Experience some last-minute resistance before being Catholic

[pianistclare]

You have to take hold of your own formation.
If your RCIA class is not true to the Magisterium, then you must seek out another.
I just read what you say your Deacon said to you.
I have real doubts about that, but if he indeed did say all those things…
Find another parish.

 

[gracepoole]

You dismiss my concerns as ridiculous, and say the Sacraments should outweigh all of this.

But I hope you don’t underestimate how paramount of an issue the wife search is for me and the helplessness I feel sometimes, because I feel I’m doing the best I can and still failing. The other day, another woman rejected me, and my desire to turn to Catholicism may be a small part of it (she doesn’t care for organized religion and says the church is full of hypocrites, which isn’t false).

I am very concerned that conversion will severely reduce my dating pool, and if rejections continue, I may have to turn away from the faith to find my wife.

To put it bluntly, I want children, and I want a mother for my children, what can I say.

This is why I have my concerns about the lack of community in a Catholic parish.

And I’ve checked out Catholic Match. There are quite a few attractive women, but very few within 50 miles of me…

It’s nice that you want a wife and children. You seem to ignore the fact, however, that God may not call you to marriage and fatherhood. If you don’t allow for this possibility, you’re subverting His will in favor of your own.

All you have to do is check out all the CAF posts about the Synod last fall. People are honestly convinced, secular and Catholic, that Francis is gonna change the Church teaching on divorce and remarriage.

There is already a heap of confusion (“Who am I to judge?”), and if Francis changes Church teaching, it will only fuel the fire of the Protestant churches. (“See, the Catholic Church isn’t the original after all!”)

The big lovers and supporters of Francis are the liberals who want to see Church teaching changed. No doubt about it. Catholic liberals demonize Benedict.

I’m concerned I’ll be joining a confused church.

The Church is not confused. From what you’ve described above, some of its followers are. Big difference. I’m genuinely surprised that this difference isn’t extremely obvious to you.

I feel like I would be entering a Church that is in shambles, whereas the Protestants are thriving and doing much more to put Christ’s teachings into practice all around the world. This, despite them not having the doctrinal fullness of the truth.

Good grief. If you really think the Catholic Church is “in shambles,” (for the third time) what are you doing here? Your constant need to position Catholicism as second to Protestantism reveals a shocking lack of understanding regarding both, both in history and beliefs.

Gracepoole, do you honestly believe that taking the Sacraments, with no other interaction with the community of believers, will lead you to a fulfilling spiritual life?

What are you talking about? Who here said such a thing? The best advice given to you about “community” in the Church is to make it. If you’re waiting for it all to be handed to you, you may be waiting a long time.

Maybe I’ll go parish hopping…

By all means. That advice was, after all, given to you quite a few posts back…

I am sorry to see that you’ve been banned. After all of this I can’t even say that you’ll see any of what folks here have shared post-banning. A shame.