Expecting Baby #7 and thinking about the future

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ewohdrol said:
Because that suggests that God planned for that female to be raped.
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No it doesn’t. God’s plans often contain blessings from misfortune, tragedy, trauma. Look at the Cross. It does not mean God planned the evil just that He planned to bring forth good to overcome it.
 
You are confusing the term “God’s plan” with God’s grace or permissive will. Etc. To say it’s God’s 0lan that a woman gets raped is blaspheme at worst, and a poor choice of words at best. Same with other sins. God does not will that a teen gets pregnant on prom night, God does not will that a person cheats in a spouse, God does not will that a couple uses birth control, but God can allow and bring something holy (a child) out of any circumstance.
 
The poster who said Catholics needed to be aware that breastfeeding easily spaces out kids 2-3 years.
 
depend of the circunstances of every couple, the standards of bresatfeeding, and the woman physiology, but that’s not necessary false. 2-3 years can be a natural gap.
And agree or not it is out of dabate that breastfeeding have space more births than anyring else wordwide than anything else.

Yet, not the topic of this thread.
 
Anicette said:
depend of the circunstances of every couple, the standards of bresatfeeding, and the woman physiology, but that’s not necessary false. 2-3 years can be a natural gap.
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It can be but if I really could not afford a baby/pregnancy I wouldn’t rely on it.
 
Of course. But when the previous poster suggests all woman can space children out and that catholics should teach this as part of NFP it becomes problematic.
Becuase it simply doesn’t work for many women.
 
Of course many of our friends with Irish twins who breastfed would disagree…
 
what can teach by Cathlics institutions that are concerned are the conditions WHEN breastfeeding space children. Not that breastfeeding space children in general.
 
Breastfeeding on demand does not prevent pregnancy. There is not some magic formula to alter ovulation.

Women in my family begin ovulation within weeks of pregnancy despite feeding on demand.
So I’m not sure exactly what they could actually teach.
 
My only two biological children are Irish twins (10-1/2 months apart!) and I am still nursing both of them. Hopeful for at least one or two more babies but at my age and fertility history it is very unlikely.
 
Hello Firefly!
Bless you in your generous and loving approach to life, I have great respect for you.
Firefly1 said:
want to be the mom who is there for her kids. Who isn’t constantly frazzled and on edge. I don’t want to run out of patience every day. I don’t want to dismiss my child’s need for compassion, guidance, or love (or discipline) because I am too exhausted.
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What mom, even a mom of one or two, does not constantly run out of patience? Lol
Both you and your child are learning and growing in patience and discipline from each other. And I want to remind you that your children learn and grow from each other, too. Your children teach each other many virtuous and positive things that perhaps you might not be able to. Don’t put the pressure on yourself that you have to be absolutely everything to your child. Enlist help, delegate, and enter into the support and community of other moms and family. Reach out, don’t fall into the temptation of thinking you’re alone in this and turn in on yourself in despair. People love babies, they love helping families, and this struggle connects you with others in solidarity. Although, this is yours and your husband’s personal decision, and there is absolutely no shame in either decision you choose, though both of them will require hardship and discipline because you desire the cross. And that deserves my honor and respect to you. But I think a period of rest and fasting is very healthy for everyone. God bless you! 🙂
 
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Hats of to you OP. Me and DH are seriously conflicted about baby number one never mind seven. I just know that God will be there for you and I am praying for your family 🙂 xx
 
Thanks! Yes, I did. Kids are a lot of work, but they’re rather cool.
 
I am a bit worried as I am still really worrying about it, getting a little older and still not broody at all. Came off birth control when I converted. Myself and Husband full of doubt and he’s not even catholic. Scary times! 🙂
 
You’re in my prayers, halogirl. Keep getting back up, our Father is merciful and all your efforts are looked on with gratitude.
 
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That was straight from Him to me via you. Wow! Thank you daisy how can I pray for you ? Xx
 
I really think that you should get rid of all voices in your head that are not the Church, or your own WELL FORMED conscience. That includes your mom (and I think the Pope as well) This is a situation where you are Co- creating with God. If you choose to try to not have more, the only way you can do that is with conservative NFP. And that is not fun. One thing I’ve noticed is that the more serious the reasons to avoid the easier NFP is… LOL.

NFP is a church approved way to space children. It may or may not work for you. For my wife and I who have very grave and serious reasons to avoid conception, NFP was impossible to reconcile with our marriage and our personal faith. So, even under the most serious circumstances it was not the route we felt called to take. I wish for you to have a wonderful pregnancy and delivery. I pray you have the strength to not only have this child without complications but also to be able to find the strength and grace to be the mom and wife you are called to be! Also, pray for my family as well. We too have similar challenges and fears. Pray for my wife, that she may deliver safely! This is an extremely complicated pregnancy. As were the last two. So any prayers are appreciated!

Also, know that although I can never know your pain and suffering, I too know what it is like to have 6 kids and stay home and clean and educate (we homeschool) Two of my kids are in speech and development therapy and my second born was special needs for 5 years… So yeah, I get it…
But every day I wake with the absolute astonishment that I live this blessed life. Even if the stench of dirty diapers drifts up from under my kid’s door instead of the smell of bacon cooking…
 
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