In all my years of Catholic participation and instruction, I have never heard anyone say that a husband is “the head” of his wife or holds any authority over her whatsoever. If that is truly what The Church teaches, I have a lot of thinking and praying to do. I am honestly not sure how a marriage could be at all healthy if one spouse had the authority to overrule/override the other on any given topic. Yuck.

I can tell that you are not married - and you shouldn’t (nobody shouldn’t) rush it either.
Jokes aside, I have a lot of sympathy to your thoughts, as I’m not married and I’m not rushing it myself.
I was quite surprised when I read St. Teresa of Avila’s autobiography, where she said that she was afraid of becoming a nun, but she was even more afraid of getting married. However later I realized she made a lot of sense. Marriage is fraught with many perils. Women were risking their lives with every pregnancy and childbirth, especially back then. Also, yes the Church teaches that the husband is head of the wife, and what if a woman marries someone who’s not going to be a perfectly selfless and wise husband? - he is still going to be head of the family, and in a position of authority over his wife!
So, I think, there’s not wrong to be extremely careful when thinking about marriage, or even to not consider it as a viable calling for ourselves. My mother wanted nothing to have with another man, and with marriage again, once she divorced my father. She separated and divorced more than 40 years ago, she is now 83, and she is doing just fine as a single lady. St. Teresa of Avila didn’t want to get married. There is plenty of precedent of other female canonized saints in the Catholic Church who didn’t want to, and never got, married.
To expand these considerations a bit, I’m a man, but I can immediately cite St. Francis of Assisi - although he struggled occasionally with singleness, ultimately he realized he was A LOT better off having stayed single - no wife, no children, no servants to take care of!

You could almost say, what a lazy bum!

But yeah, he valued his freedom from all those family obligations that would have faced him as a husband and HEAD (yup, HEAD

) of family - by staying single, he could totally dedicate himself to God’s things. So, I have a lot of sympathy for guys who don’t rush into marriage or simply aren’t interested at all, even though we guys are supposed to have this “perk” of becoming the head of the family!
