Not that I suggest you go around asking about this (as it might cause people to raise questions about you) but if you could ask a large number of people a question on how they would label sexual touching of a person below the age of consent I don’t think they are going to spend a lot of time qualifying the age of the victim to choose the correct technical term for it.
You don’t have to go around asking. We are talking about accusations of real crimes that are defined under certain terms. They are technical terms—is that a bad thing? To be precise in your use of language?
The accurate use of those terms is somehow bad?
Sexual assault on ANYONE, male, female, adult, minor, child—all crimes. But all of those crimes are not identical. They carry different names, different sentences.
All wrong. But if you are going to accuse someone of the wrong one, yes, it matters.
Think about other crimes: petty theft, grand theft, grand theft auto. Homicide, manslaughter, involuntary manslaughter.
We have these distinctions because the legal categories for these crimes exist.
If someone asked me, I would most certainly qualify the age of the victim and the circumstances out of respect for the victim. I would not want to use their experience for personal argument value to forward an agenda by exaggeration, and I would not want to minimize their experience by over generalizing. I would respect that person enough to care enough to be precise.
I think it matters to the victim very much what actually happened, and also that what actually happened is heard and taken seriously.