Ephesians 5:22....revisited

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Just because a particular person thinks that men have authority over women does not mean that’s what most of us who believe in male headship in marriage think. It is completely irrelevant to the discussion. I have a neighbor who thinks Elvis is still alive. So what?

The Catechism is comprehensive, not exhaustive. You can look through numerous Papal Encyclicals such as Castii Connubi to see what the Church has taught over the years.
So you pick and choose choose who you will respond to saying they are wrong…Thank you but that has been suggested to me already.

This is the first definition of ‘comprehensive’ I got off the net:

“Complete; including all or nearly all elements or aspects of something: “a comprehensive list of sources”.”
 
So you pick and choose choose who you will respond to saying they are wrong…Thank you but that has been suggested to me already.

This is the first definition of ‘comprehensive’ I got off the net:

“Complete; including all or nearly all elements or aspects of something: “a comprehensive list of sources”.”
I did not read any post on this thread where whomever stated that men have authority over women in general. I joined this discussion rather late and did not read each and every post so please provide a post # where the statement was made on this thread. I know what comprehensive means; I’m an English teacher. Nearly all does not mean every detail. Exhaustive does. It doesn’t matter you and I will both see this issue differently no matter what. I have scripture and 2000 years of Papal encyclicals and Church teaching helping me with my understanding. Please don’t think I have had an easy time accepting the idea and reality of submitting to my husband. I am highly educated, very opinionated, and generally like to have my own way. I have failed to submit a few times and in hindsight can see why I should have listened to my wonderful husband who was only looking out for my best interest.
 
I did not read any post on this thread where whomever stated that men have authority over women in general. I joined this discussion rather late and did not read each and every post so please provide a post # where the statement was made on this thread. I know what comprehensive means; I’m an English teacher. Nearly all does not mean every detail. Exhaustive does. It doesn’t matter you and I will both see this issue differently no matter what. I have scripture and 2000 years of Papal encyclicals and Church teaching helping me with my understanding. Please don’t think I have had an easy time accepting the idea and reality of submitting to my husband. I am highly educated, very opinionated, and generally like to have my own way. I have failed to submit a few times and in hindsight can see why I should have listened to my wonderful husband who was only looking out for my best interest.
Actually, I looked up the definition for myself and confirmed to myself that it was what I thought it was and I posted it to show you that as far as I am concerned the current Catechism covers all doctrine. I have not seen anyone show otherwise.
 
Actually, I looked up the definition for myself and confirmed to myself that it was what I thought it was and I posted it to show you that as far as I am concerned the current Catechism covers all doctrine. I have not seen anyone show otherwise.
Please show me something that says the current Catechism overrides previous Catechisms and teachings. It would be impossible for one book to contain every detail of every
Church doctrine.
 
Please show me something that says the current Catechism overrides previous Catechisms and teachings. It would be impossible for one book to contain every detail of every
Church doctrine.
"1. On 11 October 1992, Pope John Paul II presented the Catechism of the Catholic Church to the faithful of the whole world, describing it as a “reference text”[1] for a catechesis renewed at the living sources of the faith. Thirty years after the opening of the Second Vatican Council (1962-1965), the desire for a catechism of all Catholic doctrine on faith and morals, which had been voiced in 1985 by the extraordinary Assembly of the Synod of Bishops, came to fulfilment. "

The Vatican Archives link:

vatican.va/archive/compendium_ccc/documents/archive_2005_compendium-ccc_en.html
 
"1. On 11 October 1992, Pope John Paul II presented the Catechism of the Catholic Church to the faithful of the whole world, describing it as a “reference text”[1] for a catechesis renewed at the living sources of the faith. Thirty years after the opening of the Second Vatican Council (1962-1965), the desire for a catechism of all Catholic doctrine on faith and morals, which had been voiced in 1985 by the extraordinary Assembly of the Synod of Bishops, came to fulfilment. "

The Vatican Archives link:

vatican.va/archive/compendium_ccc/documents/archive_2005_compendium-ccc_en.html
A reference text for catechesis is not the same as overriding or all encompassing document. There is a reason the CCC is filled with footnotes referencing it back to other Church documents including the Bible. That reason is that it would be impossible for one document to contain every detail of every Church teaching. The CCC is a reference and summary, not a primary source in itself. It does not present new teachings nor does it override other Church documents. It organizes by topic and summarizes doctrine and references back to original source(s) to more fully explain Church teaching in each area.
 
Severus,

Before JPII and the current CCC, do you believe women were obligated to suit to their husbands since all catechism and Church documents clearly stated that obligation until recently? I do not agree that JPII or CCC took that obligation away, but if the whole basis of your understanding is from JPII and the current catechism, then what should a wife have done 30 years ago?
 
In all my years of Catholic participation and instruction, I have never heard anyone say that a husband is “the head” of his wife or holds any authority over her whatsoever. If that is truly what The Church teaches, I have a lot of thinking and praying to do. I am honestly not sure how a marriage could be at all healthy if one spouse had the authority to overrule/override the other on any given topic. Yuck.
 
In all my years of Catholic participation and instruction, I have never heard anyone say that a husband is “the head” of his wife or holds any authority over her whatsoever. If that is truly what The Church teaches, I have a lot of thinking and praying to do. I am honestly not sure how a marriage could be at all healthy if one spouse had the authority to overrule/override the other on any given topic. Yuck.
😃 I can tell that you are not married - and you shouldn’t (nobody shouldn’t) rush it either.

Jokes aside, I have a lot of sympathy to your thoughts, as I’m not married and I’m not rushing it myself. 😛

I was quite surprised when I read St. Teresa of Avila’s autobiography, where she said that she was afraid of becoming a nun, but she was even more afraid of getting married. However later I realized she made a lot of sense. Marriage is fraught with many perils. Women were risking their lives with every pregnancy and childbirth, especially back then. Also, yes the Church teaches that the husband is head of the wife, and what if a woman marries someone who’s not going to be a perfectly selfless and wise husband? - he is still going to be head of the family, and in a position of authority over his wife!

So, I think, there’s not wrong to be extremely careful when thinking about marriage, or even to not consider it as a viable calling for ourselves. My mother wanted nothing to have with another man, and with marriage again, once she divorced my father. She separated and divorced more than 40 years ago, she is now 83, and she is doing just fine as a single lady. St. Teresa of Avila didn’t want to get married. There is plenty of precedent of other female canonized saints in the Catholic Church who didn’t want to, and never got, married.

To expand these considerations a bit, I’m a man, but I can immediately cite St. Francis of Assisi - although he struggled occasionally with singleness, ultimately he realized he was A LOT better off having stayed single - no wife, no children, no servants to take care of! 😃 You could almost say, what a lazy bum! 😛 But yeah, he valued his freedom from all those family obligations that would have faced him as a husband and HEAD (yup, HEAD 😊) of family - by staying single, he could totally dedicate himself to God’s things. So, I have a lot of sympathy for guys who don’t rush into marriage or simply aren’t interested at all, even though we guys are supposed to have this “perk” of becoming the head of the family! 😛
 
"1. On 11 October 1992, Pope John Paul II presented the Catechism of the Catholic Church to the faithful of the whole world, describing it as a “reference text”[1] for a catechesis renewed at the living sources of the faith. Thirty years after the opening of the Second Vatican Council (1962-1965), the desire for a catechism of all Catholic doctrine on faith and morals, which had been voiced in 1985 by the extraordinary Assembly of the Synod of Bishops, came to fulfilment. "

The Vatican Archives link:

vatican.va/archive/compendium_ccc/documents/archive_2005_compendium-ccc_en.html

Yes – and Pope Benedict XVI — then Cardinal – continues with the fundamental purpose of the CCC.
Five years later, on 15 August 1997, the Pope promulgated the editio typica of the Catechismus Catholicae Ecclesiae and confirmed its fundamental purpose “as a full, complete exposition of Catholic doctrine, enabling everyone to know what the Church professes, celebrates, lives and prays in her daily life”.
 

Yes – and Pope Benedict XVI — then Cardinal – continues with the fundamental purpose of the CCC.
And part of the Catechism is the footnotes which direct the reader to Scripture and Papal encyclicals which explain the doctrines. The Catechism will tell you that the family is the domestic church and that the purpose of marriage is to lead each other to holiness and to raise children. It is not possible for it to explain the “how to” of every teaching. If it was truly possible to fully explain doctrine so briefly there would be no need for lengthy encyclicals.
 
And part of the Catechism is the footnotes which direct the reader to Scripture and Papal encyclicals which explain the doctrines. The Catechism will tell you that the family is the domestic church and that the purpose of marriage is to lead each other to holiness and to raise children. It is not possible for it to explain the “how to” of every teaching. If it was truly possible to fully explain doctrine so briefly there would be no need for lengthy encyclicals.

And the Church has taken all that – and wrote it in a full complete exposition – of Catholic doctrine. What we need – is right there – a full and complete exposition.
 
In all my years of Catholic participation and instruction, I have never heard anyone say that a husband is “the head” of his wife or holds any authority over her whatsoever. If that is truly what The Church teaches, I have a lot of thinking and praying to do. I am honestly not sure how a marriage could be at all healthy if one spouse had the authority to overrule/override the other on any given topic. Yuck.
Yes, when explained that way it is rather absurd and I have never seen it being lived out in practice by faithful Catholic couples. Thankfully.

Men and women are equal in dignity just as man and wife are partners in marriage. A man does not suddenly become superior to his wife just because they are married.

Welcome to the 21st century, where women are allowed to leave the house, voice opinions and not be spanked by their husbands, etc. What a curse feminism has been. 😃
 
In all my years of Catholic participation and instruction, I have never heard anyone say that a husband is “the head” of his wife or holds any authority over her whatsoever. If that is truly what The Church teaches, I have a lot of thinking and praying to do. I am honestly not sure how a marriage could be at all healthy if one spouse had the authority to overrule/override the other on any given topic. Yuck.
Yes, I agree. I wonder too why those who say this ‘headship’ is Church doctrine , then go on to ignore our current Catechism or say it is not complete as not holding all doctrine. .
 
A reference text for catechesis is not the same as overriding or all encompassing document. There is a reason the CCC is filled with footnotes referencing it back to other Church documents including the Bible. That reason is that it would be impossible for one document to contain every detail of every Church teaching. The CCC is a reference and summary, not a primary source in itself. It does not present new teachings nor does it override other Church documents. It organizes by topic and summarizes doctrine and references back to original source(s) to more fully explain Church teaching in each area.
Read the whole thing please, Compendium, notes, forword, everything. The link was to that not to the CCC.
 
Severus,

Before JPII and the current CCC, do you believe women were obligated to suit to their husbands since all catechism and Church documents clearly stated that obligation until recently? I do not agree that JPII or CCC took that obligation away, but if the whole basis of your understanding is from JPII and the current catechism, then what should a wife have done 30 years ago?
Be an equal partner to her husband and since someone married 30 years would still be alive, would continue to do so. I too never heard of submission of the wife in relation to Catholic marriages until I joined CAFwhen I discovered to my horror this submission was of great importance to some Catholics here.
 
And part of the Catechism is the footnotes which direct the reader to Scripture and Papal encyclicals which explain the doctrines. The Catechism will tell you that the family is the domestic church and that the purpose of marriage is to lead each other to holiness and to raise children. It is not possible for it to explain the “how to” of every teaching. If it was truly possible to fully explain doctrine so briefly there would be no need for lengthy encyclicals.
The references are for explaining. If it is not in the Catechism, it is not doctrine.
 
Be an equal partner to her husband and since someone married 30 years would still be alive, would continue to do so. I too never heard of submission of the wife in relation to Catholic marriages until I joined CAFwhen I discovered to my horror this submission was of great importance to some Catholics here.
But 30 years ago, every shred of Church writing from Cathechism to Encyclicals to Scripture that dealt with marriage stated very explicitly that the husband is the head of the family. So in order to be obedient to Church teaching, would a couple not have had to acknowledge that? I maintain that the writings of JPII and the current catechism do not contradict that it any way, but because they are not as explicit that previous documents, until very recently there would have been no other possible view from Church teaching than the husband as head of the family.
 
Yes, when explained that way it is rather absurd and I have never seen it being lived out in practice by faithful Catholic couples. Thankfully.

Men and women are equal in dignity just as man and wife are partners in marriage. A man does not suddenly become superior to his wife just because they are married.

Welcome to the 21st century, where women are allowed to leave the house, voice opinions and not be spanked by their husbands, etc. What a curse feminism has been. 😃
It has nothing to do with superiority. It has to do with a role. For example, my boss is not superior to me in any way, but our roles at the workplace differ. My husband is not superior to me, but we have different roles in marriage. Some of our past Popes have not been wonderful people, but their office, their position, was still the head of the Church. Our Blessed Mother was certainly superior to St. Joseph, being free from sin, and yet God spoke to Joseph to take his wife and child to Egypt, and Mary followed him, even though I’m sure she wondered if it was the right thing to do.
 
It has nothing to do with superiority. It has to do with a role. For example, my boss is not superior to me in any way, but our roles at the workplace differ. My husband is not superior to me, but we have different roles in marriage. Some of our past Popes have not been wonderful people, but their office, their position, was still the head of the Church. Our Blessed Mother was certainly superior to St. Joseph, being free from sin, and yet God spoke to Joseph to take his wife and child to Egypt, and Mary followed him, even though I’m sure she wondered if it was the right thing to do.
But, your boss is your superior at work. While you are equal in human dignity because you are both people, you are not on equal footing in the workplace. You are subordinate and must ultimately obey the boss’ judgment, unless it is criminal/unethical or you want to lose your job. Your boss as perks you don’t have. Your boss goes to meetings you aren’t invited to. Your boss makes decisions about issues you don’t have the authority to make decisions about. You might do your job quite well, and have some flexibility and freedom, but your boss is still in charge of you. You are NOT your boss’ equal in the workplace.

Are you saying that type of relationship has any place in a marriage?
 
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