Friend getting an abortion on friday, need help ASAP!

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ok so heres the deal, my friend, 27 years old, has one daughter with ex boyfriend, beautiful little girl…

she just got her degree, but wants to work on her Bachelors…in other words shes ‘got school and a future’ to look forward to right now…

she just found out shes pregnant. her and her boyfriend just had a recent split, so, theres a possiblity it may be someone else’s. her boyfriend said he’ll anti up the 600 for the abortion, but doesnt want to be tied down to her or a kid…

she has one scheduled for friday…

i’ve already hit her with all kinds of ‘what about the babys future’ and ‘you knew what you were doing when you had unprotected sex’…and thats ‘your baby so what if he doesnt stick around’…and ‘what if something goes wrong and you cant have babies anymore?? what if this is the last gift God has for you, and you kill it??’

but, im not sure its working…shes too worried about the fact that she’d have 2 kids from different guys, and doesnt want to look bad…and shes got her school…etc…

im dying…someone send me some links, personal stories…anything i can bombard her with please…
 
Charlotte408 said:
ok so heres the deal, my friend, 27 years old, has one daughter with ex boyfriend, beautiful little girl…

she just got her degree, but wants to work on her Bachelors…in other words shes ‘got school and a future’ to look forward to right now…

she just found out shes pregnant. her and her boyfriend just had a recent split, so, theres a possiblity it may be someone else’s. her boyfriend said he’ll anti up the 600 for the abortion, but doesnt want to be tied down to her or a kid…

she has one scheduled for friday…

i’ve already hit her with all kinds of ‘what about the babys future’ and ‘you knew what you were doing when you had unprotected sex’…and thats ‘your baby so what if he doesnt stick around’…and ‘what if something goes wrong and you cant have babies anymore?? what if this is the last gift God has for you, and you kill it??’

but, im not sure its working…shes too worried about the fact that she’d have 2 kids from different guys, and doesnt want to look bad…and shes got her school…etc…

im dying…someone send me some links, personal stories…anything i can bombard her with please…
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My friend Pray and pray and pray. Siphon out the gas of her car, let the air out of tires, Steal her battery if you have to! J/k but seriously. call parents do something. Tell her that she will regret it. Tell her that when it is over she will have just committed murder and that child could have cured cancer or could have invented a new form transportation. That kid could have become a soldier and been the most influential soldier to ever exists. Tell her that if she has this abortion that she will not only have to deal with God, but the angel that was sent to be it’s guardian and our Mother Mary. Tell her that if she goes through with it, that because she harmed one of God’s little one’s that it would be better to tie a mill stone around her neck and jump into the ocean then to stand on judgment day.

And sometimes the hardest thing, is we have no control of people. they have free will and will do what they want. even though they will have to answer for it.
 
tell her that there are couples out there that aren’t able to have children that would be so happy to adopt her unborn child.

Find information on the physical & mental after abortion affects like depression and infertility and premature births being more likely in future pregnancies.

Look up Silent No More stories from women who regret their abortions.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
Ask her the following questions:
  1. Does the abortionist have malpractice insurance? Many do not. Many have their property in their wive’s names to protect themselves from malpractice suits.
  2. Does he have hospital admitting privileges? Again, many do not. That means if they have an mishap, they have to call an ambulance (or usually a taxi, so it’s not identified) and take the patient to an ER, where there’s a wait. REAL doctors have told horror stories about seeing the victims of the abortatoria several times a week in the ER.
  3. Is he board certified in OBGYN? Most are not. Abortuaries will try to hide this by saying things like, “Our doctors are licensed OBGYN doctors”–which to the unintiated sounds like “board certified”. It’s not.
  4. Is the abortionist an employee of the clinic, or is he working as an “independent contractor”? This is one way the chop shops protect themselves from malpractice suits. “Oh, we’re not responsible. It’s the doctor’s fault!”
  5. Many chop shops demand payment in cash in advance, and the abortionists are paid in cash at the end of the day. And they are notorious about NOT keeping records of abortions.
  6. A nationally-known clinic in one city was cited for having rats and roaches in their procedure rooms and reusing disposable plastic cannulas.
Aren’t all these standards worthy of the best of the back alleys?
 
What if you remind her that pregnancy is temporary and abortion is permanent. I know it sounds simple, but sometimes people don’t think that way. As far as other people are concerned couldn’t she just say that she is carrying this child for a couple who could not concieve? If she will make an adoption plan then she is being absolutely honest with that statement. There is the possiblility of an open adoption. But whether she opts for an open or closed adoption, there is hope for a relationship with the child at some point in her life. Abortion kills all hope. I will pray for her and her children (all of them, born and unborn).
 
Have her go to this website -

www.passboards.org and have her sign up. It’s not Catholic, but it will open her eyes. It’s a forum for women to go who are suffering from PASS (Post Abortion Stress Syndrome) which I think just about EVERY woman who has ever had an abortion will endure. She will read testimony after testimony from women who deeply, painfully regret their decision.

And pray.

May God be with her and her unborn child.
 
Charlotte408 said:
but, im not sure its working…shes too worried about the fact that she’d have 2 kids from different guys, and doesnt want to look bad…and shes got her school…etc…
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How about asking her this: You would kill your child to preserve your IMAGE?!

Maybe if she doesn’t want to get looked down upon for having kids by different guys… um, she should stop sleeping with all of them? If there is a possibility it could be someone else’s, she’s already had sex with at least three different men just in the time it took her to earn an Associate’s Degree. Normally, I hate this snide question, but hasn’t she figured out what causes this?
 
One more thing - if she is still convinced that she can not raise another child (even though she can!) - please encourage her to seek out adoption information!

There are so many wonderful parents out there who would absolutely love to raise her child. And if she thinks giving a child up for adoption would be more painful than aborting one - she is dead wrong.
 
MTV ran a series called “16 and Pregnant.” The season finale was a young couple who gave their child up for adoption. I was crying that whole hour. It was so powerful. Those kids were so full of love and wisdom… they really died to self and served their child.

See if you can find the episode on YouTube or Hulu or somewhere. If those young teenagers, who really had cruddy upbringings and no support, no resources for what they did other than the adoption agent, could get through all that pain and do the right thing for their child, then a 27 year old adult can do it!

Edit: found it! joost.com/0781s35i/t/16-and-Pregnant-Ep-6-Catelynn#id=0781s35i
 
Charlotte this is so sad! Please, as the others said, try and convince her to go to a pregnancy center with you. Tell her she doesn’t have to agree to not have the abortion, she just has to go with you and see what they say to her. Go someplace where they can show her an ultra sound, this might change her heart.
If she is worried about answering to people why she has two children from two different fathers, ask her why she doesn’t worry about answering to God about why she killed her child. Who cares what people think – people will get over it. Most people have done worse, and if they insist on shaming her then they probably have some of their own guilt they are hung up on.

Visit the priests for life website, priestsforlife.org. They have photos on their webpage of aborted babies – as well as footage from inside abortion clinics showing fetuses in Tupperware containers stacked onto of each other. Show here these images. Show her what abortion really is.

I will commit a rosary to this today.

Keep us updated!!
 
I would tell her about an open adoption plan.

How far along is she?
 
Tell her-
  1. I am there for you. I will support you emotionally. I don’t judge you. “What people think” is all you can see right now, but what is hidden from you and what is most important for the rest of your life (if you have this child) is that the you will be filled with so much love for your child the way she/he came into this world won’t ever, ever matter. When your baby goes to kindergarten, your baby’s paternity and being born out of wedlock won’t matter. You will love your baby so deeply you won’t be able to imagine a life without the child.
  2. Adding a child to a family is not nearly as hard as going from no children to being a mother. You are a good mother to one, you will be a good mother to two. You will be ok-- you can still finish your degree. You can get a job. You will probably find having two instead of one isn’t so much harder
  3. Jesus loves this baby without spot or blemish. Jesus loves you and wants you to be reconciled to Him. Jesus will take your family into His arms and accept you. How can you deny the love of Christ because of the judgement of men? Doesn’t their judgement pale when compared to that love?
Tell her to please imagine her child’s face and respond in love, not fear.
 
More prayer and more action.

Never underestimate the power of prayer.

More action. I think it is www.abortionNo.org that has the photos of what a baby shredded really looks like. Perhaps, your friend could benefit from such an education. Let’s get abortion out of the abstract.

Also, do not despair. Some abortion bound mothers do turn back from death at the last moment. That is why the abortion industry so vociferously hates sidewalk counselors. When lives are saved and mothers spared the horros of abortion, the abortion industry loses profits.
 
ok so…i talked to her…sent her an email with all those links and numbers that you guys gave me…we’ll see…

shes crazy…i just cant even relate…and it hurts my heart so bad to think that she could even think about doing this…ooooh…whewwww…

she just got her degree…and wants to go for her BACH…and im like, you know, when i got pregnant, i didnt have ANYTHING…i was ESTACTIC when i got my own studio…

but her…shes already got one kid…shes got housing so she pays NADA for rent…she just got her degree…shoot girl shes got a 2 foot headstart already!! she can get a good job…finish up her BACH at her leisure…having a kid isnt going to ruin her life…

and as far as her having a kid by two different men i told her she shoulda thought about that when she had unprotected sex with two different men… but…you know…you’d think that’d be common sense…ugh…its just frustrating…i cant understand it…and i have to be honest if she does it i dont know if i can look at her the same way…

i told her what about other options??? what about adoption??

shes like, ‘oh no, i could never give my kid away’

WELL HECK girl you would rather KILL your child than have someone else raise it???

i dont understaaaand…

Lord grant me the serenity…

Grant me the serenity…

😦
 
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