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dianaiad
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It did not…when practiced properly. However, that’s the hard part. Right now I think that the 50’s idea of marriage …one woman, one man, he is the boss of the house and brings home the bacon and she is ‘just a housewife’ whose job is to take care of the kiddies and look sexy for the man…THAT is objectifying the woman.Bravo on the subject change and obfuscation. Are you defending polygyny as something that doesn’t objectify women?
I don’t think I’m alone in the assesment that the practice of plural marriage did just that.
Today’s attitude towards women is hugely that of objectifying them. The feminist movement, that abandoned traditional women’s roles so that a woman could 'do the things any man can do" did the same thing.
ANY society that elevates the sexual and demeans the other facets of marital relationships objectifies the women.
When practiced properly (and the polygamist groups that operate now don’t do that.) the women and the men are EQUAL PARTNERS in a Family relationship. When a new wife is introduced to the family, the choice is made as much or more by the women involved as the man. I’m the product of polygamist ancestors; several sets. Some of them were good at it…some weren’t. The ones who were GOOD at it, well…one wife was the homemaker…because that’s what she loved doing. Another was a teacher (of the family children as well as others) and a writer. A GOOD one…and she could be because SHE ‘had a wife.’ The husband was a farmer who wasn’t worked to death. A third wife was a physician, sent by BY back east to medical school…and she could DO that and BE that because she knew her family was safely being cared for by her sister-wives and husband. The fourth and last wife was studying law. She could DO that, because of the family dynamics. All five adults had the time to employ their talents AND raise their children well. All the women had the vote (well, of course they did. They were, after all, Mormon women and that came with the territory) and equal say in the family affairs–which meant that the four women outvoted the man sometimes. In fact, the only way my G-Grandpa could hold his own was that he had the priesthood, which made him the religious head of the household–and all that did was raise him up to have the same authority the women did.
But the government stepped in, broke up the families, and from that day on a happy, well adjusted and prosperous group was poverty striken, struggling…the difference was amazing. All to make some officious idiot in some Methodist pew back in New England happy that the Utah women were no longer being…what was that word…'objectified?"
But living polygamy the right way is HARD. Men don’t like giving up the control, and they have to, in a properly run polygamist society.