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This is not a biggie but I think that I do think that it contributes to the overall happiness of marriage.
Marry someone who is has the same level of desire for nonsexual physical comfort as you do.
My hubby and I are admittedly clingy people. We like to touch often and usually hold hands when we drive. We even follow one another into the bathroom to talk.
Some people would find this exasperating and I know perfectly happy couples who don’t show a lot of outward affection.
If though you get people with drastically different levels of physical affection there is going to be some difficulty. The person who doesn’t have as great a need will feel smothered while the one with the greater need will feel resentful.
I’ve had some sad conversations with wives who wished that there hubbies were more openly affectionate and are envious of my relationship with my husband. I’ve also spoken with women who have seemed surprised that I wasn’t annoyed with my husband for holding my hand so much.
Because my hubby and I have the same level of need for physical contact, we are very happy in this regard. I would be miserable with a man who didn’t like to have his wife show affection in public and I would probably unintentionally make him uncomfortable.
I think that sometimes people get unfairly labeled with terms like ‘clingy’ or ‘cold’, when they are neither of these things but instead are paired with someone who’s need for affection is different.
Marry someone who is has the same level of desire for nonsexual physical comfort as you do.
My hubby and I are admittedly clingy people. We like to touch often and usually hold hands when we drive. We even follow one another into the bathroom to talk.
Some people would find this exasperating and I know perfectly happy couples who don’t show a lot of outward affection.
If though you get people with drastically different levels of physical affection there is going to be some difficulty. The person who doesn’t have as great a need will feel smothered while the one with the greater need will feel resentful.
I’ve had some sad conversations with wives who wished that there hubbies were more openly affectionate and are envious of my relationship with my husband. I’ve also spoken with women who have seemed surprised that I wasn’t annoyed with my husband for holding my hand so much.
Because my hubby and I have the same level of need for physical contact, we are very happy in this regard. I would be miserable with a man who didn’t like to have his wife show affection in public and I would probably unintentionally make him uncomfortable.
I think that sometimes people get unfairly labeled with terms like ‘clingy’ or ‘cold’, when they are neither of these things but instead are paired with someone who’s need for affection is different.
I wish I weren’t so cold at times (not like I haven’t ever been a motion blocker), for instance, so I guess the problem can be realised and dealt with. 