Hi Liza. She applied for an extended visa using me as a sponsor. Big long process (ugh). She will be able to stay long enough for us to get married. When we do it’ll make it a lot easier for her to get residency status. I’ve heard horror stories even when people are married though. It’s worth it though
Your example is not to be followed as a good and holy one. It sounds like it was scandalous, and it could have been a violation of the 5th Commandment – more info from the Catechism, #2284-2287.
I would advise you to either: Get married ASAP, while NOT living together OR wait to get married and still, NOT live together. I know, it’s cheaper to shack up, but so not worth it! Long-term, you risk a lot - like the relationship itself.
and I don’t think I could maroon her to their house (even though it would be funny ). Maybe with the speeding up of the marriage prep I would request from the priest with the combination of me staying at my families I can get avoid cohabitation. It makes things heck of alot harder but I guess the way to heaven isnt easy 
She loves me but thinks I do weird things sometimes for my religion. She’s going to have a field day with this one! HahaI cannot recommend enough going to the forum on this site - it was priceless to me when trying to navigate the immigration process: www.visajourney.comHi Liza. She applied for an extended visa using me as a sponsor. Big long process (ugh). She will be able to stay long enough for us to get married. When we do it’ll make it a lot easier for her to get residency status. I’ve heard horror stories even when people are married though. It’s worth it though
No, the way to Heaven isn’t easy. But if it were, you wouldn’t be fit for Heaven when you get there, because “nothing unclean can enter Heaven”.It makes things heck of alot harder but I guess the way to heaven isnt easy
In all fairness though, she’s almost there; as Lutherans are as close as one can get to “Catholic without the Pope” (depends on the branch of Lutheranism though).
How so? I was under the impression that there are some pretty irreconcilable differences between the two. Some Lutherans don’t even believe Catholics are Christians at all.
While reunification with Lutheran churches is not possible as it is with the Eastern churches, the bar keeping a Lutheran from fully embracing the Catholic faith is much lower than with other Protestants. Lutherans have a liturgical form of worship and similar theology. For many of them, it is as simple as asking the question, “Why aren’t I Catholic?”
Some of this depends too on what sort of Lutheran one is. I understand that there are different types. Some closer to Catholicism than others.
The OP stated this:
so it’s pretty safe to assume that having sex for this couple is likely.
Not that I think I was right to do this, but I lived with my now husband for nearly 2 years before marriage without having sex. I agree it is a risky situation and generally ill advised, but it isn’t necessarily a “sentence” to premarital sex.
People get shot in the head and 5% survive. Those who survive suffer lasting neurological problems.
Talk with your priest about the situation. He will give you guidence.
I wasn’t advocating, I was responding to your comment that suggested that cohabitating would definitely lead to sex, which isn’t always the case. If a couple is commited to chastity, but are put in a situation of living together, they can choose not to have sex. Obviously most cohabitating couples do have sex, but most of the time that was part of the intent of living together to begin with, and most of the time they are already having sex when they move in together. Again I agree it is generally a bad idea, but I am proof that a couple can live together without having sex.
Your proof could be proof of scandal. The more you hold up yourself (and others) as an example on how you were able to do it (even without doing it), the more you go against Church teaching on cohabitating. It’s not just a bad idea; it is ruinous one and one that is absolutely contrary to chasity and Catholic morality. Is this not clear?
I’m not holding myself up or advocating cohabitation. I’m just saying that it is not humanly impossible to live together without having sex. Additionally, scandal is something that leads another to sin, not merely something that makes others think you might be sinning. The term is often misused. In biblical times, the betrothed husband often lived with the wife’s family before their marriage. I understand it is not the same thing as modern cohabitation so no need for you to point out the difference. Modern couples spend a lot of alone time together as it is generally whether or not they live together.
It seems you don’t understand the gravity of giving scandal. If someone does something that causes another to sin, they themselves sin.