Do you feel offended by people who come to the CC dressed as if they were at a barbeque in their backyard?

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When I was a kid, most people dressed up. And no, it was not 1950’s.

My mom’s church, yeah, everyone looks like they’ve shown up for a BBQ or rolled out of bed. I’ll go to another church where folk aren’t really that much better dressed but at least the church itself has that old feeling. I love old churches. 🙂

I’m an aesthete. 😛
 
The Church’s teachings have been quite clear in dressing appropriately versus dressing UP. is it necessary to wear a suit and tie, dress shirt, fancy dress (for women), heels, etc. for church? I don’t think so. Is it necessary to make sure you are wearing modest, clean, and tasteful clothing? Yes.

And furthermore many different areas have different cultural approaches to dress taste. I live in the Midwest where people ask me why am I so “dressed up” because I am wearing a skirt. 🤷 Whereas other places the culture of the church may expect dressier attire.

To be honest, when I have noticed the way people dress, and then later tell my husband about it, he finds it more offending that I wasn’t paying attention to the right things in the first place. Unless someone’s cleavage is baring, their behind is slipping out, or their every nook and cranny can be seen, I shouldn’t really be paying attention anyway. And he’s right.
 
I see two things.
  1. Today, people are careless about their appearance, not just for Church. This is unfortunate and should be corrected.
  2. Here on CAF, there seems to be an excessive preocupation with dress. How many posts are there on veiling, modesty in clothes, nuns habits, priests’ cassocks, popes’ tiaras, chasuables, and I’m sure I missed something.
If you look at my points one and two, they are extremes. Extremes are dangerous.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
JReducation said:
I see two things.
  1. Today, people are careless about their appearance, not just for Church. This is unfortunate and should be corrected.
  2. Here on CAF, there seems to be an excessive preocupation with dress. How many posts are there on veiling, modesty in clothes, nuns habits, priests’ cassocks, popes’ tiaras, chasuables, and I’m sure I missed something.
If you look at my points one and two, they are extremes. Extremes are dangerous.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
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Agreed 👍
 
What about when I barbeque on Sunday? Is it acceptable to dress-up for in order to barbeque, tie and apron?
 
All in all, I think dress codes are most important to make sure that we don’t distract each other from paying attention God.
 
Doesn’t matter how I feel about how folks dress for the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass.

May matter to God though.
 
I have a boyfriend I talk to online. He lives in Kansas and is Born Again, which is very much different than being in NYC and coming back to Roman Catholicism. :rotfl: I know where he is there are a lot of farmers and they find it offensive if ya dress up.

I never thought it could be offensive to anyone until he told me that.

And I just thought to myself the other night, well what about the homeless? Certainly the homeless need God’s word. Should we be upset if an unwashed, ragged, homeless person decides to attend mass? Certainly it would offend our noses at the very least, but certainly, it would please God.
 
Dymphna82 said:
I have a boyfriend I talk to online. He lives in Kansas and is Born Again, which is very much different than being in NYC and coming back to Roman Catholicism. :rotfl: I know where he is there are a lot of farmers and they find it offensive if ya dress up.

I never thought it could be offensive to anyone until he told me that.

And I just thought to myself the other night, well what about the homeless? Certainly the homeless need God’s word. Should we be upset if an unwashed, ragged, homeless person decides to attend mass? Certainly it would offend our noses at the very least, but certainly, it would please God.
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If that were the case, the Franciscans should never have gone to mass for 800 years. We were not allowed to wash our habits more than once a month and we took a bath once a week.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
JReducation said:
If that were the case, the Franciscans should never have gone to mass for 800 years. We were not allowed to wash our habits more than once a month and we took a bath once a week.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
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:eek: Eww. Even though I’m a massive history buff, this is the reason why I probably would never travel into the past even if time travel were possible - people were a lot stinkier!
 
LilyM said:
:eek: Eww. Even though I’m a massive history buff, this is the reason why I probably would never travel into the past even if time travel were possible - people were a lot stinkier!
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Espeically when they didn’t have deodorant back then 😛
 
LilyM said:
Well, they had perfume, but they’d still be pretty whiffy :hypno:
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Oh yeah~ That reminds me, and it is off topic big time LOL but I will quickly say what I am going to anyway…in one of the department stores here in Melbourne, have perfume that was made the exact way it was made in Napoleonic times (it is the perfumes that Napoleon had commissioned - apparently) and the smell lasts for such a long time~ Beautiful though!
 
I’m assuming St. Francis wanted to duplicate the lives of the Desert Fathers; a disinterest in worldly needs.

I read in an account of Greek monks that the author, although working alongside them in the heat, and they wearing their robes, noticed that they didn’t seem to smell. Make of that what you like.
 
Layman said:
I’m assuming St. Francis wanted to duplicate the lives of the Desert Fathers; a disinterest in worldly needs.

I read in an account of Greek monks that the author, although working alongside them in the heat, and they wearing their robes, noticed that they didn’t seem to smell. Make of that what you like.
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Actually, our Holy Father was not that interested in the Desert Fathers. It was simply part of the times. People were afraid to bathe. They believed that you could get sick and die. It was probably true. They had no heat in the 13th century. I don’t know the history of soap, but they may not have had soap. The poor did not have bathtubs. They bathed in rivers. That’s something you don’t want to do in the cold weather. By the time that we get inside heating, tubs and soap, bathing once a week is a luxury. Today, we bath daily. We wash the habit weekly and wear the same habit every day.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
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