I’m sorry, but I wasn’t aware that gay sex was illegal. I’m glad no cops caught me with my any of my girlfriends!!
In point of fact, gay sex has been legal in the US for a rather long while. In fact, the only state in which I know there was absolutely a law making gay sex illegal was my home state of Texas (and the law, btw, stated that anal sex between two men, anal sex between a man and a woman, oral sex between two men, and oral sex between a man and a woman were illegal, but did not mention anything about sex of any sort between two women!), and that law was overturned and eliminated by the United States Supreme Court years ago.
Legalizing Gay Marriage is not about legalizing Gay Sex. It is about providing us with ALL of the rights that a heterosexual couple currently is able to obtain. Yes, there are ways to obtain a few of those rights. However, if I leave all my belongings to a woman I am romantically involved with, any family I have can easily break the will on the grounds that there is no relation whatsoever to the woman. I cannot leave any sort of pension or other such thing to help her after I die, the way a heterosexual couple can for each other. If my dad dies, my mum will continue to receive money from the government/military because my dad is a veteran, and the government/military will have no grounds whatsoever for denying her that money.
None of that has ANYTHING to do with religious doctrine.
I am, personally, not satisfied with the term Civil Union because it carries a connotation of difference, of inequality. The term “Marriage” is not an inherently religious term. The term literally means “Two becoming one” and is by no means limited to any single religious concept, nor is it bound absolutely to religion, or are you going to demand that hetero marriages performed by a JoP for an athiestic couple be made illegal as well?
The arguments going on over “marriage” vs “civil union” are purely semantic because the side the government actually has ANY control over is identical in both cases. And, just because a couple is legally married does not mean the Church is required to recognize it as a holy union between that couple.
See, my friends (straight, gay, bi, etc) and I all want this particular thing from the US Government: We want the Government to federally authorize homosexual marriage contracts with all the exact same rights as heterosexual couples, while continuing to grant every Church in the US the right to choose for itself whether or not it will permit the ceremonies to be performed by their clergy in their churches. Just as the Catholic Church is allowed to decide whether or not to allow X Heterosexual Couple to have their ceremony performed by a Catholic Priest(?) in a Catholic Church, it will be up to the Catholic Church to decide whether or not to perform a ceremony for X Homosexual Couple or allow it in their facilities.
This will accomplish both the granting of the secular rights we desire while also maintaining the freedom of religion that our nation is so proud of.