Do men cry?

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Apart form when a loved one passes on, or at the news of serious illness…
do men cry?Is it 'acceptable ’ nowadays ? I know it’s an odd question ,but I’m very curios as a woman to know if men allow themselves this healthy outlet and when or why.
 
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Apart form when a loved one passes on, or at the news of serious illness…
do men cry?Is it 'acceptable ’ nowadays ? I know it’s an odd question ,but I’m very curios as a woman to know if men allow themselves this healthy outlet and when or why.
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Yes, i have seen men cry, for many different reasons. Its perfectly acceptable, but culturally male crying can be a more or less thing. A let it out, or man up thing.
 
Yes we do. And it’s not just when we stub our toe! I have discovered I cry during TV shows quite often, mainly NCIS, DR Who, criminal Minds…when justice is served usually. I was worried for a while something was wrong, but it doesn’t bother me any more.

I have cried when I see squirrels and woodchucks dead on the road, but not deer - no clue why!

I have been declared sane! Twice! So I’m not wooried about it!

I do try to avoid tears in public, that I think is a societal thing still.
 
Men cry, especially in private. Whether they cry in public and whether it is socially acceptable when/if they do depends on the culture and the context. For example, in USA it is generally unacceptable to cry at work whether you’re male or female, unless you’ve just had some tragedy happen like a death, and even then many people will try to hide those emotions at work.
 
I know several men that do. I am not talking about sobbing or wailing, but tears flowing nonetheless over people departing, an emotional separation or a serious family issue. It is not looked down upon, it means they feel something deeply. :o
 
From my observations it seems more acceptable for men to cry in Latin cultures. If one is from Northern European / Anglo-Saxon roots, the cultural prohibitions against men showing tears seem pretty strong.
 
Thanks for your replies:) Do men understand women when they cry, perhaps they think they over do it?My now ex from an annulled marriage showed only anger ,so I did my crying in private.My husband now if fairly understanding when I do.
Some times I cry for joy too, listening to music ,seeing a nice sight and praying.
I don’t think I ever saw my father crying.
 
I’ve seen guys tear up when they were laid off from a job, and it happened to me a time or two as well. I cried like a baby in my car the day I retired, it was such an emotional release, a mix of joy and sadness :bighanky:

I also tear up for certain sad movies. I guess I’m just a big softie! Yes, guys cry.
 
In some instances, men feel an imperative to be the strong, stable person in their relationships with children or spouses. We are afraid that if we display fear, sadness, grief etc, it might increase the anxiety in those we love. For this reason, yes, we do cry, but typically only when we are alone and no one is watching. This may be why a lot of men have no trouble spending, and may even need to spend, time alone. This can be healthy if the man can manage it, and it doesn’t become a brooding nature.
 
Of course we cry!
Movies, songs, tv shows…
But also real life. I cry a lot!

However,
We generally don’t cry at work… like in a meeting. Women do. A lot…
 
Hoosier_Daddy said:
Of course we cry!
Movies, songs, tv shows…
But also real life. I cry a lot!

However,
We generally don’t cry at work… like in a meeting. Women do. A lot…
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I don’t know. I’ve cried at work, but never in a meeting, always privately in the ladies room. I don’t think I’ve seen a female coworker cry, except when we learned of the death of someone we worked with.

My husband witnessed a nurse cry off to the side once when my littlest needed a spinal tap. She was his NICU nurse. But she was trying to be discreet.
 
Yes, we men do cry. I cry a lot watching TV or movies

Whenever, I witness injustice, pain, sorrow, or true heroism/sacrifice I tear.

For example: I just finished binge watching the show “Switched at Birth” on Netflix. There were several episodes that caused me to tear.

Now, I don’t often cry, balling my eyes out (that usually requires a lot of emotional pain), but I do tear often and sometimes it’s a lot at once.
 
Greenfields said:
Thanks for your replies:) Do men understand women when they cry, perhaps they think they over do it?My now ex from an annulled marriage showed only anger ,so I did my crying in private.My husband now if fairly understanding when I do.
Some times I cry for joy too, listening to music ,seeing a nice sight and praying.
I don’t think I ever saw my father crying.
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I think there is a male stereotype that females use crying as a weapon, or for manipulation, so it can often get an antipathic rather than a sympathetic response.

It could just be that males have a higher threshold for emotion, so it comes out less often for them than for females, but when it does come out, it does so enormously.

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Greenfields said:
Do men understand women when they cry, perhaps they think they over do it?My now ex from an annulled marriage showed only anger ,so I did my crying in private.My husband now if fairly understanding when I do…

I don’t think I ever saw my father crying.
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Men may not “understand” women when they cry or do other things but a normal, kind man realizes that people, and perhaps more so women because the culture is more attuned to allowing women to cry, do cry sometimes and he tries to be kind about it. Especially if someone is your spouse, they should be understanding when you cry and not belittle you. If they are not comfortable with how you display emotions, they should not have married you.

We all have different levels of comfort with people crying, and much of it is cultural/ has to do with how our parents reacted to crying and whether they cried themselves and how often, etc. Also, the environment where you spend your time is going to affect how you present your emotions. For example, if you have worked in military or scientific environments, emotional displays are not the norm there and people are expected to be calm and logical, whereas if you have worked in a creative profession then people are likely showing their emotions more openly and on a daily basis.
 
Professional athletes tear up when they win the championship game or series, but no other than that men don’t allow themselves to cry. I haven’t cried in years. My son has never seen me cry, he says.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
Men cry, especially in private. Whether they cry in public and whether it is socially acceptable when/if they do depends on the culture and the context. For example, in USA it is generally unacceptable to cry at work whether you’re male or female, unless you’ve just had some tragedy happen like a death, and even then many people will try to hide those emotions at work.
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Yes, this is probably the case in most countries.

It might be culturally different more towards the East where public demonstration of feelings appear to be more the acceptable norm. And maybe in European regions such as Italy?!

But men definitely cry.
 
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