First Communion Questions?

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I’m sorry, I thought the mom was putting it on you. My Aunt did that with one of her baby’s Baptisms. She insisted that my Grandmother finance it.

Good for you. Make it pretty, not a prom!
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No problem. In a way, she was trying to get me to foot an extravaganza, no doubt where she could take credit for everything. She was also trying to get me to purchase the dress at the retail outlet where she works.

The wine thing is a good idea, esp. the part about sipping and not slurping.

Burlington Coat Factory has some good buys,too. But I can’t see paying that much for a veil, when it’s a couple pieces of tulle, a few fabric flowers and headband. When the time comes, it’s off to Michael’s and Hobby Lobby! Warm up the glue gun!👍
 
well now I have heard everything, just came back from our parent’s meeting, and carefully went over dress, modesty, reverence, no pictures or videos, all the rules and regs that are not in canon law, just DRE being difficult, and I got this question: can the little girls where make-up and what kind of make-up is appropriate?

am I nuts or just too old for this job?
 
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asquared:
well now I have heard everything, just came back from our parent’s meeting, and carefully went over dress, modesty, reverence, no pictures or videos, all the rules and regs that are not in canon law, just DRE being difficult, and I got this question: can the little girls where make-up and what kind of make-up is appropriate?

am I nuts or just too old for this job?
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:eek: Just answer, 'Sure if there are any over 18s making their First Communion! 👍

By the way, I was 18…and even I didn’t wear make-up that day 😃

Anna x
 
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asquared:
well now I have heard everything, just came back from our parent’s meeting, and carefully went over dress, modesty, reverence, no pictures or videos, all the rules and regs that are not in canon law, just DRE being difficult, and I got this question: can the little girls where make-up and what kind of make-up is appropriate?

am I nuts or just too old for this job?
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MAKE-UP?!?!

My girls are required to wear blue eyeshadow, red lipstick and blush for Polish Dance. I don’t like it EVEN then!

It’s not a pagent and these girls are not Jon Bennet-Ramsey.
God Bless you for your patience.
 
Did the parents who asked that question forget what this is that their daughter is receiving. It is not a circus, children who are 7yrs old should not be wearing make-up anyway. There will be plenty of time for that and occasions that can be worn. Say like their wedding!!!
 
Maureen Fiore:
Did the parents who asked that question forget what this is that their daughter is receiving. It is not a circus, children who are 7yrs old should not be wearing make-up anyway. There will be plenty of time for that and occasions that can be worn. Say like their wedding!!!
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I know the answer, it is because make-up makes them show up better in the video. DRE need merely point out that video is forbidden in church, so no make up will be needed.
 
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puzzleannie:
I know the answer, it is because make-up makes them show up better in the video. DRE need merely point out that video is forbidden in church, so no make up will be needed.
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But, the DRE already told the parents no videos so why ask a question like that unless you want your child to stand out.
 
Maureen Fiore:
But, the DRE already told the parents no videos so why ask a question like that unless you want your child to stand out.
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the parents hear only what they want to hear, I am sure they also blew off the exposition on the meaning of the sacrament and how to prepare your child for first communion in the other parent meetings (if they attended at all). their preoccupation with such things is a red flag for their attitude about the Mass and sacraments in general, and I guarantee this child will not be back in CCD next year, you won’t see her until time for quincenera and Confirmation, either at Mass or in CCD.
 
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puzzleannie:
the parents hear only what they want to hear, I am sure they also blew off the exposition on the meaning of the sacrament and how to prepare your child for first communion in the other parent meetings (if they attended at all). their preoccupation with such things is a red flag for their attitude about the Mass and sacraments in general, and I guarantee this child will not be back in CCD next year, you won’t see her until time for quincenera and Confirmation, either at Mass or in CCD.
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In mass yesterday the priest was giving his homily and told us how upsetting it is when he hears confession from teenagers who will be making their Confirmation. He said it was very sad to hear when the last time these teens made their last confession. Most of them stated it was since they recevied their First Holy Communion. So, it seems that parents must take responsibility and make their children attend mass after receiving Holy Communion and insist on them also go to Confession. Another important Sacrament.
 
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asquared:
well now I have heard everything, just came back from our parent’s meeting, and carefully went over dress, modesty, reverence, no pictures or videos, all the rules and regs that are not in canon law, just DRE being difficult, and I got this question: can the little girls where make-up and what kind of make-up is appropriate?

am I nuts or just too old for this job?
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:bigyikes: I’ve only been teaching First Communicants for a few years, but I have never heard this one!! It could be like puzzleannie said—for the video, which they’re not supposed to do—but, I do believe that there are parents out there who want to make their little girl look “prettier” for her First Communion “show”. The make up thing starts earlier and earlier. Unbelievable.
 
Giannawannabe said:
:bigyikes: I’ve only been teaching First Communicants for a few years, but I have never heard this one!! It could be like puzzleannie said—for the video, which they’re not supposed to do—but, I do believe that there are parents out there who want to make their little girl look “prettier” for her First Communion “show”. The make up thing starts earlier and earlier. Unbelievable.
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Unfortunately, makeup helps us as we get older, but little girls should stay little until atleast until they become teenagers. But, I always tell my teenager daughters not too much. You are going to school not clown school.
 
Maureen Fiore:
Unfortunately, makeup helps us as we get older, but little girls should stay little until atleast until they become teenagers. But, I always tell my teenager daughters not too much. You are going to school not clown school.
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Here in Britain most schools don’t allow make-up nor jewellery, not until college (16/17-year-olds)

But, I agree…ridiculous for parents to even think about putting make-up on a 7-year-old :mad: !

Anna x
 
confusedCath.:
I have a daughter who will be receiving her first communion this spring. She has a baby blue dress and vail picked out. Her grandmother is having a fit that it is not white…
What is the “rule” now a days? :confused:
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I don’t think there’s a formal rule, but it seems she may be a little out of place if all the other little girls will be wearing white. White is traditional and very pretty. You may want to consider it. But like I said, I don’t think it’s a formal rule…I’ve never seen a little girl wear anything but white though.

My dress was pretty traditional. My veil was a little crown with pearls on it. (most of the girls had that one, you could buy it at the school 😃 ) and the dress was from Sears, my mom said it was like $40. Which might have been a lot for 1991, I don’t know. My hair was in a french braid I think.
Some of the family came over for a little get together with sandwiches and stuff afterwards. No biggie. They tried to keep the focus on the sacrament as much as possible.
 
Pope John Paul wrote a beautiful piece on First Holy Communion Day. I think he could see what was sadly happening in the Church regarding this sublimest of Sacraments. I can’t remember a day when ALL of the little girls did not wear white dresses and white veils, nor would I ever like to see this tradition fade away.
Too many of the Churches traditons are already being done away with and this is one that needs to stay. My mom used to say “a constant drop wears away the hardest stone”
 
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puzzleannie:
since this thread is still active, and because of its title, may I offer some further advice to parents:

please practice at home with a wineglass that is somewhat heavy and feels like a chalice, and real wine, preferable red, dry, tart, nothing sweet, so your child knows what it tastes like, knows how to handle the cup, knows how to take just a sip, not a slurp.
eeeeewwww is not the proper response for receiving the precious Blood of Christ.
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I would have to disagree with tasting wine before receiving Precious Blood on First Holy Communion Day. It sounds sort of like “take the car for a test drive before you buy it” attitude that men talk about before marrying someone. I loved it when men spoke up and said “well I didn’t”.
If you think your child will be the type to pull a face etc, then instruct them to receive under the form of bread only until such times as they can receive Precious Blood without such a reaction.
Sometimes it is better to just wait for the real thing and this is one of them folks. I think it is a lousy idea to have implemented into the mandatory workshops etc for First Holy Communion. Infact there was nothing of any benefit to be learned at the workshops in our parish.Baking bread, making banners, prayer chains etc. I am so sick of the whole nonsense.
 
We had our parents’ meeting last night for First Communion. It looks like I’ll be getting my money’s worth on my daughter’s dress! First Communion is April 29, and she’ll get ot wear it again on May 1 for May crowning (she better not soil that dress at her party because there’s no time to get it to the cleaner’s and back). She be wearing it for a third time to the close of our 40 hours on May 22. Last year, Bishop Pilla had a special mass for the First Communicants on Pentecost. If that event is held again, we’ll do that, too.

The DRE doesn’t have a dress code. Since the girls will all be wearing different dresses, she’s not going to require the boys to dress the same. And she’s yet to see anyone dress inapropriately.

There will be no cameras or videos except for the videographer hired by the Church. She reached her limit a few years back when she had a father jump in with a camera when his kid was receiving.

Now I’m just trying to get our house in order for a party. I only have two months. And a two year old. I’m just going in circles…🙂
 
So sorry to hear that the DRE seems to be running things in your parish. I guess your Parish is still behind the times.

Thank God, we would not tolerate the DRE telling us what our children will wear in our Parish. We are all of the old school here and sticking with the beautiful tradition of the Church…white dresses and veils. How sad for your parish.
 
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Halo:
So sorry to hear that the DRE seems to be running things in your parish. I guess your Parish is still behind the times.

Thank God, we would not tolerate the DRE telling us what our children will wear in our Parish. We are all of the old school here and sticking with the beautiful tradition of the Church…white dresses and veils. How sad for your parish.
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The girls for the most part will be wearing white dresses and veils, but each dress will be unique. So, the boys won’t be required to be uniform in appearance, either. Some might be wearing a white suit, some a navy suit, and some khaki slcaks and navy sportcoat.

It is the DRE’s job to supervise these things, with consultation from the pastor. And although I find her a little flaky at times, I do think she does an excellent job.
 
About the Blue dress, I agree with a PP that siad she might not want to be the only girl not in white. I think white is traditional so it is what we are going with.

Does anybody have nice second hand stores in their town for Children’s clothes? My sister bought a beautiful white dress for my daughter (her Goddaughter) for $12.00 at one place. We are guessing it must have been worn to a wedding before. My only problem is that it doesn’t have sleeves, so I might have to sew up a little lace ballero jacket for her to wear that day. It doesn’t have spaghetti straps or anything, so I will ask our DRE if its acceptable.

Also, my MIL wants to take her shopping for all the rest of the stuff, I will let her know no sparkly tiaras. I remember I had a pearl bead tiara with the veil attached. A friend will just be using a pretty clip with the veil attached to it.

My daughter is so excited. Ever since she started Religious Ed in the 1st grade she has been asking when she can recieve the Eucharist. We will probably just go out to lunch at her fave restaurant that day.
 
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