Even if your interpretation is correct (which I am not conceding), I still don’t see how this is a concern of yours. You divorced your husband, you moved on and remarried. How is this a concern of yours? Perhaps he is sinning, even if that is the case, did God appoint you to be his judge?
I think perhaps participating in the nullity process might be a good way for you to find the means to do that. It’s going to require a lot of reflection and introspection from both of you.
Then you are doing what God wants us to do and he will make that way. Here is one hard thing that will help - pray for him and her.
If they have kids, especially minor children, their lives are still intertwined. In that case she certainly has every right to be concerned about her ex’s remarriage, especially if the new woman has caused problems in her family.
I guess you are right, everytime I remember the hurt, I re-live the pain. I have got to find a way to put it behind me. I am a very sentimental person, I think that’s why this entire issue has been so difficult.
Like I said earlier, I was trying to find out what the process was for an anullment. It’s hard to explain this to someone who hasn’t been through it and unfortunalely because I had kids with the man, we will always have to be in each other’s lives. And no, God did not appoint me to be his judge…he should be thankful…
I’ve seen this attitude more than once in this short thread. Please, no one is in this womans shoes. Here you accuse her of judging yet you are doing the same to her!
It is similar for me. I have found that sometimes, when I remember the hurt, I actually swim in the pain intentionally.
I appreciate your advice and your prayers. I agree with you about unforgiveness, it’s like an open wound that won’t heal. I’m sorry to hear about your parents annullment. Thank you for your concern.
That is a hard one, but is so critical. I know it can be done.
Thankfully my kids are young adults now, so they are able to form their own opinions. And yes, I have learned that I have got to get over the hurt from my first marriage in order for my new marriage to grow.
thank you but to this day i’m grateful for my parent’s annulment. living with them married to each other was horrible. there were many years of pain and heartache but it occurred when i was young, so by the time i married so much healing had taken place. i know many friends who had to deal with 2 parents that can’t stand to be in the same room at their wedding. my parents are very respectful and put it all aside for us. of course that took some time to accomplish. the greatest wedding gift i received was not having to worry about all that.
Where in the bible does it say that you can remarry? It doesn’t.
And no, God did not appoint me to be his judge…he should be thankful…
Having an ex who was an utter jerk to my kids and me, yes, he should indeed be thankful.
Where in the bible does it say that you can remarry if your spouse committed adultery? It doesn’t.