You are starting to sound like a Bridezilla here
. You only have to go down to Michael’s or even Target and purchase one pack of print-them-yourself invitations and print fifteen out with the same words you have on your purchased-from-the-printer ones and mail them to the fifteen extra - that will only take maximum 4 hrs.
and you can get them out later than the rest! Your soon to be mil didn’t get them to you in a reasonable time and if you wish, since you are printing them yourself you can put a small note in small print at the bottom something like “I am sorry you are getting this so late but I did not get your name until two weeks ago” - your call on that one.
That of course doesn’t solve the problem of the possibility of the extra at the reception - hopefully you didn’t do a dinner and chose something more simple like finger sandwiches and crudetees - a little easier to add to and not so expensive either.
Of course all of this is only if you haven’t talked nicely to her explaining why this late in the game you can not invite these extra fifteen - like you need to purchase and make the extra fifteen meaning that those will go out later than the rest giving those guests less time to make plans, adding more people to the reception is costly too.
Brenda V.
She isn’t being a bridezilla at all. I can astound you with horror stories of bridezillas in my past. His mom was given a task : Names and addresses by X date. She not only did not get them to her on time, she added more people. She has probably told the caterers already that she has X amount of people invited, now she has to change it.
Having been in a bajillion weddings, and in 5 more this year to boot, I can tell you that planning this kind of thing for a shower is a lot of work. Getting names, addresses, of who the bride, her mother, and the grooms mother wants invited, while working with caterers, florists, and reception halls, is difficult and time consuming.
Adding people late in the game, after the invitations have been ordered, caterers estimates, seating arrangements, favors, etc, is rude. And sending out invitations, especially one’s that are different, looks sloppy. Add to the fact that when 98% percent of the individuals get a pretty professionally done invitation, and start talking at the reception about the beautiful invitations, someone is going to overhear it who got the cheeseball target ones. Yet another way to find out you were on the B list. Which, even if the intentions were good, comes across as “hey 10 people sent their regrets… thats like a thousand dollars in potential gifts we’re missing out on! Invite some more people STAT!!!”
I’ve been in weddings with 350 people invited. I’ve been in weddings were 100 people were invited. I can’t tell you how many times in the big weddings, I’ve asked the bride and groom who some people were and they had no clue. I hear something like It’s my mom’s manicurist. What the??? why invite them if you don’t know them?
She’s stressed out, and juggling a whole lot of things, and she wants the day to be perfect. It’s not a bridezilla tactic to ask for something to done in an appropriate amount of time, within the guidelines that were set. Think of it this way. You’re at work, your given a task to come up with a budget for a particular program by March 1st. On April 1st you hand your boss an almanac entry for the country of Ghana. Would your boss be a royal jerk if he was unhappy that you not only did not hand it in on time but then did something else entirely?
) and no problems or complications from the in-laws. My DD is very organized and started planning well in advance. Her now MIL was pleasant and easy-going to deal with and just went with the flow. That was truly a blessing! Careful planning (including enough time), knowing what the Bride & Groom want and expect is key. You also have to know what your financial budget is, too and if you and DH are footing the bill, make sure DD knows what that budget is. In the case of my DD wedding, DH & I paid for most everything but DD & her fiancee paid for the videographer and 1/2 of the Photographer. The Nuptial wedding was beautiful and emotional and the reception at the beach which is where the Bride & Groom wanted it to be was beautiful & perfect! It was worth it! Lot’s of wonderful memories. Another thing is that even though sometimes it was stressful between my DD and me during the planning, it was mostly a bonding time for us. I wouldn’t have missed it for the world!