Gay Uncle's "marriage"

[La_Chiara]

sbcoral:

Alright, I’ve changed my mind. Absolutely ignore the wedding, Sandy. He’s gay, for crying out loud. Why would you want to associate with such a sinner? You, yourself, can look forward to eternal happiness in Heaven, while he no doubt will be burning in the fires of Gehenna for all eternity because of his gayness and most certainly because of this Satanic “wedding.” I would cut ties with such a person, pronto. You need to look out for #1, and, like Jesus did, avoid the sinner. Because it is we who are responsible for judging people as good or bad, not God, and your uncle is clearly a bad, bad man.

Are you Catholic–with a capital “c”? Clearly, you need some more formation in our Catholic faith. And please find and read the moderator’s “sticky” dealing with sarcasm (Is Sarcasm Charitable?). God bless.

 

[sbcoral]

La Chiara:

Are you Catholic–with a capital “c”? Clearly, you need some more formation in our Catholic faith. And please find and read the moderator’s “sticky” dealing with sarcasm (Is Sarcasm Charitable?). God bless.

I am Catholic. I apologize for the sarcasm. I just think it would be a real shame if self-righteousness gets in the way of the real love the original poster seems to feel for her uncle. The wedding is still going to happen if she ignores it, and the eternal fate of her uncle is not likely going to change. I generally think we should love everyone, even sinners, and it would be an act of love to attend the ceremony, even if deep down she doesn’t “approve” of the event. Is a gay civil wedding a sin, anyway? Isn’t it the homosexual act that we as Catholics consider sinful? Maybe her uncle just wants to show his love for his ill partner by the marriage, and maybe no gay sex is planned. Who knows.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

fix:

I think you are way off base. The OP said there would be a ceremony attempting to join two homosexuals into a fax marriage and a reception to celebrate the faux union. I will judge such an event all day long. It is immoral. I do not know all the facts, I know what the poster posted. I am calling a spade a spade. Too bad our society has lost its moorings and we think we need to be silent in the face of patent immorality. Give me a break…

I agree. If you’re going to judge the event all day long, you should definitely stay home. You won’t be fooling anyone.

I am not advocating being silent. Jesus wasn’t silent. He called a sin a sin, and called all away from sin. But he did so with compassion, without throwing stones. That’s the fine line we tread. Nevertheless, I would rather Christianity not be so “moored” that it never leaves port. That, after all, is what ships are made for. Otherwise, you may as well just throw it in and pack the old girl into dry dock.

Again, I think that talking to the uncle and explaining the fix the OP is in is no more than he deserves. She does want to preserve the relationship. He is her uncle and is in many (if not most) ways an admirable person to whose generosity she is in debt. He sounds very much as if he is mature enough to handle such a conversation. That way, she can stay home in love or attend in love, whereever that guides her.

 

[fix]

BLB_Oregon:

I agree. If you’re going to judge the event all day long, you should definitely stay home. You won’t be fooling anyone.

I am not advocating being silent. Jesus wasn’t silent. He called a sin a sin, and called all away from sin. But he did so with compassion, without throwing stones. That’s the fine line we tread. Nevertheless, I would rather Christianity not be so “moored” that it never leaves port. That, after all, is what ships are made for. Otherwise, you may as well just throw it in and pack the old girl into dry dock.

Again, I think that talking to the uncle and explaining the fix the OP is in is no more than he deserves. She does want to preserve the relationship. He is her uncle and is in many (if not most) ways an admirable person to whose generosity she is in debt. He sounds very much as if he is mature enough to handle such a conversation. That way, she can stay home in love or attend in love, whereever that guides her.

No one is advocating throwing stones. I can’t see how one can attend “in love” an event that is publicly proclaiming an anti Christian message. Maintaining the relationship is fine.
Giving public support to an immoral event is not fine. We have lost the concept of scandal.

 

[fix]

sbcoral:

I am Catholic. I apologize for the sarcasm. I just think it would be a real shame if self-righteousness gets in the way of the real love the original poster seems to feel for her uncle. The wedding is still going to happen if she ignores it, and the eternal fate of her uncle is not likely going to change. I generally think we should love everyone, even sinners, and it would be an act of love to attend the ceremony, even if deep down she doesn’t “approve” of the event. Is a gay civil wedding a sin, anyway? Isn’t it the homosexual act that we as Catholics consider sinful? Maybe her uncle just wants to show his love for his ill partner by the marriage, and maybe no gay sex is planned. Who knows.

The Vatican has condemned so called gay weddings. Are you proposing that Catholics should accept such a notion, civil or otherwise?

 

[fix]

sbcoral:

Huh? Don’t use those big phrases to describe me. All I am is a sin-hater. I hate, hate, hate sin in all its wily guises, and there few sins I can think of worse than for an elderly man to marry a younger person of the same gender infected with HIV. Just like you, fix, I will judge such an event all day long. I judge it wrong.

He is not “marrying” anyone. It is a faux union.

 

[Anne_Carmel]

Thank you for the helpful posts.

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