can control my own.

God bless