CajunJoy, I’m sorry I must be missing your point. As for the twelve being men, yes. But, who was the essential apostle to the apostles, the one upon whom the proclamation of the Gospel rests? A woman! There is foundational scriptural precedent for investing the authority to preach the Gospel to women, and for men in apostolic office to follow the direction of woman, because Jesus himself gave us this example.
Women as priests and married priests are two totally different things. The same concern you raise (how could a priest serve the church AND be a devoted spouse and parent) is already asked with respect to men. And personally in either hypothetical scenario I would probably not prefer it but be thankful to even have a priest.
You also raised a different issue altogether about support and authority. I have no problem with women as managers, CEOs, governors, prime ministers, queen. I would have no problem with women as administrators and “executives” in the Church. I guess I just wasn’t raised that way and I don’t get why I should discredit my own gender.