Discussing Marriage with my Girlfriend

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I just hope that legislation won’t keep people from working overtime if they need the money. I read a story about a baker in France who was fined for having his bakery open seven days a week during tourist season. The problem is is that he gets few customers outside of tourist season and this was his way of keeping his business afloat.
 
I hate to tell you this, but that’s not what any of us are doing. It was your choice. I wasn’t blessed with cash. I enlisted at 23 because I was BROKE, not because I was academically poor. I am not wealthy. I used the GI Bill to go to Duke, but I got in on my GRE scores (17 hours of my degree is grad level work, so they required the GRE for admission) and my own merits. Not because my dad built a library or paid my way. My husband paid all the bills and the mortgage and I was blessed to do what I did. I’ve done that. My parents were devastated when college cost got so high they could no longer afford it - they would’ve, but financially ruining my parents wasn’t my plan. I took over.

I’m likely close to twice your age, for the record. I’m telling you what life is, not sugar coating it. No need to be so blatantly disrespectful.
 
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redbetta said:
I just hope that legislation won’t keep people from working overtime if they need the money. I read a story about a baker in France who was fined for having his bakery open seven days a week during tourist season. The problem is is that he gets few customers outside of tourist season and this was his way of keeping his business afloat.
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There are no perfect systems.

Japan has a lot of the restrictions the Euros are trying to create. Employers get around it by firing employees for nebulous reasons when they don’t meet the invisible overtime demands.
 
I was thinking of medicine, but the best residencies like dermatology are extremely hard to get into. Pharmacy has good pay with no residency. Sure, it’s not as exciting, but, I can find excitement and meaning beyond work.
 
I think that when one learns at a young age to balance school, home, work that they are better prepared for balancing adulting.

I worked full time (two jobs), we had our first home and our son was born. That was the norm in our circle of peers.
 
I am quite understanding, actually. I’ve been there. I’ve said that. But I’ve lived long enough to know that I make my own choices and have to live with the consequences.

College sucks. It’s a huge culture shift. You are not unique - but you will get through it. We all know that.
 
I wouldn’t be too eager to emulate Japan. The amount of work the East Asians do is nuts.
 
“Best?” That sounds like picking an occupation purely for the income or hours. Not a good idea. These days, people really have to have a love of people and medicine to go into that field.
 
Wow!

I’ve worked in big fancy corporate jobs, I was required to be available 24 X 7 for my clients and my superiors.

Now, I work for a parish. I am never off the clock, parishioners, pastors, deacons, call and text and have important things they need regardless of the time or day.
 
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Yeah, let’s hope I don’t off myself. I made my parents promise to sue the school should anything happens to me. The idea of hitting those bastards where their heart is: their wallet, is really comforting.
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Whoa!

If you went to school at the time I did, I’d say it’s time to go out and have a smoke. Put a little perspective on things.

But as I understand it, tobacco/other isn’t “cool” anymore.
 
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Whoa!

If you went to school at the time I did, I’d say it’s time to go out and have a smoke. Put a little perspective on things.

But as I understand it, tobacco/other isn’t “cool” anymore.
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I agree, updating “time to go out and have a smoke” with “go to student counseling/see your priest.”
 
This is a very troubling post.

I hope you are speaking “tongue in cheek”, if you are serious, please seek counseling!
 
I’m my dad’s only child. I’d have to be really far gone to consider.

Also, you Americans recommend counseling for everything. Honestly, talk is cheap: it makes no tangible difference in one’s life.
 
Plus it takes YEARS to get off the after hours shift. I know many women in pharmacy that thought it would be great for families. Not so much. Their husbands spend all the after school hours with the kids and they miss a lot of activities.
 
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Also, you Americans recommend counseling for everything. Honestly, talk is cheap: it makes no tangible difference in one’s life.
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You’re a human being. Human beings need emotional support and companionship. Hence–talk isn’t cheap.

Loneliness is the scourge of the modern world.

You are correct, though, that sometimes talk isn’t enough and pharmaceuticals (!!!) have a role to play in helping a person live a happy, productive life. If you are going to be a pharmacist, this is something you should be aware of.
 
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I wouldn’t be too eager to emulate Japan. The amount of work the East Asians do is nuts.
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I just spent a year in South Korea. You’re correct - but that’s a massive cultural difference and honor system.
 
redbetta said:
I’m my dad’s only child. I’d have to be really far gone to consider.

Also, you Americans recommend counseling for everything. Honestly, talk is cheap: it makes no tangible difference in one’s life.
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I think you know that’s insular and utterly incorrect.

“Talk” is hugely important. The relative lack of it is one the the reasons men typically die earlier than women. We don’t “talk about it” quite as much. Hold it in. Raise that blood pressure until that plaque gets knocked loose and kills us.
 
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