Discussing Marriage with my Girlfriend

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It must be hard to get banned these days - as evidenced by my brief tirade about contraception and NFP (which I shall not resume here).

Genuinely blown away I wasn’t banned. Genuinely.
 
Visit the now infamous Ban the Person above you Thread them. Good times! 🐭😍
 
It take two to tango & if she say wait then respect her wish but if you can’t then be ready to walk away knowing you pick yourself over her.
 
Vonsalza said:
It must be hard to get banned these days - as evidenced by my brief tirade about contraception and NFP (which I shall not resume here).

Genuinely blown away I wasn’t banned. Genuinely.
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Oh I’ve backed myself into a couple corners no longer than I’ve been here. lol I am also surprised! 😂😂
 
namarino41 said:
feel like she has the wrong attitude toward getting married, like we’re both supposed to be well established in our lives before we can commit to each other.
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If you can’t respect your girlfriend’s “attitude” without deciding it must be wrong because it disagrees with yours, then you’re not ready to get married.
 
redbetta said:
it’s ludicious to think engineering and art history are at the same difficulty level.
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MSEE here…Catholic forum where we’re supposed to be humble is not a good place to lord the difficulty of one degree over another, any more than it’s the place to talk about college rankings.
 
All I can go by is my life experience. When we were young (engaged at 21 married at 22), there was nothing my husband and I wanted more than to get married. As newlyweds we worked hard and trusted God. You can build a nest egg all day long but it only takes one catastrophe or illness to burn through that in a year or less. (I’ve lived this by the way) And then what will all the waiting have been for??? God’s plans are not our plans, when we try to map out the future it rarely works out that way.

If the two of you see getting married this differently, then I don’t know how compatible you really are. I know that probably hurts but you won’t be happy waiting and she isn’t happy getting married, so I don’t know where that leaves the relationship. I can picture you getting tired of waiting. I would consider the possibility that she’s not “the one”. I know that goes against what you’ve believed for the last few years. But just consider it. But I strongly advise against trying to convince her. With marriage, there should be no convincing necessary.
 
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