You mean, i do not have to decide when someone (*) proposes some sexual activity towards me, whether i should decline due to it being an intrinsically evil act or whether it might one of the issues ok due to circumstances (in which case i should also make a quick evaluation of circumstances)?
Phoning my priest in such situation might irritate the one proposing, at least, probably making him/her even angry. And even discussing such issues with a priest afterwards might make him/her angry, since potentially he/she considers this details to be none of the priest’s business; discussing such things with priest without that partner knowing does not feel like gold standard of conduct.
And in case i agreed to the proposal and screw up my confession schedule, i do not have to then ponder prior/at beginning of mass whether i should present myself for communion?
And if you suggest, i just should go along whatever is ok according to my bishop, does that mean the standard of the most “liberal” priest under that bishop should be applied (anyone can go to communion anytime, even non-catholics, hence i should not mind the issue and present myself to communion) - or the least “liberal” priest (in which case “screw up my confession schedule” is sufficient to refrain from communion, i think, as it would be playing safe, which doesn’t hurt, even if i did not sin)?
Ever thought that some people in certain situations have to make decisions fully knowing they are somewhat “critical” without being able to discuss issues with pries and therefore prefer clarity to have a better foundation to decide upon?
- insert husband/wife, remarried husband/wife, non-married; the problem does not change, as long as there aren’t intrinsical evil acts, because if there is no intrinsic evil act the sin will depend on the situation and potentially even non-married might be ok; just like husband/wife proposing to use condom has to be somehow decided; and coincidentally, whether there are intrinsic evil acts, which is relevant for such decisions, is one of the dubias asked.
I cannot exclude that i will end up in a situation in which the answer of the dubias will be for me personally relevant in a decision for which i cannot phone a priest to help me sort things out.
(Note, currently i presume that absolutely nothing changed whatsoever; but that presumption does not add up much with the dubias not being answered)