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Well, you’re in Australia and she’s Australian. I think she’s one of your better exports, an improvement on Mel Gibson anyway. 😃
Technically Mel Gibson was originally a US export, but we can’t disavow all responsibility for him, unfortunately!
 
lol, thats the other thing wrong about feminism. they allow role reversals for women, but they dont allow it for men. meaning, that its socially acceptable for a women to wear pants, but a man cant wear a dress. or its socially acceptable for a women to be a soldier, but we make fun of male hairdressers. and in our societies the men are still expected to pay for dates, be the breadwiners, etc. but if a man is a stay at home dad, we call him a loser. so feminists are hypocrites IMO.
Part of the problem that feminism, particularly in its postmodern incarnation, has to deal with is the underlying assumption of male superiority, especially in its less overt forms. Essentially, what this means is that it’s perceived as okay for a woman to wear trousers, for example, because that indicates that she is aspiring to the status of men; whereas if a man wears a skirt, he is effectively indicating a desire to lower his status to that of women. Part of the reason homosexual men tend to be objects of fear and hatred for heterosexual men is that they are perceived to be weaker, to be undermining the dominant role men are ‘supoosed’ to assume in society, and thus a threat to the status of other men.

As far as I’m concerned, if a man wants to wear a dress, or be a hairdresser, or a stay-at-home dad, then I say more power to him. Fortunately social attitudes are changing, but these kinds of decisions, for a man, still require a not insignificant degree of courage.
 
You missed the comparative analogy, did you? That the earlier form of feminism was pretty tame compared to the current manifestation. I know it is a shock to you, as it is to many, many others, to suddenly realise they have been totally blindsided by the radicalism that underpins feminism. However, don’t attempt to sidestep the fact that you’ve hung your hat of a philosophy which has Marxism as its base.
If feminism and Marxism spring from the same root, how do you explain Margaret Thatcher? :eek:
 
If feminism and Marxism spring from the same root, how do you explain Margaret Thatcher? :eek:
Oh, please do some research. Margaret Thatcher is on record as saying she owed absolutely nothing to Women’s Liberation or Feminism.

As for Marxism, she once said -
And what a prize we have to fight for: no less than the chance to banish from our land the dark divisive clouds of Marxist socialism.
Thatcher’s anti-Marxist political philosophy actually alienated her from the feminist movement. “We want women’s rights – not a right-wing woman” was the feminist chant while she was if office. Thatcher’s policies went against feminist ideology at the time. And if you want it straight from the horse’s mouth, then read this very recent (Jan.2012) article by a rabid feminist -

Why Margaret Thatcher Is No Feminist Icon
 
Oh, please do some research. Margaret Thatcher is on record as saying she owed absolutely nothing to Women’s Liberation or Feminism.
I’ve no doubt she said that - but that’s surely a piece of ignorance on her part that sprang from a complete denial of the earliest achievements of the suffragette movement. Without the initial gains of feminism, Margaret Thatcher would never have gained political office in the first place. No wonder real feminists spoke out against her - biting the hand that feeds you is usually not a good idea.
 
lol, thats the other thing wrong about feminism. they allow role reversals for women, but they dont allow it for men. meaning, that its socially acceptable for a women to wear pants, but a man cant wear a dress. or its socially acceptable for a women to be a soldier, but we make fun of male hairdressers. and in our societies the men are still expected to pay for dates, be the breadwiners, etc. but if a man is a stay at home dad, we call him a loser. so feminists are hypocrites IMO.
Feminists are indeed hypocrites. They ensure their hypocritical attitudes are on display when they make nonsense statements about things like “…we make fun of male hairdressers”, when one of Australia’s most feted celebrities was a male hairdresser by the name of Edward Beale who operated a chain of hair salons starting in Melbourne the 1970s. My own mother worked in melbourne for a city salon owner, male, who did the hair for all the soacialites and was feted himself by high society.

As for men wearing a dress, well, how stupid is it when a man tries to be what he is not?! Men will pay for dates because it is the gentlemanly thing to do, particularly if he’s asked a girl out as his guest. You left winger types hate that though, don’t you? Just like you hate a man opening a car door for you, or doing anything that is done out of politeness because it just might be an indication that he is treating you as a member of the so called ‘weaker sex’. He is, in your head.

Did it ever occur to you that when a girl marries a man, that one day she will indeed be so vulnerable that she will very much need and appreciate it when a man does indeed show consideration that is above the norm and a sign of a caring and loving disposition and that the way he conducts himself before they are married is a good indication of how he will conduct himself when her female vulnerability is extreme? Or is it that in your self absorbed feminist mindset, that possibility has been banished from the realms of inevitable reality?

As for stay at home dad’s, they are a dime a dozen and you are inferring that men look down on childcaring, when most men would give their right arms to be able to spend more time with their kids and curse the structure of society for robbing them of that time. The hypocrisy of feminism lies in the sweeping generalised anti-male diatribes that Marxism has taught them to parrot. You are proof writ large.
 
lol, thats the other thing wrong about feminism. they allow role reversals for women, but they dont allow it for men. meaning, that its socially acceptable for a women to wear pants, but a man cant wear a dress. or its socially acceptable for a women to be a soldier, but we make fun of male hairdressers. and in our societies the men are still expected to pay for dates, be the breadwiners, etc. but if a man is a stay at home dad, we call him a loser. so feminists are hypocrites IMO.
The hypocrisy is real, but be a bit cautious with this type of criticism, because it can stir confusion. A lot on the Left are well aware of the growing backlash against them for the earlier Feminist social and legal changes; and their response is, oddly enough, not to suggest we work toward undoing the error, but instead to, effectively, feign empathy with those recently wronged. They’ll typically start by insisting that we’ve simply gone too far or are in too deep with Feminist progress. They’ll end, of course, by encouraging everyone to begin some long-overdue movement toward finally ridding men of all the burdens they needlessly endure trying to uphold an out-dated culture’s sexist notions/expectations of masculinity. Yeah, that’s what we need: Feminism for Men!

Allegedly, this will protect those with a Y-chromosome who are oppressed by “gender essentialism” and the roles it brutally imposes on innately-genderless innocents everywhere. Many activists may fight for a “freedom for men” with hopes of a future in which fathers can be exempt from stigma and criticism if they decide to take on a woman’s motherly role. And, just as with much of earlier Feminism, their appeals will ultimately rest on a faith in absolute, universal Freedom & Equality*, which is apparently supposed to remain an unquestioned principle and cultural value for all (despite its utter practical impossibility – indeed, despite what I would deem even a gross theoretical ugliness, regardless of feasibility). Whether this is some sincere, misguided strive for “justice in a genderless society” or merely a malicious ploy to speed up female domination, the result is bound to be equally ridiculous and destructive.

In sum, point out the hypocrisy, sure, but only as a way to expose deceit after clarifying that the preservation of masculinity is, if anything, a sign of hope. Never get (or let others get) misled into thinking it’s primarily the double-standard that’s unjust, as if some required goal lingers just halfway done. The subsequent sentiment would only be used as a weapon against lazy men who are looking for an excuse to not put in the effort that’s required in becoming strong, protective, resourceful leaders, husbands, and fathers. (This would be slightly akin to promiscuous men who, perhaps unwilling to sacrifice pleasure and practice monogamy themselves, might support “empowering” women with social acceptance of slutty behavior, strictly in order to consistently avoid charges of “Hypocrite!” and “Double standard!”. They’d rather abolish the standard of monogamy altogether, completely, than broadly endorse monogamy for all and have to struggle giving up their own sin.)

Edit: I’m not accusing someperson555 of such a mixed-up approach or ill-motivated strategy.

*Words to live by: If at any time during a debate someone invokes an accepted consensus/meaning for phrases/concepts such as ‘equal (rights)’, ‘everyone is entitled to’, ‘(world) peace’, or ‘doesn’t hurt anybody’, become, at that very moment, highly and relentlessly suspicious.
 
I’ve no doubt she said that - but that’s surely a piece of ignorance on her part that sprang from a complete denial of the earliest achievements of the suffragette movement. Without the initial gains of feminism, Margaret Thatcher would never have gained political office in the first place. No wonder real feminists spoke out against her - biting the hand that feeds you is usually not a good idea.
And there you have it…

Margaret Thatcher was ignorant of history and in denial and not possessed of enough talent to have achieved high office without the help of the very movement that disowned her.

AS told to us by a…

Wait for it…

A

Left Wing Feminist!!

Too funny.
 
And there you have it…

Margaret Thatcher was ignorant of history and in denial and not possessed of enough talent to have achieved high office without the help of the very movement that disowned her.

AS told to us by a…

Wait for it…

A

Left Wing Feminist!!

Too funny.
You protest too loudly, and display your privilege too prominently.

No doubt Margaret Thatcher had political talent - but the very fact that this talent was recognised - as opposed to being seen as a disorder in a woman who should have been barefoot and pregnant - was due to the fact that it had become possible for women to hold public office, thanks to the efforts of those who had gone before. We all stand on the shoulders of giants, and it behoves us to give credit where credit is due.
 
As for men wearing a dress, well, how stupid is it when a man tries to be what he is not?! Men will pay for dates because it is the gentlemanly thing to do, particularly if he’s asked a girl out as his guest. You left winger types hate that though, don’t you? Just like you hate a man opening a car door for you, or doing anything that is done out of politeness because it just might be an indication that he is treating you as a member of the so called ‘weaker sex’. He is, in your head.
Why should a man not wear a dress if that is his inclination? Is this different to a woman wearing trousers, or do you think all women should wear skirts and dresses too? Frankly, if my husband has better legs than I do - and he does! - why should he be the one to wear the trousers in the relationship?

As for men opening doors for me, I have no issue with this. I open doors for men, too. This is a matter of simple courtesy, is it would be for me to pay if I took a man out to dinner and happened to earn a higher income than he did. The fact of the matter is, though, that many of the ‘courtesies’ applied to women are a remnant of the belief that women are too weak to look after ourselves. That is why radical feminists object to them. All it takes is a bit of straightforward communication to establish each other’s expectations, as opposed to the unquestioned assumption that it’s up to the man to make the decisions.
Did it ever occur to you that when a girl marries a man, that one day she will indeed be so vulnerable that she will very much need and appreciate it when a man does indeed show consideration that is above the norm and a sign of a caring and loving disposition and that the way he conducts himself before they are married is a good indication of how he will conduct himself when her female vulnerability is extreme? Or is it that in your self absorbed feminist mindset, that possibility has been banished from the realms of inevitable reality?
When the need is there, by all means, respond. Don’t assume weakness when it’s not manifest. Surely this is a simple thing to understand. When I married my husband, I committed to looking after his welfare too - that means taking care of him when he is vulnerable, such as when he is ill. This is not practically different to the commitment a man makes to take care of a woman when she is not capable of taking care of herself.
As for stay at home dad’s, they are a dime a dozen and you are inferring that men look down on childcaring, when most men would give their right arms to be able to spend more time with their kids and curse the structure of society for robbing them of that time. The hypocrisy of feminism lies in the sweeping generalised anti-male diatribes that Marxism has taught them to parrot. You are proof writ large.
I had the impression that someperson555 was criticising feminism, but I guess if you are overly sensitive to those who disagree with you a little, you could interpret his/her posts as left-wing feminist…

I don’t think there was any inference that men, in general, look down on childrearing - only that society as a whole sees this as women’s work, and tends to expect men to be out working to support their family, rather than participating in a hands-on manner in raising their children. I have no more time for anti-male diatribes than you do; I simply question the overriding assumptions that accompany patriarchal social structures - because they disadvantage men as well as women. I have the utmost respect for men who buck the system, because nowadays it takes more courage for them to do so than it does for women to step into traditionally male roles.
 
Why should a man not wear a dress if that is his inclination?
They do. Priests and choir boys wear them. I’ve never seen a Pope wear trousers. Scotsmen (and Greek guards?) wear skirts. They call them cassocks and kilts of course.
 
They do. Priests and choir boys wear them. I’ve never seen a Pope wear trousers. Scotsmen (and Greek guards?) wear skirts. They call them cassocks and kilts of course.
True, true.

Denial is a river in Egypt…
 
You protest too loudly, and display your privilege too prominently.

No doubt Margaret Thatcher had political talent - but the very fact that this talent was recognised - as opposed to being seen as a disorder in a woman who should have been barefoot and pregnant - was due to the fact that it had become possible for women to hold public office, thanks to the efforts of those who had gone before. We all stand on the shoulders of giants, and it behoves us to give credit where credit is due.
Oh my, what a circus.

If I remember correctly Margaret Thatcher was the mother of twins.
And she obtained a University qualification as a Chemist and later as a Lawyer. She was even asked to stand for parliament in an era when politis was dominated by men. I suppose that too was somehow due to the influence of your mythically giant feminists?

Amazing how the feminists loathed her when she was in power and now some claim her as a shining example of their distorted doctrines. Oh my that is hypocrisy writ large! More so when I pointed you to an article written by a contemporary feminist who still shows her disdain for Thatcher. Thatcher destroyed the Marxist driven trade unions, and Marxism has underpinned Feminism since at least the 1960s. The very idea of any feminist claiming Thatcher as one of their own gives us a contradiction which is breathtakingly ludicrous, which is why that article tells you why feminists can not claim Thatcher as one of their own. Seems you are out on a limb all on your own.

As for my priviledge being too prominent, oh, please do explain. The curiosity is killing me. :rolleyes:
 
Feminists are indeed hypocrites. They ensure their hypocritical attitudes are on display when they make nonsense statements about things like “…we make fun of male hairdressers”, when one of Australia’s most feted celebrities was a male hairdresser by the name of Edward Beale who operated a chain of hair salons starting in Melbourne the 1970s. My own mother worked in melbourne for a city salon owner, male, who did the hair for all the soacialites and was feted himself by high society.

As for men wearing a dress, well, how stupid is it when a man tries to be what he is not?! Men will pay for dates because it is the gentlemanly thing to do, particularly if he’s asked a girl out as his guest. You left winger types hate that though, don’t you? Just like you hate a man opening a car door for you, or doing anything that is done out of politeness because it just might be an indication that he is treating you as a member of the so called ‘weaker sex’. He is, in your head.

Did it ever occur to you that when a girl marries a man, that one day she will indeed be so vulnerable that she will very much need and appreciate it when a man does indeed show consideration that is above the norm and a sign of a caring and loving disposition and that the way he conducts himself before they are married is a good indication of how he will conduct himself when her female vulnerability is extreme? Or is it that in your self absorbed feminist mindset, that possibility has been banished from the realms of inevitable reality?

As for stay at home dad’s, they are a dime a dozen and you are inferring that men look down on childcaring, when most men would give their right arms to be able to spend more time with their kids and curse the structure of society for robbing them of that time. The hypocrisy of feminism lies in the sweeping generalised anti-male diatribes that Marxism has taught them to parrot. You are proof writ large.
what are you talking about?? first of all im a MALE, so im NOT a feminist. and i HATE feminism. my post was supposed to be a thought experiment for feminists, because they are indeed hypocritical, they demand special treatment for women.
society is very unfair towards men regarding rights and privelages. women in certain professions are not held up to the same physical standrads as men, they get shorter prison sentences, they dont need the father’s consent to get an abortion, usually in case of divorce, its the man who has to pay child support to the women, etc. so baiscally women are crying that “ohh gender is a social construct blah blah blah” yet they still expect men to retain their traditional masculine roles.
so that was the point i was trying to make, i think you misunderstood me lol.
 
The hypocrisy is real, but be a bit cautious with this type of criticism, because it can stir confusion. A lot on the Left are well aware of the growing backlash against them for the earlier Feminist social and legal changes; and their response is, oddly enough, not to suggest we work toward undoing the error, but instead to, effectively, feign empathy with those recently wronged. They’ll typically start by insisting that we’ve simply gone too far or are in too deep with Feminist progress. They’ll end, of course, by encouraging everyone to begin some long-overdue movement toward finally ridding men of all the burdens they needlessly endure trying to uphold an out-dated culture’s sexist notions/expectations of masculinity. Yeah, that’s what we need: Feminism for Men!

Allegedly, this will protect those with a Y-chromosome who are oppressed by “gender essentialism” and the roles it brutally imposes on innately-genderless innocents everywhere. Many activists may fight for a “freedom for men” with hopes of a future in which fathers can be exempt from stigma and criticism if they decide to take on a woman’s motherly role. And, just as with much of earlier Feminism, their appeals will ultimately rest on a faith in absolute, universal Freedom & Equality*, which is apparently supposed to remain an unquestioned principle and cultural value for all (despite its utter practical impossibility – indeed, despite what I would deem even a gross theoretical ugliness, regardless of feasibility). Whether this is some sincere, misguided strive for “justice in a genderless society” or merely a malicious ploy to speed up female domination, the result is bound to be equally ridiculous and destructive.

In sum, point out the hypocrisy, sure, but only as a way to expose deceit after clarifying that the preservation of masculinity is, if anything, a sign of hope. Never get (or let others get) misled into thinking it’s primarily the double-standard that’s unjust, as if some required goal lingers just halfway done. The subsequent sentiment would only be used as a weapon against lazy men who are looking for an excuse to not put in the effort that’s required in becoming strong, protective, resourceful leaders, husbands, and fathers. (This would be slightly akin to promiscuous men who, perhaps unwilling to sacrifice pleasure and practice monogamy themselves, might support “empowering” women with social acceptance of slutty behavior, strictly in order to consistently avoid charges of “Hypocrite!” and “Double standard!”. They’d rather abolish the standard of monogamy altogether, completely, than broadly endorse monogamy for all and have to struggle giving up their own sin.)

Edit: I’m not accusing someperson555 of such a mixed-up approach or ill-motivated strategy.

*Words to live by: If at any time during a debate someone invokes an accepted consensus/meaning for phrases/concepts such as ‘equal (rights)’, ‘everyone is entitled to’, ‘(world) peace’, or ‘doesn’t hurt anybody’, become, at that very moment, highly and relentlessly suspicious.
you are right, i should be careful in making arguments like these, one person already misunderstood as you can see…ahem (john21652)
anyway, i only half agree with your post. i believe in a MERITOCRACY, meaning everyone should have equal STANDARDS. for example, lets say a women wants to become a firefighter, but the requirement is that you must be able to bench 250 pounds, if she can bench 250 pounds, then she can be a firefighter.
this really is a no-brainer, what we must look at is MERIT, not the individulas race, gender, religion, ethnicity, etc. this is the biggest problem with egalitarianism, they assume from the get go that eveyone is equal, and its the standards that need to be changed, when in reality, the opposite is true, people are NOT equal, and this is unfortunately true for races, genders, age, etc as well. however, since every group has unique individuals, we should not fall into the problem of prejudice, instead, we should be fair and give everyone a chance. but wether or not they get the job, school, or promotion, should be based on their performance alone.
 
Why should a man not wear a dress if that is his inclination? Is this different to a woman wearing trousers, or do you think all women should wear skirts and dresses too? Frankly, if my husband has better legs than I do - and he does! - why should he be the one to wear the trousers in the relationship?

As for men opening doors for me, I have no issue with this. I open doors for men, too. This is a matter of simple courtesy, is it would be for me to pay if I took a man out to dinner and happened to earn a higher income than he did. The fact of the matter is, though, that many of the ‘courtesies’ applied to women are a remnant of the belief that women are too weak to look after ourselves. That is why radical feminists object to them. All it takes is a bit of straightforward communication to establish each other’s expectations, as opposed to the unquestioned assumption that it’s up to the man to make the decisions.

When the need is there, by all means, respond. Don’t assume weakness when it’s not manifest. Surely this is a simple thing to understand. When I married my husband, I committed to looking after his welfare too - that means taking care of him when he is vulnerable, such as when he is ill. This is not practically different to the commitment a man makes to take care of a woman when she is not capable of taking care of herself.

I had the impression that someperson555 was criticising feminism, but I guess if you are overly sensitive to those who disagree with you a little, you could interpret his/her posts as left-wing feminist…

I don’t think there was any inference that men, in general, look down on childrearing - only that society as a whole sees this as women’s work, and tends to expect men to be out working to support their family, rather than participating in a hands-on manner in raising their children. I have no more time for anti-male diatribes than you do; I simply question the overriding assumptions that accompany patriarchal social structures - because they disadvantage men as well as women. I have the utmost respect for men who buck the system, because nowadays it takes more courage for them to do so than it does for women to step into traditionally male roles.
lol yes, he completely missed the point. i was criticizing feminism. but even though i criticize feminism, i do still hold a radically different view than the traditionalists. i believe in a meritocracy. i reject this liberal egalitarianist dogma that “we are all equal and kumbaayaa”, but i also reject this silly conservative notion that we should uphold completely arbitrary norms and traditions.
i like the way you put it. if a man wishes to wear a dress, or if a women wishes to wear pants that should be fine. even though, it is undeniable that men and women are different, there are always individuals from each group who are not typical “masculine” or “feminine”. for example, look at Joan of arc or queen Boudicca, or the female samurai in feudal Japan, now these were the REAL feminists 😃 im sure these women are twice as “masculine” as I am or any other average man today. they didnt need “affirmative action” to get the job for them, they worked for it and EARNED it themsleves.
 
what are you talking about?? first of all im a MALE, so im NOT a feminist. and i HATE feminism. my post was supposed to be a thought experiment for feminists, because they are indeed hypocritical, they demand special treatment for women.
society is very unfair towards men regarding rights and privelages. women in certain professions are not held up to the same physical standrads as men, they get shorter prison sentences, they dont need the father’s consent to get an abortion, usually in case of divorce, its the man who has to pay child support to the women, etc. so baiscally women are crying that “ohh gender is a social construct blah blah blah” yet they still expect men to retain their traditional masculine roles.
so that was the point i was trying to make, i think you misunderstood me lol.
you are right, i should be careful in making arguments like these, one person already misunderstood as you can see…ahem (john21652)
I never misunderstood you. I agreed with you!

I was using part of what you wrote to respond to Sair, but messed up putting in quotes from Sair. If you read it again, you’ll see that half way through my post I was ‘speaking’ to her. I never noticed what had happened until it was too late to edit. So sorry about the confusion!
 
Why should a man not wear a dress if that is his inclination? Is this different to a woman wearing trousers, or do you think all women should wear skirts and dresses too? Frankly, if my husband has better legs than I do - and he does! - why should he be the one to wear the trousers in the relationship?
Fine then, you get your husband to wear a dress down the street and note the comments and wry looks. I wonder why that will happen? Convention perhaps? Or maybe it will be because of the signals he will be sending out; the symbolism. Symbols do indeed communicate much in any given society. If you wish to be at variance with the accepted symbolism of your own society, go for your life…just don’t complain when most people will say how silly it looks.
As for men opening doors for me, I have no issue with this. I open doors for men, too. This is a matter of simple courtesy, is it would be for me to pay if I took a man out to dinner and happened to earn a higher income than he did. The fact of the matter is, though, that many of the ‘courtesies’ applied to women are a remnant of the belief that women are too weak to look after ourselves.
Please do tell us which courtesies are remnants of a belief that women are too weak to look after themselves. I’d suggest that a courtesy is a courtesy and the feminists have attempted to denigrate the very notion of it. I, for one, had a radical feminist criticise me for holding a door open for her and that was despite the fact she had an arm full of books!
That is why radical feminists object to them. All it takes is a bit of straightforward communication to establish each other’s expectations, as opposed to the unquestioned assumption that it’s up to the man to make the decisions.
What a load of codswallop. Men are, or should be, trained to be leaders. They don’t need anyone’s permission to show courtesy.
When the need is there, by all means, respond. Don’t assume weakness when it’s not manifest. Surely this is a simple thing to understand. When I married my husband, I committed to looking after his welfare too - that means taking care of him when he is vulnerable, such as when he is ill. This is not practically different to the commitment a man makes to take care of a woman when she is not capable of taking care of herself.
This husband of yours, his existence seems at odds with a lot of what you’ve written on other threads.
I had the impression that someperson555 was criticising feminism, but I guess if you are overly sensitive to those who disagree with you a little, you could interpret his/her posts as left-wing feminist…
And if you’d had your wits about you you would have noticed that half way through that post I as addressing you. I know it’s hard for some feminists to not be so emotional when they see criticisms of their ‘philosophy’, but sometimes a little rational thinking can sort out obvious problems…
I don’t think there was any inference that men, in general, look down on childrearing - only that society as a whole sees this as women’s work,
Being a mother is women’s work and men can never do it. That’s despite the fact that the feminists wish otherwise.
and tends to expect men to be out working to support their family, rather than participating in a hands-on manner in raising their children. I have no more time for anti-male diatribes than you do;
As I wrote earlier, most men would kill to be able to spend more time with their kids. It is the structure of society that has caused the bread winner to have to leave home for the work place. And it is biology that causes an infant to need its mother at home. As for having no time for anti-male diatribes, then prove it by renouncing here the feminism that is responsible.
I simply question the overriding assumptions that accompany patriarchal social structures - because they disadvantage men as well as women. I have the utmost respect for men who buck the system, because nowadays it takes more courage for them to do so than it does for women to step into traditionally male roles.
The assumptions that cause you to view social structures as patriarchal are the result of necessity. Your last sentence is just plain wrong.
 
Fine then, you get your husband to wear a dress down the street and note the comments and wry looks. I wonder why that will happen? Convention perhaps? Or maybe it will be because of the signals he will be sending out; the symbolism. Symbols do indeed communicate much in any given society.
Walk around a mall here and you may well see a man and woman wearing matching jelabas. A couple of hours south in Morocco it’s the norm. They’re dignified - made of cotton they’re cool in the summer, made of wool warm in winter. Give the fashion industry time and the young will wear them in Australia too. It’s not feminism, it’s fashion.


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Please do tell us which courtesies are remnants of a belief that women are too weak to look after themselves. I’d suggest that a courtesy is a courtesy and the feminists have attempted to denigrate the very notion of it.
How about: Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church. – 1 Cor 34-35
 
As for men opening doors for me, I have no issue with this. I open doors for men, too. This is a matter of simple courtesy, is it would be for me to pay if I took a man out to dinner and happened to earn a higher income than he did. The fact of the matter is, though, that many of the ‘courtesies’ applied to women are a remnant of the belief that women are too weak to look after ourselves. That is why radical feminists object to them. All it takes is a bit of straightforward communication to establish each other’s expectations, as opposed to the unquestioned assumption that it’s up to the man to make the decisions.
Totally agree with this sentiment, thinking in reverse it makes sense. If I was having lunch with someone on a first date, I’d be comfortable with splitting the bill 50/50. Once we know each other better, I’d be happy to be treated by her paying the full bill if she earned considerably more than me. Would I want to be provided for with the assumption that I naturally needed her financial support? Not at all, I would find it highly weird. Long-term, once in a relationship, I would be happy to be a net receiver of shared income (although not by a huge amount), because of our shared life and value to each other. To be treated otherwise, to be treated like a sexist man treats a woman, would make me into a radical manist.
 
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